I thought you couldn't get hurt when you were friends with benefits. ?

Question

i was constantly getting screwed over in my past relationships and i was sick of getting hurt.. so i decided to try out "friends with benefits" with this one guy.. we were totally cool and everything and then he told me that he wanted to take things more seriously. which i agreed to and then he just ended up s******g me over.

now there's this new guy that likes me so should i date him or just "friends with benefits".. idk what to do.. i just don't want to get screwed over and it seems like every time i start to take things seriously with a guy i get hurt.

Answer 1

sounds like you've just had bad luck in the guys that you choose.

if you're really not wanting a relationship now, then stick with your plans of friends with benefits (which shouldnt be hard for guys, really)

you should probably explain to this guy your past relationships and see if he strives to change for the better.

Answer 2

Friends with benefits never works for long periods of time. Some one ALWAYS ends up getting feelings! In my case, it ended up well. My ''friend with benefits'' turned out to be the man I am marrying in 7 weeks time. We have been together for almost 6years. Don't lose hope. There are decent guys out there. Not all of them are nasty

Answer 3

remember friends only make friends to s***w thats s*x /life

Answer 4

Friends with Benefits is just a nicer sounding way of say Booty Buddies.  Eventually someone is going to feel used, when the other person finds a steady relationship.  Believe me I have seen it hurt too many people.  It is better to be in a relationship that is caring and be hurt than in one where you lose your self esteem and get hurt.  At least you know that they actually cared about you and not just using you for s*x.

You need to leave a bit of mystery to your relationships.  It sounds to me that you jump into the relationship head first and give all of yourself.  that would be great except that if you don't take your time, you may be giving the wrong person all of that devotion and love.  Try taking the relationship slowly, and don't tell all of your feelings at once.  Give him a little info at a time, and be somewhat coy until you know for sure that he truly loves you.

It is a known fact that most men love a woman that lures him in little by little, and is very confident.

Answer 5

first of all i'm sorry for the hurt you have from that man s******g you over. i know the feeling.

well something i live by..is "you don't want to go through life thinking: what if?"

something else i live by is "it is, what it is."

i think if i were in your situation i would start seeing the guy who likes me. don't get too serious until you start really feeling things for him. if he likes you he must have some feelings for you and would like to be more than friends with benefits. i wouldn't say anything to him about it. he could be a real sweet guy and really like you for who you are. i would just take things slow...if he kisses you let him kiss you...try not to do anything else. if he respects you then he will wait for you for as long as it takes till you're comfortable.

EDIT**

would you want to go through life thinking "what if i did date that guy who liked me then...would i still be with him?"

and if you start seeing this guy..just on a "friends with benefits" type situation because you're not ready for a serious relationship..maybe over time it will turn serious and you two will really fall for each other. then "it is, what it is." i would just be careful with how many benefits you share with him if you don't think he's feeling you for other reasons.