I told my boyfriend I wanted a baby and he didn't say anything?

Question

He didn't say anything at all. I'm 19 and he's 23 and we've only been together a year. Do you think he would leave me because I told him? I know I couldn't financially support a baby yet and I just have baby fever and it will go away but I don't want him to be mad at me. Is there anything I should tell him?

Answer 1

you freaked him out.

you would freak me out too.

Answer 2

Tell him just that, you have baby fever and it will pass. Make sure he knows that you are not trying to have a baby right now. This will help the situation. Make sure that he knows there is no pressure on him for a child.

Answer 3

Yes. if i was a boy i would leave you. It's bad enough there's some commitment in the relationship. He's 23 you're 19 you guys are young you have your entire life ahead of you and then all of a sudden this "baby business" comes up. NO! he doesn't want that. His only focus is you not some drooby little kid. And if you know you cant finically support a child then why would even bring it up? Sweetheart please use your head. I am only 15 and i know how boys react. Call him and tell him to meet you somewhere i perfer you guys favorite place. Tell him what you meant to say "Can you see me and you being together with children" and if he doesn't respond just drop it. Do it now!!!! You better hope you're not too late. Hopefully i've helped out (=

Answer 4

Ask him seriously, and if he doesn't answer just be like 'Hello, this is important, can you please answer seriously, and not ignore me.' That might be the impression that he doesn't want a baby - sorry! But, you could try to persuade him. [ =

Answer 5

You should tell him exactly what you just wrote. "I know I couldn't financially support a baby yet and I just have baby fever and it will go away but I don't want him to be mad at me."

Answer 6

Tell him what you just said, you're not planning to have a baby RIGHT NOW but it'd be nice to think about it in the future.

If your boyfriend still doesn't talk much about it, maybe he's just not the sort to worry about the future and he'll worry about it when the time comes.

I would think most guys wouldn't want to have kids too early since supporting the mother AND child is going to of course require money so he'd want to be in a stable financial situation before considering having a family.

Answer 7

maybe instead of mentioning it, actually discuss it with him. as for now maybe explain that you just have baby fever.

:) good luck

Answer 8

first of all i think/feel you are too young at least have a good education and money first[ he is 23 he's just living a legal adult life meanig now he has the options and responsibility in life], one year together to me seems like very little time to know each other cause one day he can be in dumps and maybe one day he can be the richest guy in the world and not support you, most men that are fathers can't take the responsibility and this relationship you have with him not might last forever. you will miss out on lots of things by having children so young like not clubing, buying a nice but exspencive house, car, clothes,ect , having certain careers, and living life as a full adult when 21 [ THIS IS MY OPINION, some if this isn't factful]. i think in maybe mid-20's having children is ok you'll be exsperienced and know a since or hint of how your life is going to change since you want a child so young. having children is a mircle but it has strings attached, if you want to be a good and prepared mother you would need healthy foods for the baby [ not candy, tacos, ect], patience, doctors, money, home, diapers, flexability, insurance, vaccines, medications[if needed], clothes, education, activity/structure,ect and not for you, the baby...alone. think twice for the advice, oh and do you want to look nice, well with having children comes stretch marks[ hard to get rid of], extra skin[ most people do], weight gain[ some people eat when stressed],improper health[ stress usually makes people sleep to less or too much, not eat proper foods, less or no excirse, distress is not healthy, eustress is[ good stress] and your boyfriend was probably right to say no that choice was probably for both of you instead of you guys taking a risky, RISKY choice

Answer 9

maybe he feels like ur rushing it

Answer 10

Let's see, the dude doesn't want to marry you and is happy to just shack up and you want him to get excited about having a kid with you.  That is just so surprising. If he won't commit to you in marriage, what makes you think he wants to commit his life to you with a child?

Answer 11

well mayb he doenst want a baby

Answer 12

well him not answering isn't a bad thing he probably needs time to think aboutit. a babys a big deal. and him saying he wouldn't mind is his way of saying that hes not agianst the idea. You should probably let him think about it. Don't rush into anything if your not positve. And if he loves you he won't leave you just cuz you want a baby. its perfectly normal to want a baby. I just found out im gona be a dad. its alot to take in. but im excited. Best of luck and i hope this helps.

Answer 13

Dont rush it just wait until your relationship grows and you get finacaly ready

he wont leave if he really loves you he will understand if he does love you

Answer 14

I would be honest with him and just say "I hope you weren't taken back by what I said" And just say what you had just wrote to us. That your a women and we go through these baby fever times, but that you know your not financially ready for it yet.

Good luck hun, he was probably just taken back by it, not mad. Your time will come for lots of babies!! :)

Answer 15

I think you should get married before you start thinking about having a baby, plus if you are not financially stable, that would be extremely selfish to bring a baby into the world when you don't have enough money to support it and you and its father are shacking up and not married.