I told my therapist i'm a transsexual but he never wants to talk about it, should i leave him?

Question

He's a specialist in regards to transsexuals, he's even part of a team that do srs at a local hospital.

He seems to be more interested in my social phobia, which i happen to be sorting out fairly well without him.

He'll talk about the gender issues for 5min and the rest of the time he discusses other things.

It seems to be his session and not mine.

Should i ditch him and find another?

Answer 1

Before you ditch him, feel free to express what you've told us.  Be very candid.  You might ask him if there is a reason for what he is doing.

If you're not satisfied with his answer or if you see no change after that, then time to leave.

Answer 2

well, good for u for trying to sort out ur issues! thats a big step that most people refuse to take.

so, to answer ur question... i feel that u should see a therapist that delves into issues that u need help or guidance with. if u feel that its more his session than urs, u should definitely find a new therapist that caters to ur needs. ur paying good money and they should be working for u! ur need should always come first! good luck with everything! <3

Answer 3

Doesn't sound like much of a therapist.  He's using you as an ATM.

http://www.DrBecky.com/therapists.html

I think the best kind of therapy is patient centered.

edit: Call me sexist, but I prefer a female therapist.

Answer 4

There are support groups on-line for SA people.  I would suggest that you consider joining them.  Sorry that I don't have any links to them.

As for your therapist not wishing to discuss your Transsexualism, I would suggest that you ask him why he prefers you to talk about other things.

Had he not been a part of a team, I would have suggested dumping him, but it sounds like something else is going on.

A typical reason might be that you are too wrapped up in talking about them and not looking about the rest of your life.  I am sorry if this sounds harsh, I have seen it in some people and have been accused of it myself at times.

Take a look at doing something that has nothing to do with TS issues.  One suggestion might be to pick a hobby that you enjoy.  This will divert your mind and allow you to settle in your new wonderful life.

Something that gets you mixing with other people would be a good idea.  It does not have to be gender specific.  Photography is a good one.

Answer 5

If there are not many then it would be wise not to give up on him just yet. Let the therapist know your concerns and discuss with him what you want to get out of the sessions and try to understand his opinions. Therapists are supposed to help you get ready for the transition but that includes other issues too. If nothing else, let the therapist know that you want to devote an entire session to gender issues.