I trusted my sister now what?

Question

I trusted my sister and told her that I thought I was pregnant, and took a pregnancy test, she knew I am active with my fiance, (I am 17). She told my mother, (her fiance told me). My mom sat me and my fiance down and had a talk with us about how were young and she doesnt want us making any spur of the moment decisions..My mom hasnt said that my sister said anything to her. I have told my sister everything! I am so pissed at her...btw I am not pregnant...my sister has 4 kids and shes only 23 (had her first at 16),

What should I do? It feels like I cant trust anyone..I dont even want to see my sister or talk to her. How can I get over it..its not like I can change the fact that I told her anything, how do I just forget it, and I know not to trust her again.

Answer 1

if your old enough be married, ur old enough to have s*x!

Answer 2

well the only way you can trust someone is to test them tell a lie and see if they tell anyone that's what i do

Answer 3

just let it go and not speak to her...you need to have a clear head in letting this one go. from now on just try to keep your personal life between you and your fience'.

Answer 4

She's your older sister, she is looking out for you and she doesn't want you to get hurt. If you had a little sister and she told you she thought she was pregnant and to keep it a secret, if you had half a brain you would tell an adult. So really, your sister did you a favor. Please forgive her and quit being mad. Truly, she told because she loves you, what other reason would she have?

Answer 5

Well, I actually agree with your sister for telling your mother. If she had a child at 16 she obviously knows how difficult it is and is worried that you will have to go through the same or similar problems she did. I have no doubt that she was looking out for you because she wants you to be happy. She should talk to you and let you know how she loves her kids but it would have been I better if she had waited, I'm sure that's how she feels. You Really should wait I think, your only 18 and you need to live your own life a little more before you make another one. Plus at that age you can't be making very much money. I say enjoy your relationship, enjoy your wedding, worry about getting a job you love that pays well, and get a stable place to live, your probably just renting somewhere, right?  Is it really going to hurt to wait a little while? Just talk to your sister, I think she could really inform you and let you learn from her experience.

Answer 6

You shouldn't be so upset at your sister, its tough being a young parent sounds like she knows. You have to understand she just wants what is best for you. Being a teen parent is no fun, and a fiance at your age is ridiculous.

Think about your future how will you and your fiance support a child if you do get pregnant? Have you thought about going to college, getting a good paying job? You're young, and sorry if this upsets you but you just need time to grow we all thought we knew it all at your age. Do you want to follow in your sisters footsteps? Best of luck to you.

Answer 7

I know you must be angry- but your sister loves you and she did it because she obviously been there.. Your mom seems understanding since she had a talk with both of you as adults. TO be fair to all involved, your trust did not go out of the imediate circle. I guess she is feeling over protective of you as her younger sister... So take it from that prospective.. I have older sisters and till now even when I am married- they try to protect me.. It is a good thing you have someone like that around... Trust me down the line, you will tend to appreciate her...

Answer 8

The main problem you have here is you're looking at a one sided view. I've seen this happen a lot, my best friend's friend told someone she had bitched about them behind there back...it was a long story! Anyway, I said to her, "Wouldn't you want her to have told you if I had bitched about you behind your back? If you would, you can't really be angry with her, can you?" It's the same here. Look at it from your sister's point of view: her little sister is pregnant, she confided in her. She's sat there thinking, "What do I do now? Mum needs to know, she'll have to know sometime or another. Maybe it'll make it easier on my sister if I tell her for her so she doesn't have to?" I can completely understand how you're taking it, she's betrayed you. But she did it with you in mind. Don't look at it as 'I'm never going to speak to her again! I'll never see her, or ring her ever again!" Can you seriously imagine growing up until the end of her life, not talking because she told your mum you thought you were pregnant? Or she won't be at your wedding? It's silly isn't it? You need to take it slow, let her explain why she did it and work on it from there. It could of course all end with you two hugging, crying and apologising! I hope for your sake it does. It seems to me, you're making a bit of a mountain out of a molehill out of it all, so look at it for what it is and think whether it's worth it. :)

Answer 9

don't tell anyone secrets  that you don't want others to know.

always assume that the person you are telling a secret to will share it with one other person.

after this pregnancy scare, make efforts to protect yourself from future scares.  seeing that your sister started early, i think she was trying to protect you. she told your mom, so that  your mother can  give you advice.

i say forgive your sister.  she knows how hard it is to raise kids.

Answer 10

I think you are over-reacting. Your sister, having had her first baby at 16, probably didn't want you to make the same 'mistake' that she did. She is just looking out for you. You should be happy that she cares that much. Not freaking out because she told mommy. That right there is a great example of why she should be worried about you getting pregnant. It just seems really immature. She is just trying to keep you on the right track. Not go behind your back and hurt you. I would love to have an older sister who loved me like yours does.