I turn my head away when my husband goes to kiss me?

Question

I'm so confused, why dont I want to be intimate with my husband. I turn, or cringe my face when he goes to kiss, or hug me. We have been either arguing or not talking for a few weeks now. We have a 15 month old daughter and I can tell that its starting to affect her. I just dont know whats going on anymore. If anyone has any advice, I would to hear it. Thanks

Answer 1

IF YOU WANT HIM TO BE KISSING SOMEONE ELSE VERY SOON WHEN HE LEAVES YOU THEN KEEP IT UP GIRL!

YOU ARE DOING THIS OUT OF PAST HURT FROM HIM OR RESENTING HIM. SO DIVORCE HIM AND LET HIM LOVE ANOTHER OR SNAP OUT OF IT QUICK!!!!!!!

Answer 2

you have a baby and you're tired. Does he help you? If not than I'd think that is why. Tell him you want to go out on a date without the baby.

Or, go to counseling.

Answer 3

Its is a normal feeling

try and explain it to him

it goes away in three months

Answer 4

Seek medical and or psychiatric help. Sounds like post par-tumm depression...

It is an unhealthy experience for you and you are displacing this negativity to your entire family.

Our children absorb our strengths but they also absorb our negatives too...so it is up to us to teach by examples and not just talk...as being a hypocrit...

Please don't delay for you, your husband and your kid(s)!!!

Life is meant to enjoy and this, you are not doing.

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 5

Apparently you resent your husband for something. Do you still love him? Talk this out so the ordeal can be over.

Answer 6

It might be the baby.  With my first son I was nursing and holding him a lot and that was pretty much all the touching I could take.  It took a long while for me to want my husband to cuddle with me more than just every once in a while, like a couple of years.  I mostly had to approach him when I wanted hugs (though we kiss every day, even if it's just little ones) or wanted to snuggle.  It's been the same way with my second son who just turned a year.  I just feel like I need space.  It especially annoys me when he drapes his arm or leg across me.  I don't think it means I love him any less, just a phase in the marriage like anything else.  I knew I got over it with my first son, so I know I'll be back to my normal self with the second one and sad that the baby days are over.  Just ask your husband to be patient with you and follow your cues.  Plus I would try to resolve the argument.  I'm sure easier said than done, but that can't be helping the situation.

Answer 7

You definitely need to communicate with your husband and let him know how you feel because its not fair for him to be treated like this without an explaination. Do you love him? Do you feel differently towards him altogether or only when its intimate? Maybe you two have grown apart and this is the way your body is telling you. At any rate, its important to communicate with him always and let him know how you are feeling. Good luck!

Answer 8

You don't want to kiss him because really, who wants to kiss someone they always feel at war with?  You have to resolve the issues before you will have understanding of it.  

Answer 9

yep...I know the feeling... men don't get that for women (I speak for me and I think you at least) we cannot have arguements, issues with our guys and still show/ accept affection....they can keep them seperate...that is why for a lot of women s*x means love ....and for guys s*x means s*x...nothing else...

Answer 10

You are obviously not in love with your husband. The fire has died out. Sounds like you need to move on.