I used to be in playboy and now...?

Question

I am a 36 year old and because of some really foolish things I did in the past, some including being in playboy 16 years ago, I have earned a bad reputation. Few years ago, the word about my past got out and I became the **** over night. No one confronted my about these rumours but I was informed by a co-worker about their existence. At work where I work as a nurse, most people do not want to be associated with me. I have always denied everything to my family, but now feel that my family’s attitude changed – they don’t call or visit as much. Some people from work attend the same church as I, and they must have talked to others about me because I sometimes get these weird looks after mass (although it is a possibility, I doubt that it is just my imagination). To make matters worse, over a year ago, my husband left me and I am now a single mother. Needless to say I feel extremely vulnerable and have very little hope that I will be able to put my life together. This past year I tried really hard at fixing things. Aside from placing my daughter as my top priority, I go out of my way for people at work, I show care and compassion toward my family, I attend a bible study group and keep a very low profile trying not to attract attention to myself. I know I messed up and I do want to make things better so my daughter and I can have a good life. Is there still help for me, or is it too late? I really would appreciate some kind advice, no putdowns are necessary – trust me, I put myself down about this enough! Thank you for all who choose to comment.

Answer 1

I say s***w them if you are confident in who you are now that will go along way and I believe Jesus said "let him who is among you without sin cast the first stone." If you know who you are in God he will put people in your path that you can hang with.

Answer 2

You shouldn't put yourself down. Most of us make mistakes when we're young. I only 21, and have just got my life on track.

If things are really that bad, then you could always pack your bags, and make a new life for you and your daughter. I used to live in the UK, and I was in self-destruct mode. I moved to New Zealand 3 years ago, and got off to a rough start, but have managed to pull my life together. I am now married to an amazing man, and he is all that matters to me.

I am not a religious person myslef, but i think it can be hard living in a christian community with a past like that. For all the forgivness that people talk about, some people are very slow to forgive, or very stuck in their ways when it comes to having opinions of others.

My husband always says: "You can spend your life worrying about what others think of you, until you realise that they don't give a sht what you think of them."

Be proud of what you HAVE achieved in your life ~ like having a precious daughter. Don't let others bring you down.

All the best

Answer 3

It must be nice to have had a figure good enough to be in Playboy! You go girl. However, if you feel that you have made a mistake and you are trying to atone for it then more power to you!! "No one can make you feel inferior without Your consent." If your "churchy" friends are feeling so very pious and holier-than-thou maybe now would be a good time to remind them that Rahab was a harlot and she Saved the lives of some Very Important people. Not to mention Mary Magdelane who sat at the feet of Christ Jesus and heard teachings from his own lips! "let he who is without sin cast the first stone." You are doing the right thing. There is always "hope" for the future. You and your daughter will be fine. She should feel blessed to have a mother who cares so much about her. Don't put yourself down for mistakes that are in the past. forgive and forget. Good luck! God Bless

Answer 4

okay first off, you shouldnt feel bad for being a playboy bunny .I think the people that look down on you are just jealous of how beautiful you are (you would have to be beautiful to be a playboy bunny right?) or they have a stick up they're booties and are up tight people. So dont worry about theres the uptight people that always try to make you feel bad for doing something wrong in the past and never let go of it then there are the true people that matter in your life that wouldnt really care about you being a playboy bunny 16 years ago.

Answer 5

It's NEVER too late to turn  your life around.  Drug addicts and worse do it all the time, and posing in playboy is hardly as bad as all that.  

Sounds like you live in a pretty uptight community, maybe moving....or not worrying so much about what other people think.  It's not like you did anything wrong at all.

Best of luck to you!