I wana tell my best friend of 6 yrs I don't want to see her anymore...am I justified?

Question

Please read- for several years my parents have opened their home to her and I rarely went to her house. Even though my mom couldn't afford it she was welcome to come over almost everyday and eat her food and whatnot. She basically lived there. We (my family) are moving to england this is the first time we have asked a kinda big favor from her mother, our dog needs taking care of for a couple months before he is shipped, and she says no mainly for stupid reasons. I find that to be just so selfish I would be willing to help them in a heartbeat. I can't believe it, after all we have done for her, i know it's not my friends fault but I want to just say forget it, i don't wana see you anymore if you're mom can't help us out in a difficult time I want nothing to do with you. Am I justified in doing this? We are both 18 and we've been friends for many years but that just makes me so angry to the point I don't want a friendship with her. They can't do a favor for us.. Should I? If you think I should what do I say exactly? idk what to do..

Answer 1

thts hard, think it through, and listen to ur heart and gut

Answer 2

You have been friends for a long time so it seems silly to fall out over her obviously very ungrateful mother but I get the feeling from your story you have been frustrated at er for longer and resented the fact that she has used your home and you have never been to hers. Think is this over more? If yes then maybe it is time to end the relationship. But if it is only over this then think long and hard as moving to england is a big thing and you may need her support.

One last thing, if you are movig to england for good do you really think your friendship is strong enough o last, if not then stop worrying anyway because soon she will be out of your life and you cant get a much better excuse than moving to the other side of the world

Answer 3

Just Listen To What Your Heart Has To Say.

:) x

Answer 4

I can understand how you're feeling..however it's not your friends fault that her mother wont look after the dog...tell  her how surprised and disappointed you are that her mother could not do this thing for your family...don't give up on this friend as you have been friends for a long time now... as you go through your life you  will realise, good friends are hard to come by. Try not blame her for this , even though you are deeply hurt by her mothers selfishness...remember all the good times you  had with this friend ... Is there any possible there might be another friend or family member who might take care of the dog.

Answer 5

I think you should be honest with her about how angry you are AT HER MOTHER for not helping you and your family. That way you can release some of your frustration and you might be able to continue being friends. After time your anger will wear off. However if you don't say anything to your friend you will continue to feel frustrated and angry.

Answer 6

Sorry, but if she's been spending so much time at yours, that shows she doesn't have a good relationship with her own family/mother, doesn't it? Maybe she just can't persuade her mum to take in your dog. I don't think it's worth cutting off your friendship over...after all, you guys are going to be split up anyway when you come to UK...why make a "big break"? You will just have to see if there is any other relative/friend who will help you with your dog...

Answer 7

Don't punish her for her mom. You aren't a good friend if you do. I say the friendship should end only because you are willing to hurt her feelings and she needs a better friend.

Answer 8

Don't take your anger (and justifiably so) out on your friend, sweetie. Her Mum is being very ungrateful, especially when you are needing help right now. She is the one you should be really annoyed with. Your friend, can't be responsible for her mother's behaviour. Don't lose a good friend over this.

Can you get your dog kennelled for a while? Or contact your local vet to see if there is any help there.

Think of it this way, you don't want your dog with someone who is so obviously selfish. The likelihood is that your dog would not be happy with such a person.

And although I fully understand how you must feel, don't let the awful behaviour of your friend's mother spoil a good friendship.

xx