I wanna know something... General opinions mainly...?

Question

OK I know it's wrong for a minor to get with an "adult". But we all know it happens...

Why do parents want to punish the boy in the relationship knowing that it takes 2 to get dirty in the sheets. Their innocent precious little daughters aren't as innocent as they think and the guy doesn't deserve to have his life ruined becuase "THEY" made a bad mistake. If the girl was willing to crawl in the bed with him, she's willing to take the results of her actions I believe.

It just aggravates me when parents are I'm jailing him cause he slept with my daughter... Was your daughter willing?? If so what's that going to prove to her??

Answer 1

Its just the way the law works.  There HAS to be some sort of limits or 40 year old perverts would have free reign over teenagers (it goes both ways, it not just underaged girls and older men).  I don't necessarily agree with it either, but that's the way the world works.

Answer 2

i was 15 when i first did it with my 21 yr old boyfriend and i hated that everyone looked down on him because of that it was my choice too.

Its the whole protective act which i dont get, dads have probably been there had that done to them so why should they do it in return. Its ajoint decision no one forces. i chose to be with him i dont regret it and i have stuck up for him too to set people straight.

Answer 3

An adult dating a child, even if the *child* is willing, is still taking advantage of the child.  

Children are *willing* to do all kinds of things that they shouldn't be doing.  Adults are supposed to make responsible decisions & not take advantage of childish irresponsibility.

Edit to add: Knowing how reproduction works does not make a person mature, responsible or emotionally developed enough to make proper decisions for themselves.  I could teach my 8yo how a car works, that doesn't mean that he's ready to drive.  I could teach my 6yo how to write a mortgage check, that doesn't mean that she's mature enough to get her own house.

Answer 4

Thank you!!! I was wondering the same thing!!!

Answer 5

I"m going to get a HUGE thumbs down for this i'm sure because people can't accept that now days age isn't a concern for most people ( I know MANY people in my situation) anyway, just before i turned 17 I met my fiance, I had just been sexually abused my mother's ex-husband and I was starting to self destruct because my mom had found out and was pressing charges and I being questioned like crazy by the State Troopers.... I had moved in with a family friend (my mom's best friend) to get away from the town i was in and all the drama..... I fell in LOVE with her younger brother who is 11 years older than me, we were just friends and month shy of my 18th birthday things started getting serious.

We had to hide out relationship for about 6 months.  Anyway, my point is I CAME ON TO HIM. VERY STRONGLY.  Honestly the poor guy didn't have a chance!!  but I was definitely the aggressor and he wasn't sure because of the age difference and afraid people would think he was abusing me.

I don't care what anyone says, I have been with him for almost 5 years, and he saved me from self destructing!! he is my everything and I can not imagine my life without him.

IDKY they always blame the guy.... cause i know for a fact in my case, he was not to blame AT ALL!!

Answer 6

OMG! Exactly! I was 13 when I had s*x with my son's biological father (he was 20/21 at the time).  I know it was wrong (legally) but as to this day..I do not regret it. I MAD THE CHOICE TO HAVE s*x WITH A MAN. He didn't "rape" me or "convince" me...I CHOSE TO. And OMG I get so pissed off when someone says that it was HIS fault and that HE persueded me to have s*x.... HELLO, I WANTED TO. I know that sounds bad probably..but oh well. It's the truth and I don't regret it. Luckily I had parents who didn't give a rats @$$ about me and no charges were pressed...btw I've had s*x ONCE with my son's biological father...I'm not a w***e...but I did choose to have s*x when I was 14.

<3 also ive noticed that if a boy (13 ) sleeps with a woman (30) she isn't chared with the same pentalty as a man (20) and a girl (13) would have...

**Girls aren't dumb@$$'s....we know what s*x is....specially after s*x ED...and plus everyone talks about it and the internet..tv...it's not like we dont know wat we are doing....I was 12 and knew everything about s*x through other people... Don't tell me a girl who is 13-16 doesnt know what s*x is and/or can do...that's the PARENTS fault if she doesnt anyways...or he...that's thier job and apparently failed...

Answer 7

because the boy is the adult in the situation and he shouldve known better. and parents are especially protective over their little girls... especially dad's. the thought of them having s*x disgusts them im sure.

Answer 8

If my 15-year-old son was having s*x with a 25-year-old woman, I'd blame the woman.  The point of statutory rape laws is that there is an age at which you are too young to give meaningful consent to s*x, and that an adult is old enough to know that a kid -- even one who thinks they are willing -- is too young to be having s*x.

If there were two kids of roughly the same age (within a year or two), then who I wouldn't blame either, but would be glad of a tool (like the statutory rape laws) to convince them to stop and wait.

Answer 9

I KNOW!!!!!! every single time its the guys fault not the girls.... wtf is that all about?? ur rights its makes me mad as well.

Answer 10

Yes it does take two, but if the boys been brought up properly they will know it's wrong and steer well clear.

Answer 11

You raise a very interesting point.  However, statutory rape isn't defined as non-consensual.  It is non-forcible sexual relations that take place when an individual (regardless of age or gender) has sexual relations with an individual not old enough to legally consent to the behavior.  In other words, if your 19 year old daughter had sexual relations with a 15 year old boy, she could very well go to jail for statutory rape as well because a minor cannot consent to the sexual acts...so it is always considered a violation of a minor even in cases of love.  It's important for parents to explain this to their children so that they are aware of the legal ramifications of their actions.

Answer 12

Well, in my opinion when there is only a couple of years difference in age, it isn't a big deal, now in my case,I was 15 and the guy was like 23 and I think my mother should've locked him up because he was an adult and I was a young, naive girl who didn't know what I was doing. In that case, a grown man deserves jail!

Answer 13

i have always been with older boys, but i understand where parents come from

being older they know the law and (u will understand in a few years) but they take advantage of younger girls being attracted to them.

yes you both made the disision but he is older and his brain is fully developed(happens between 18-21 years) and knws better

thats why he is in trouble

Answer 14

I'm with you to a point if the girl is 16 and the boy is 18 OK...but if the boy is 22 and the girl is say 13, not OK...a 13 year old is not mature enough to see the consequences of her actions and the 22 year old should be mature enough to know he is taking advantage of the situation....

Answer 15

kids are getting sluttyer younger