I want 2 have s*x 4 the first time but im a lil scared..help?

Question

Hello, im 16 years old and me and my bf have been dating 4 bout 7 months, and we want 2 have s*x, im on birth control but i always forget 2 take it at the right time im supposed 2 take it at 330 but end up taking it at bout 6. My worst fear is getting pregnat. does not taking my pill at the right time make it eaiser 2 get pregnat? And one more thing (kinda detailed sorry) im a really small girl, im 5 feet tall and bout 95 pounds and really, um, "tiny" down there, and my bf isn't small at all, ill just say that. im scarred its gonna hurt really bad, will it?

Answer 1

it probably would hurt. you're young, if you're scared dont do it. there'll be time for that when you're older. not wanting to sound judgemental but i think yer a bit too young to be doing it. i know most kids dont care and do it at that age but its sad. most of them end up doing it coz of peer pressure. do it when you're ready it'll be so much better.

Answer 2

ok ok u need to reallly think about this, you should have s*x when your ready and feel comfertable, and the thing about it hurting yea if you dont relax and use lube witch will help 1st time, remember there is no right or wrong way to have s*x so go with what your feeling. xx

Answer 3

Thats nearly the same as me :D

I was thinking that maybe I am scared for a reason and maybe i should wait so maybe its the same for you. Don't worry.

and if you trust your bf and he is really nice to you then it shouldn't matter.

Good luck. x*x

Answer 4

use a condom to be extra safe and just make sure you are totally relaxed make a code word you can use  to get him to stop if it hurts i am sure he will respect you and stop if needed. the more relaxed you are the less painful it will be for you.

good luck

Answer 5

as far as the right time goes, im not sure about that

but use a condom to be safe

and have your bf finger you for awhile

(ideally several, separate times to allow you to loosen and tighten and loosen and tighten ,etc) before the actual s*x happens.

this will help get you thru ur first time, and you may not even feel anything.

have fun!

Answer 6

As long as you still have doubts, it is a sign that you are not ready yet. Wait until you KNOW the time is right. There is no reason to rush into anything.

Answer 7

Yes it will hurt, dont do it until you are mature enough.

Answer 8

If your not 100% sure about it then don't do it. It may hurt a bit but that happens with lots of girls. Don't worry about it. If your not sure if the pill will work then use a condom just to be on the safe side. GoodLuck!

Answer 9

Taking the pill at a different time every day really doesn't matter, as long as you're not taking it 12 hours late or more. Read the leaflet in your pill packet because obviously every pill is different, but that's the general rule.

The fact you're small shouldn't make any difference to whether it will hurt or not, the v****a is designed for large things to be inserted into it. Using plenty of lubrication will help, though.

Answer 10

If you take your pill every day you should be OK. Wear a condom to be double safe. I'm 4'10" and used to weigh less than 95 lbs at one time long long ago. Anyway it was never a problem. That is what foreplay is for. Loosens things up! If your really worried get lubricated condoms.

Answer 11

yes it will hurt the first time, every one thinks that your first time is special but its not it hurts and its awkward but its the practice afterward thats better

it will only hurt for a bit, but its worth it and just relax take your time be romantic kiss him, tell him you love him and just do what come naturally and go with the flow

just make sure you use a condom and you should be find

have fun =P xx good luck

Answer 12

If you have any doubts about having s*x, then don't do it. You have doubts for a reason.

Answer 13

Listen to your fears. They are there to protect you. Don't ruin your life, there is lot of time.

Answer 14

Even though you are on the pill you should also use condoms !!

Getting pregnant isn't the only concern..... STi's are also a worry .......... so please use a condom !!!

As for your size........ don't worry....... it can accomodate a babies head down there so i'm sure your bf ain't too big.

If you are relaxed and enjoying yourself it shouldn't hurt.

Answer 15

I was 16 when I first had s*x and it did not hurt at all.  It felt so good.   BUT....even if you are on birth control...always remember when you are going to have s*x doesn't matter for the 1st time or 20th time...be ready for all things that come with it...may feel good, but what if is what you need to ask yourself...your boyfriend too...

what if:

you get pregnant...

you get some kind of std

he is not the one you really want to be with

those are what you need to ask before you even think of s*x...

you can always foreplay....

Answer 16

considering the fact that you cant spell PREGNANT at 16, i dont think that you are ready.

Answer 17

If you're scared, then wait. To answer your last question, it's different for each girl. It may hurt, but it might not.

Answer 18

If you're scared or having doubts, you shouldn't do it at all! You aren't ready if you are scared. That's no way to have s*x. Seriously. Wait a while! =) You'll be happy you did.

And 7 months is not that long a time to consider yourself ready for s*x.

oh, and yes, taking your pill at different times does cause pregnancies.

Answer 19

okay well i'm not being preachy, and when you really love someone having s*x is so great, but of you're so scared and worried, it's probably a sign that you're not really ready.

to answer the question, use spermicidical condoms or lubricant to prevent pregnancy. And i'm not going to lie to you and say it doesn't hurt- it does. But the amount of pain depends on the person. Of you are small and he is big, it should probably hurt quite a bit.

Answer 20

if u have enough plessure it wont hurt set a reminder on ur phone a 330 everyday to take it

Answer 21

If you are on the pill, there is a very small chance that you will get pregnant.  use a condom too and there is no way you will get pregnant.  You should do a lot of playing around first, I mean like for weeks, with foreplay and with him using his fingers down there to kind of stretch you out first.  Make sure that you are well lubricated.  It didn't hurt at all or anything the first time I had s*x.  Not sure how it was for other women.  I don't think i have ever asked anyone.  Hope this helps.  :)

Answer 22

u shouldnt even have s*x in the first place what is with lyk every teenager having s*x these days!? & y is everyones worst fear getting preggers? so u'd rather live a painful suffering life with HIV or AIDS than having an adorable baby?

Answer 23

well im 5'1 and my frist time hurt really bad and my third time i got pregnant not saying itll happen to you just think it out frist

Answer 24

If you are scared, you probably arent ready. And before you do it make sure you take your birth control at the right time.

Answer 25

Im on the pill too but i take it at different times and it doesnt matter. as long as you get it every 24 hours your fine. If your worst fear is getting pregnant the best way to avoid that is also using a condom.

It hurts at first but you have to tell your boyfriend to be gentle. If not it can kind of scare you for future 'relations' lol. if you dont think you're ready, DONT do it.

Answer 26

Dont have s*x till you're married it's such asoft spot me and my husband argue about and it hurts our souls that we didnt wait for eachother. Its a good thing we dont have much past or we wouldnt be together because we care too much!

Answer 27

Use A Condom Aswel Because The Pill Isnt 100% Effective Against Pregnancy And There Is Also Chance Of An STI, Also Use Lubricants, You Can Buy Them In Chemists And Also Stores Like Boots This Will Stop It From Hurting As Much And Will Give Easier Access. Me && My Boyfriend Were Going Out For 7 Months And Hadnt Done It But Now That We Have Got It Over With Its Fine And I Feel So Much More Confident.

Answer 28

It's as simple as this. If you're scared don't do it. You're a baby still and have your entire life ahead of you. You don't want to mess it up now honey!

Answer 29

if it dose hurt it wont for long, try not to worry about anything when the time come just go with the flow, and relax

good luck x

Answer 30

Use a condom and spermicide and lots of lubricant. It may/will hurt first time, but you will soon get used to it.

Answer 31

if your worst fear is getting pregnant, i would try holding off a bit. maybe just do everything but?. i'm sure you guys can find a lot of other things to do....anyways, it's your choice. i would start taking your birth control at 330 just to be sure. and there are always other forms of protection. i can't tell you if it's gonna hurt cause i've personally never had s*x before, but some of my friends tell me that it hurts & we're 16 also.