I want a baby. He isnt ready. Why does it always work out like this?

Question

he is wanting another 2 years before thinking about it. I want it already

Answer 1

I am going through that with my husband right now...I want another one so my son and the next baby are close...I almost have him because I just keep telling the good points and he agrees with me...you just have to keep nagging...ONLY POSITIVES points though!!!!!  GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

How old are you? My fiancee and I went through this same conversation not too long ago. We're both 23 and I finally made her realize it just wouldn't be practical at our age to have a child.

If you are as young as us then I recommend you wait at least 2 years, if not more. I think people should focus on setting themselves up for life before embarking on the journey that is parenthood.

Make sure you have the big stuff taken care of: steady job, good income, good medical coverage and have already enjoyed being together, just the two of you.

Rushing into a pregnancy without thoroughly enjoying your relationship together will make things very difficult. I am of the personal attitude that you should spend at least 4 or 5 years together, just the two of you, before adding a child into the mix. Just think how great it will be to bring a child into a nice, settled household that is ready to embrace and love him/her 100%!! That will be much more rewarding than pushing him into it when he's not ready.

Hope this helps and best of luck!

Answer 3

If he wants to wait, atleast he is being honest. My husband wanted to wait with our second one but I felt that my clock was a ticking away and our first son is already 5 years old. We were not using protection and on the day that I found out I was pregnant, five hours before I took the test he was still telling his friends that he wanted to wait and blah blah blah....but, much to his surprise (I already had a feeling) the test was positive. Guys are so afraid of change. But, what they don't realize is if you plan to wait to have a baby until it's the "right time", it may never be the "right time" simply because life happens. So, I would just go about my business and if you get pregnant in the meantime, he will be just as happy about it as you would be.