I want a baby. How do I tell Boyfriend?

Question

I Want to have a baby but I don't know how to tell my boyfriend this because I dont think he is interested in children and would probably freak.

Could you tell me how you let your significant other know that you wanted a baby?

Or if you have any creative or funny ways of letting him know.

(please no "wait til after marriage" lines please. I dont really care what god will do to me if I sin or whatever)

Answer 1

If you arent mature enought to sit down and have a serious conversation with your boyfriend, you arent mature enough to have a child.

and i know you dont want to here it, but if you are willing to commit to having a baby with a man, you should be willing to commit to a marriage with the man first.  

Answer 2

well i would let him know that i want a baby with him and if hes willing to have a baby with me?????

Answer 3

You need to be honest in your approach. First you need to just ask him “How do you feel about kids? Do you want to have kids one day? I’ve always thought of having 2 or 3 myself.” See how he responds. If he expresses an interest of having kids at least someday then you can approach that you would like to start trying for a baby as soon as possible and how does he feel about that.

If he tells you he wants kids but not anytime soon you will need to respect this. Either break up with him and find a man who wants to have a baby now or just put off having a baby until both of you are ready to become parents. If he does not want to ever have kids then you will need to again break up with him and find a man who wants to have children. If he is undecided then again you can stay with him to see if he eventually decides that he wants to have children or you can leave him and find a man who defiantly wants children.

Being a parent is a big and serious thing and no one should feel forced into being a parent that is not healthy for that person or the child.  As others have said if you feel you are mature enough to have a baby now then you should also be mature enough to sit down with your boyfriend and talk about this open and honestly.

I doubt you bringing up  the subject of children is going to make him not want to have kids. Generally a person either knows they want kids, knows they don’t want them or is undecided. I very much doubt a partner bringing up the subject of children is going to sway their partners feelings. They will most likely have their feelings about it prior to talking about it.

Answer 4

well u can tell him that u want to have a family some day. that shouldnt freak him out.

i am not talking about sinning but i would recommend getting married first because then u know he is dedicated to you and doesnt see your relationship as just something fun to do. but if u want to have kids with the guy then i guess u plan to spend at least the next 18 years with the guy. if he feels the same way y not get married, things r cheaper when you are married  

Answer 5

No before marriage lines (personally I don't see the need for it) but maybe you should take something as serious as bringing a baby into the world as something worth having a mature conversation with him about. Better yet maybe you should have a baby with someone who WANTS to be a dad?

Answer 6

I think you both should sit down  and talk to him and ask him so i was wondering we been together for awhile . I was thinking we should expand or family i wan to have a baby what do you think.?

  I hope this was helpedful.

            Good Luck :)

Answer 7

1st of all make d environment vvvvvv tempting...romantic...irresistble. make him fly high... at his peak...ask him dus he like kids...has ever a thot kame 2 his mind of having a family wid u...wud he luv 2 c u pregnant wid his child??? but plz dont b so dumb....ask him vvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvv romatically.  

Answer 8

im not trying to judge but while you might not care how having a baby before marriege will affect you, its not really about you anymore once you have a baby. im not saying you should fear gods wrath if you have a child out of wedlock, you should take the time to explore the benefits of getting married before you have a child including all the benefits afforded to married couples by the government. second, having a baby is not as simple as asking your boyfriend for one, its not like telling him you want a new car. consider this, you had to come on yahoo answers to ask for advice on how to tell your bf you want a baby which means you don't feel comfortable enough with your boyfriend to take it up with him first and if you already know he will freak out when you bring it up then he obviously doesn't want to have a baby with you yet.