I want a baby girl?

Question

Well my husband and I already have three kids they are all boys. I want a Baby girl but my husband wont let me get pregnant cause he says he is 100 percent sure I might end up pregnant with a baby girl. He says if I want a girl I should adopt one. But I’m not getting one from him. He said it’ll ruin his reputation. Bastared! Well I have no problem adopting a child. But I want the baby to be his. What should I do should I keep my three boys and no baby girl or just go right a head and adopt the baby?

Answer 1

You sound like an idiot for putting up with this and he sounds like a real ******. I would say don't adopt and scar an innocent baby for life.

Answer 2

IT DOES NOT MATTER,IF YOU ADOPTED A GIRLD IT WILL BE HIS IN ALL THE WAYS,BUT NOT HIS BLOOD.IF YOU AND HIM SPLITS UP HE WILL HAVE TO PAY CHILDSUPPORT FOR THAT THAT JUST LIKE FOR THE BOYS......SO GO AND ADOPTED A CHILD,IF HE IS FOR IT.IF NOT THEN YOU HAVE TO GO ANOTHER WAY. I GOT PREG 5 TIMES BEFORE I FINELY GOT A GIRL.BUT ONLY THREE LIVED. SO NOW I HAVE 2 SONS AND A LITTLE GIRL(NOT A LITTLE GIRL SHE IS 10)MY SONS ARE 22 AND 18,AND BOTH ARE MARRIED. GOOD LUCK AND JUST BE HAPPY WITH YOUR SONS.BECAUSE NEXT TIME YOU GET PREG.YOU COULD HAVE ANOTHER BOY AND YOU MAY NOT MAKE IT,AND YOU WILL BE LIVING 4 KIDS WITH YOUR HUSBAND.

Answer 3

First of all, after u read this, go kick his butt.  How selfish of him. Whats his reputation, he's more of a stud because he has three boys....Tell him he only contributed 5 seconds of work, you did the rest, so his rep is shot to you.

I think by him making this remark, he is trying to see if you are serious.  If you really persued that motion, he will start feeling intimidated and may move him to do his part.

AND, who's to say if he'll treat that child as an equal?

Answer 4

Our husband seems mean.... If you have a girl it seems to me that he might not be nice to her. But mabey you should get a consuler then look into adoption.

Answer 5

First of all you should divorce your husband ASAP. He obviously does not respect your feelings. He is a b*****d. You will find out wat to do from there.

Answer 6

is he serious? I'm sure that reason would go over wonderfully with the case worker. i would say no that is probably not your best option just enjoy your boys

Answer 7

I am usually really tactful when it comes to answering questions, however, this one is hard to be tactful with.  

Your husband is definatly a jerk for saying that and you have 2 choices.  

Either raise your kids in the environment your in and have no daughter.. .

or

leave your husband and give your sons a chance to be normal human beings and well adjusted men.

If you adopt a daughter she will obviously be treated differently.  

One.. because your husband thinks less of women

and

Two.. because she is adopted.  

Not saying adopted kids mean less than others, I believe they are just as important.. but we have established your hubby has a couple screws loose.. so therefore a girl (that he doesnt want) who is adopted...  will not probably go well.

That would be extremely unfair to your "adopted" daughter.

Do your boys a favor and show them that a real "man" does not have to act like your hubby!

Answer 8

As an adoptive parent I know that during the homestudy they make sure that both parents truely want to adopt. If your husband isn't 100 percent on board then it just isn't fair to  the child to bring them into that situation.

Answer 9

Ok, ummm .... your husband ..... whats his deal?  It'll "ruin his reputation" ???!!!

Answer 10

Your marriage doesn't sound stable enough to add another child, by any method.

Answer 11

I have three boys and desperately wanted a little girl, what women doesn't?  We stopped at three and I am very happy. Every time I  see a baby girl I go ahhhhhhh......but my oldest is now 15!!! I worry enough about him! Now I can't imagine having a girl! she'd be locked up after dark, grow to hate me and probably run away with an older man! My sister in-law is now pregnant and I'm hoping for a girl for her so that I can buy the frilly clothes and such.  I think adoption is great! every child deserves a loving home!  I think if you have the means to adopt you should. Not just because u want a girl but also because that baby deserves a great mom!!

   ouch..I missed all the husband bashing! Is he a jerk or was he just being a guy?  I think men have real fears about daughters because they are sooo protective, and they know how young boys are from being young once and maybe not treating girls the way they should have been treated! Maybe the coment about his rep. was just a cop out.