I want a baby. help!?

Question

i've been wanting a child for sometime now but the thing is I'm only sixteen! is this normal for a sixteen year old female? my sister has three children and i have looked after them so much over the years and i know how to look after a child, what they require, etc etc and i just love children! I'm just confused though. I'm very mature for my age but is there any particular reason i want a child or do a lot of teenage girls feel like this?

Answer 1

Actually a lot of teenage girls have these thoughts, most women do at some point.

Some just act on impulse and end up with a child they can't provide for or they don't even really care for it.

You should wait, it will be worth it!

I've wanted to be a mom since I was very young, but I wanted to be married before I had kids and I was.

I'm 20 with a great 1 year old and another on the way in a few weeks, my mom says being a mother suits me and I'm glad it does or I'd most likely go crazy!

Just wait until you find someone who wants kids with you and you know you can provide proper care for the child.

Answer 2

There is a particular reason: hormones! People used to have children much earlier in life than they do now - so hormones kick in earlier than they need to still.

You're a smart girl and you know you need to wait until you're done with school and are financially stable. You want to be able to give your baby the best - and you're going to need a lot of resources to do that.  

Answer 3

I am so with u on this 1 !!!

I want a baby so bad but am 16!

My cousin has 3 kids but they live in Ireland so I dont get to see them as much as id like to :(

message me if u want and we can talk :)

Answer 4

well when i was sixteen i looked after my sisters kids she also had 3 i cooked i cleaned and did everything a housewife would do but i didn't want children this made me wait you have to consider this they are a huge responsibility you have to provide financially which you are not doing for these kids your sister is and you have to be there mentally for them and physically all the time they demand alot of time and attention in my opinion your way too young to be thinking about children when you have kids those you cant give back they stay with you your sisters kids eventually go back to her right  

Answer 5

That is natural.  You are a young woman and you love children.  Enjoy being an aunt right now.  You get to learn about being  a parent, then you get to send the babies home.  LoL.  Plus, I am sure you know, that it would be better for you and your children of the future for you to actually make a future for yourself.  Continue your education, and get a good job.  Find a wonderful man who you will be proud to have kids with.  Then you can work on having babies and seeing all the wonderful gifts God has already picked out for you.

Answer 6

At 16 it's kind of hard to have the financial stability to raise a child.  Sure, watching other people's kids are great...but it's nothing like having a kid.  What about those times where the baby won't stop crying and there's NO ONE around to help you and you just feel like you want to scream yourself?

Kids are great, I have 3 of them, but they really do change things forever.  You might want to think it over for a good long time before you make a decision.  You're just not seeing the whole part of the picture.

Answer 7

I felt that "mother" desire at your age as well, but waited until I was 21 to have my first. You think you know at 16 what they require and how to look after them, but the truth is, you really don't until you have one. When they cry, you can't just give them back. They require more than time and love. They require money, lots of money, a stable home and lifestyle, and stable parents.

My husband and I combined make over $40 000 a year, and even with one child, we struggle. On top of that, we already own our own home, rent and mortgage free, but it's hard. And we're 22 and 28! Our daughter has absolutely everything she needs and more, and we do as well, all our bills are paid on time, but with everything our daughter needs, and even trying to prepare for our second coming in December, it is a huge struggle.

Hun, trust me. You're not ready at this point. I'm sitting here at 22 without my high school diploma. I wish, so badly, that I had it, and I will be getting it soon, but probably not until my children start school and I have the time to get it myself. Finish your education, and at least start post-secondary education before having children. Make sure you have a stable roof over your head, that you can afford yourself and have some extra money as well. Make sure you have a stable job as well before considering having kids, and above all, a stable, healthy relationship.

Trust me, this is about the children, not about your desires. Think of the children you will have and consider what is best for them.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Not at all. I never even dreamed of kids at that age. I was worried about getting a car, being cute and going out with friends. You have a long time before you should be considering children, and trust me you're not missing out on anything at that young age. I mean maybe its normal just to think about one day having a family, but please dont do it any time soon.

Answer 9

If you can pay for the delivery, support the child, provide it with a home (that doesn't belong to anyone but you), and you have a very good income, than have one.  If you are still living with your parents, not working or working a menial job, don't have your own home to go to, and aren't out of school yet, you have no business even thinking of bringing a life into the world.