I want a baby?

Question

I am only 13 years old. Please don't think of me as some white trash girl. I would appreciate if some mature people answer this question.

I yearn for a baby, i don't know why. I know i am very young. I feel more mature then most of the people around me and i would love to share my love with another human being, but of my own. I WILL NOT go out and get pregnant because that is not a responsible thing to do and it is VERY early. But i just LOVE children, even if you classify me as a child still.

I love to babysit , but i want the one to be hiring a baby sitter, the one kissing she/he if they scrape their knee.

It is so confusing. I should not be having such strong feelings about having a baby. Not at this age! Any help??

Answer 1

Your starting your motherly hormones or how i call them.

Thats when you start having a motherly feel at such a young age.

You can always get a pet to take care of like a baby.

=)

Answer 2

Well, I'm glad you sound so mature. I actually admire the way you've asked this question - if only all the other people on this site who are panicking saying "OMGZ AM I PREGGERS?!?!" were like you.

As to your question: I think that everyone (well, I guess at least most females) sort of have a built-in maternal instinct: this is not true for everyone, but most girls that I have encountered would probably be happy to have a baby if it weren't such a hard thing to cope with in today's world. The thought of having someone to love unconditionally, take care of, and watch grow up is not uncommon; and I understand your feelings: sometimes I wish I had a kid to look after myself! But the thought passes pretty quickly, I must admit haha

My advice to you is to babysit lots: advertise in your neighborhood - make business cards, and go up and down your street passing them out. Be sure to tell them that you love kids, and be able to prove that you are responsible.

Don't worry, one day you'll most likely have a son/daughter of your own, and when you do I'm sure you'll make an excellent mother =)

Answer 3

You may not be feeling loved by people around you.  That is a very common cause of teen pregnancy.  But don't do it you don't understand it will ruin you life wait until age 23 at least.  And have the baby with someone your 100% in love with.  Continue babysitting or even consider being a a mothers assistiant the kids will grow to love you almost like a mother.  (it also pays very well usually).  So consider this.  I hope I helped.

Answer 4

girl i think that no a good idea you are too young and that will be the biggest mistake in your live you have to study and what will your parent say about that you will have enought time to make baby you only have 13 and what will you do after having baby because you will not be able to study and not able to work if you want to study or work you will have  to pay for the babysitter

you know what my younger sister is like you loving babies and now she is only 14 and she 's babysitting our neighbor 's babies because she likes baby like you

think about that girl!

Answer 5

Its ok. Its completely normal. I also went through that phase of wanting a baby. I think that what you have to do is to not go out and get pregnant but rather nurse your love for children and desire to have a baby so that when the time comes, the baby will have so much love and you will feel so blessed. I love kids and its great that you love kids this much too. In time, things will work out and you will make a wonderful mother. :)

Answer 6

sorry u underage to have a baby and it's illegal u men' *** gonna be thrown in jail for long time maybe 3 years

i know it's puberty that make u ask that kinda question

go to school  don't ruin ur future do ur things  

most of men are like leeches they treat u like orange they suck you up and then they end up by throwing u away when u aint sweet at all. i bet the man who's driving u crazy he's a player or pathological lier

be smart plz don't be stupid

take a good decision if not it 'll affect ur own life soon or later u'll regret

Answer 7

You know I was the same way when I was 13 and now I am 31 years old with two girls of my own and I thought that day would never come but it did and I am cery happy but when I was your age I day dreamed and dreamed while I was sleeping about having a baby of my own and I did not think that anyone else had them feeling and I thought that I was alone.. You are a very bright girl and only you know when you are ready and this is the same thing that I will tell my girls. You need all of the support that you can get.

Good Luck

Answer 8

I totally get you, im 15 and i've always wanted a baby. I begged my parents to adopt children. I watch TLC bringing home baby, john and kate plus 8, and baby story. I love children and have always wanted a child. I feel a lot older then i am. Whenever i talk to my mom about it all she says is if you ever got pregnant say good bye to the rest of your life. You may want a child now but when you can go to bars and college and clubs your not going to want a child, trust me.

Answer 9

that is a natural instinct to have.  Don't worry about it and just dont become obsessed with it.  Work with kids not just babysitting but see if you can do some volunteer work with kids or somethings.  This will give you exposure to the things you love.  Like you said it is irresponsible to go out and have one, but it doesnt mean you cannot work around them.  This way when you are old enough and you have the right situation then you will be prepared.

Answer 10

You're smart for recognizing that even though you want a baby, you're not in the situation to have one right now.

It's normal maternal feelings setting in that you're experiencing. I think every girl goes through a phase where they consider how much they like and want children. It sounds like you have a true passion for and understand little ones, so maybe a good career path for you would be daycare worker or teacher.

As for now, just continue babysitting and offering your talents to parents who need them and dream about the baby of your own you'll have when you grow up. :)

Answer 11

Wow...were like 2 pea in a pod=D I feel the same way. I Absolutly Love love loveeee babys and like toddlers=D ITs amazing. I babysit everyday almost all day. Babys are my life, and my 5 month old nephew lives with me and im like his mom....i get up with him in the middle of the night, i feed him, i love him. Im 13 also. I love babys though. so i feel ya girl=P but just baysit alot alot alot and take baby classes and stuff at skool wen u get to highschool or sumthin...It helps. but i feel the same way though. lol You dont want your own though. I mena u do and so do i. But it is reallly really hard, by urself. Just stay strong...Wait atleast till your likr 16 to have on;) haha then u can get a job and at least pay alittle and get on wlfare and tuff haha...Well if u wanna talk or sumthin, email me. HOpe i like, hleped or anything.

Answer 12

Don't worry, it's completely normal for girls to want a baby, at any age!  Just look down the aisles at any toy store and you'll see rows and rows of baby dolls.  Because even two-year-old little girls want their own baby to love and take care of.  That's the way us girls are made.  We have a natural desire nurture and cuddle and care for our babies.  And it's a good thing... the human race wouldn't last very long if we didn't!

Once you get to the age that you can actually get pregnant, it's only natural to think about it even more.  It's like, wow, you actually *can* have a baby if you want!  That's a pretty powerful thought.  And the truth is, nature designed us to *want* to have babies, as soon as we're able.  It wasn't that long ago that girls did have children at a pretty young age.  For most of human history, it was normal for girls to get married and have children as young as 14 or 15.  People didn't live as long back then - women died in childbirth, from disease, from wild animal attacks - so it made sense to have kids while you were still around to do it!

Of course, the world has changed a lot since then.  People get married a lot later.  And now, of course, it's better to wait until you have the support of a husband, and a decent enough income to provide all the things you want your baby to have.  In today's world, that usually happens years after you're actually able to have a baby.  But our bodies are still the same, and that little voice that says, "Have a baby!" hasn't caught up with the times.  Luckily, our brains can overrule our instincts and we can wait until the time is right.

So don't worry.  A lot of teenagers - most, probably - feel the way you do at some point.  Some feel it more strongly than others.  And that's okay.  Just keep looking forward to the day you'll be a mom.  It sounds like you'll be a great one!  But yeah, do wait until you're married!  It'll be a lot easier for both you and your baby!

Answer 13

i was the same exact way.. i wanted a baby and now im pregnant lol im gunna be 16 soon but still its gunna be a lot of hard responsibilty and with money and everything.. luckily i have my boyfriend and my parents involved and helping but still.. your 13, you have alot of growing up to do still.. but if you make the choice to have a baby then i guess thats great only if thats what you want.. good luck and i hope you make the best decision

Answer 14

That's never happened to me but I'm pretty sure that that is actually normal. It's just hormones. Your maternal instincts are kicking in, I guess :0)

After a while you'll probably stop wanting a baby so badly.

Don't listen to the people that tell you're you're immature or stupid or anything - you're not. You can't help feeling that way and since you're not going to act on it, don't worry. Like I said, it will go away or you'll want a baby less after a while.

Answer 15

Well you already have the motherly instinct. But at only 13, you can't have a baby. You still have your whole life to have kids.

I'm just going to give you some advice.

Don't have a baby yet. Wait till you've got a good job, like after high school. It'll be very hard going through high school with a kid. Even if you are ready for it.

Answer 16

hun its okay this is just a faze i went though it...just stay strong and keep those legs close...

Answer 17

Hi

  I do understand your compassions and feelings.

  I don't think you have a clue how much work or time or money is involved.

Asie from that, you have to realize tha babies are only baboes for a short time. They grow up fast and become kids before you know it.

Most of my postings are done in the cats section cause I love animals. All i see there time after time is kittens being born. After that all I see is people giving away their cats cause they are moving peeing inappropiately or other horrible reasons. Most cats end up killed by so called shelters or even worse things happen.

The reason i am telling ytou this is bevause it is not about what you want when it comes to a baby. It is about the babt's needs which is something that you cannot even come close to providing for.

Don't be in such a hurry to grow up. as you get older, time seems to move faster and you will eventually find your true love and the right time to have a baby. That time isn't now.

Best to you

Answer 18

I have the exact same thinking as you!

I've always wanted a kid.

I grew up arounds kids cause my mom is a babysitter, and i just love them!

Answer 19

Oh, i can relate to your feelings. I wanted a baby so badly at the age of 13. Baby sitting wasnt enough for me. But, i waited. Not too long tho. I waited til i was 17 and thats when i got pregnant. I had my daughter at 18. I was living with her father - at his mothers house with him and his 5 brothers and sisters. Dont get me wrong. Him and i are still together (just celebrated 8 years this pat May) and we have 1 more child. I am now 23 with 2 kids, and no life. I have no money, no job, nothing. He works, but its barely making ends meet. We are getting food stamps, and its actually kind of embarrassing when our friends find out. There are people who really need them (like us, since he only brings home about $180 per paycheck), but there are others who need them because they dont want to work. I am trying so hard to find a job, but i cant find a babysitter willing to watch both kids for a reasonable amount. We are behind on our rent, our light bill. Our money goes for diapers and extra food since the food stamps usually isnt enough for the month.

I have had to do a LOT of growing up in the 5 years since my daughter was born. I dont get to go out with my friends when they call and say that theres a party somewhere. Or when they are going to the movies, or out to eat.

I understand that you want to be responsible, but having a baby is not the way to go. I also know that you said that you arent going to go out and get pregnant. Please please please wait! If i could do it all over again, i would. I would have waited until i was AT LEAST 23 (my age now), with a full 5 years of working behind me. At least that way, i could have put some money away for my children. Of course, i wouldnt have the wonderful children i have right now, but i think it would have been so worth it.

You seem like a very intelligent and mature 13 year old. I wish there were more teens like you out there.

While babies and kids are fun, they are a lot of hard work. Which im pretty sure you understand that. You see from babysitting that its not all bubbles and rainbows. Theres tantrums, late nights, early mornings, no sleeping, more tantrums, doctors appointments, boo-boos, power struggles, and even more tantrums.

Over all, its a phase. Stick to babysitting for now. Its fun, but most of the time, its fun because you can give the child back after a while! You dont get to see all the moments from h*ll. If i were you, i would probably take half of that babysitting money, and put it away into a savings account that you cant touch until you are 18, at least. This way, when you do decide to have a baby when you are older, you will have some set money there that you can use when diapers become close to $15 a pack!!

Stay smart, finish school, and ENJOY your youth!! Like i said, we need more mature and intelligent teens like you in this world! Hang in there, the feeling will pass soon enough, then return when you are older. Now may also be the perfect time to get on some birth control, if you havent already.

Good luck hun!!

Answer 20

Get a reliable job first, one that can support your newborn baby, and then we'll talk.

Answer 21

go work at a daycare!

Answer 22

hun let me tell you this. ok im 15, and over a year ago i had a mistake. one night playing around unprotected let to something else. but at 2 months  pregnant she moved out of state withought telling me (shes 17 now). and i was left withought ever seeing it, knowing a name, a s*x, a dob, anything! and i regret all of the feelings and emotions that came with it. a teen pregnancy would s***w up your life like you have no idea. trust me, it screwed up a part of mine. and im only the guy, she moved out to her grandmothers to support it even though i had 3 jobs already!

leave it till ur married and are an adult, for your own sake

Answer 23

I am not gonna tell you that you are too young to even be thinking about having a baby of your own because you know that. If you have that much love to give at 13 just imagine how you will love your child when you do decide you are old enough.

Why not try to volunteer somewhere that you can spend time with children. I know that they won't be your own children but you may be surprised at how much you have to give someone elses children.

I think you might feel better if you if you share some of that love with a child in need.

Answer 24

Well I'm glad you're willing to wait, it'll be more worth it when you're older!!!

Answer 25

get a college degree and a good paying job. .

i mean, this may sound harsh. . but the odds of you ever achieving any success after having a kid and before 40 are severly against you. . .numbers don't lie. . .

after all, you're 13 and confuse . . h**l. .when iw as 13 i wanted a tiger and some bull$hit like that. . .

i've been around the world and seen almost everything. . .13 with a kid is ridiculous. . .we're not amish and we're not in the 14th century. . .so grow up, learn about life and then pop out a kid.

america needs your help with this, otherwise you'll be the same trashy girl with 8 kids and relying on welfare to get you through life. . .

sincererly,

tj

Answer 26

trust me you dont want one this early. i kinda felt the same way a few years and then my sister went and got pregnant. i now have to take care of my niece all the time. i do love her but it gets tiring just being an aunt much less a mother. when you wait until you are married or in a stable relasionship and you have moneey and can afford a baby, you will be able to focus on the love of ur life instead of problems such as money, diapers, formula ect. until then stick with babysitting.

Answer 27

Girls your age might want to have a kid but you dont realize that it is painfully alot of work and you'll lose your friends. Also you'd have to leave school and you would never get a complete education. I know this because my friend did that. Trust me don't do it

P.S. If you REALLY want a kid i would adopt a kid if i were you

Answer 28

Oh, don't worry. These feelings are quite normal, actually. It is in human nature to want a baby, you aren't the only one feeling this way. People want to care for and love one of their own, it's completely natural, even at this age. You will soon feel this way, and i'm sure you'll be an amazing mom. We need more people like this in the world, people who would truly love and care for their kids!

Being a teen is confusing and hard. Trust me, things will get better and before you know it, you'll have a little one of your own.

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