My husband doesn't want a divorce because I have good credit, plus he's playing mind games and doing things like saying "Go out to eat with me and pick me up from work and I'll pay the rent for this month", then if I step out of line at all and say or do anything that displeases him, like bringing up marriage counseling or asking him what the purpose of the separation is (he left me...no counseling, no discussion...one day I said if you're going to keep lying to me, then you should go...and he did...), then he'll explode and have a fit and threaten to stop payment on his checks.
I didn't have time to set myself up financially for this - and he knows it. While married to him, I made bad decisions in letting him use my credit card and pretty much spend all my money for me and now I have credit card debt, but still have good credit. I was raised to pay everything off every month. He's also a drunk and has obviously had accidents in my car while he was out drinking. He would come home stinking of booze with a cell phone full of messages from girls from bars and he would swear up and down that he was working late. Then I would look at the car and see a big scrape on the side or a dent in the front fender. He would always say I'm crazy and it was like that when he got it...well, it wasn't and he won't pay for it.
I'm sick of cowtowing to him for rent. I have a job and I'm in grad school. I moved to the cheapest apartment I could find. But because of my supposed income with my husband's income (that he spends on electronic gadgets, going out to eat for every meal, gifts to other women, and drinking drinking drinking), I don't qualify for much financial aid. I don't want to drop out of school.
I sold everything I could to get some money and I have a little less than a thousand now. I'm just wondering if there are any resources for people who can't afford a divorce but need one. I'm living a nightmare. Please help.
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