I want another baby so bad...i actually get all teary eyed when I see a baby....?

Question

I know I am weird! I have a son who will be 4 this July 9th and a daughter who will be 2 June 26th. I love them so much and they are just awesome! I thank GOD everyday for blessing me with these 2 monsters!!! I want another baby soooooooo bad...I literally cry when I see another baby and as bad as it may sound I was upset when my sister-in-law announced she was pregnant...I know it sounds bad, I am actually VERY happy for them and excited to be an aunt but sad at the same time at the fact that I have been begging my husband for ever for another baby. He says 2 is enough, its too expensive blah blah blah...my son tells him too that he wants a brother and my husband tells him that he shouldn't cause then he won't have as many toys as he does...I am a stay at home mom and a full time student and I honestly don't see how one more baby will make that big of an impact on us financially...we are not struggling...my kids have everything they want and need! How can I convince him to give in????

Answer 1

Give it time. Everything happens for a reason. For now, concentrate on the 2 you have been blessed with. Many don't even have that comfort.

Good Luck though!

Answer 2

just keep talking about it that is what i did and now we are trying

Answer 3

If you want another child go for it, tell him how you feel. Especially if your kids agree!

Good luck!

Answer 4

I think babies are great, but does the world really need more?  Maybe you could give an already-born child a chance?  

I know that sounds cold, being female and not really being big on childbirth/-rearing, but I think us people need to start seeing beyond our own lives/homes.  We are in that stage in human history where we need to start thinking more holistically about our actions and how they may affect our fellow LIVING human beings and other creatures on the other side of the world, and the world itself.  

Just a thought.

Answer 5

Give the poor fella a brake and remember that issues like this can damage relationships.

I have been on the other side of this situation and from a mans point of view it can become unbearable to live with.

You are lucky to have two happy healthy children,but not everyones idea of happiness is a million kids.

It could eventually drive a man away as it did in my case when my partner chose to stop taking birth control behind my back and became pregnant.

Answer 6

NO YOU ARE NOT BEING SELFISH AT ALL! that is normal and i dont know what to tell you about talking to him. it seems like he is dead set against it. tell him how much it realy means to you. and that it will break your heart if you cant. my SIL hubby is this way and the funny thing is they can support a kid too. blessings hun

Answer 7

Having a baby should be a joint decision between you and your husband.  Its okay to want another, and pefectly natural.  I started wanting another when I realized how old my daughter was getting.  I longed for the years when she was tiny.  But the bottom line is if your husband isn't up for it, you should respect his wishes for now.  Give it some time, and don't hound him about it.  He may come around to the idea in a few years.

Answer 8

i am so glad you posted this at least i know i am not alone! i want another so bad hubby says we have one of each why do we need another he doesnt want to deal with my hormones ( horrible to say i know but he has fun testing them when im pregnant) it so frustrating he never thought he wanted kids so the fact that i have two is good i guess but i want another!!! ahhh why are men so selfish, all they have to do is the fun part i know we dont have millions or anything but my kids have thousands of toys and enough food and clothes to take care of the us military. why are men so stubborn and it drives me nuts to hear people say you have to respect his wishes what about my wishes im the one carrying the baby im the one in labor im the one that cares for the kids while he works and takes care of him there is no way to comrimise and why should i feel like part of me is missing becasue hes not sure we should have one why does he get to make the choice

Answer 9

do you want to make a baby or you just like babys?



but if you really want one, adopt one.they will be grateful

Answer 10

Get off birth control, whats he gonna do, leave you?

Answer 11

Not selfish but a bit unreasonable.  Both you and your husband must agree on more children.  What your 4 yr old son wants does not come into the discussion.