I want birth control but I don't know how to tell my mom?

Question

I am 16 and I want to get birth control. I have a few reasons for it. One my period is a mess. It never comes the same time each month, it lasts for like 7 days, and I get horrible back pains and cramps. 2 months ago I had my period twice in the one month. Second every time I get my my skin breaks out really bad. Third I have a boyfriend who I have been dating for a long time. We aren't ready for s*x at the moment but just in case we do I want to be ready and I don't want to end up pregnant. And condoms aren't trust worthy.

I'm EXTREMELY scared to tell my mom I want it. I don't know she'll think. She said if I ever wanted it just to ask but I'm scared.

What should I do to make it easier to tell her I want it. I don't want her to think that my BF pushed me into getting it. Or I don't want her telling me I'm too young then her saying no. Because if she says no and Iend up having s*x I really don't want to become pregnant.

thanks so much for the advice

Answer 1

1. You sound very mature and have listed several very good reasons for wanting to use birth control. Repeat this list to your mum.

2. Your mum has already said it's ok to talk to her about it. This means she's willing to listen to your reasons and will most likely agree with them and allow you to start birth control.

3. Even if she does say no. You're old enough to go to the doctor yourself and get them without her consent.  

I know it's pretty embarrassing to talk to your mum about s*x-related topics but i'm sure she'll understand and respect your decision. So long as you remain calm and mature about it she should react positively.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Just sit her down and talk to her and tell her exactly what you just put on here that way.  I'm sure that she would rather have you sit her down and talk to her about waiting to go on bcp. just reinsure her that you are not ready to have s*x if that is the case.  just do a search on birth control and your period and get the pros about being on it and allow your mom to see it and see what she has to say about it.  but allow her to go to your ob appointment or go with you to get ur pills, if she agrees with about you going on them. here is a website for you to check out and see what you think about it.  hope it helps

Answer 3

im 17 and i been on birth control since i was 15 and i just told my mom that my periods are really bad and that i want to see a doctor about it to see what they can give me and the doctor put my on the continous method of lutera which means that i dont have any periods. so that way my mom knows that im on it for my periods hope i helped

good luck

Answer 4

Birth control is no longer just prescribed for the prevention of pregnancy.   It is prescribed alot of times just because of irregular periods, you just have that security that comes with it.    

Be up front with her!   Let her know that this is an option you would like to look into.   You understand that this is not a ticket for you to go have s*x like a rabbit.   Your 1st reason would be your irregular periods.   Your 2nd reason is skin.  The 3rd is when you do choose to have s*x, you will have that added protection(but make sure you stress that is not the "BIG" reason for it)    

The reason parents freak out is because they think that their children will use it as a get s*x free card.      As long as you make it very clear that s*x is not the reasoning behind all of this, I think you will be ok.  

Answer 5

Well, considering you are being a responsible young lady and taking precautions in your personal life as well as your health, I think you should just come right out and say to her the same thing you've said here.  Just lay everything out honestly and there will be nothing she can disagree with you on.  And in the event she does disagree, you can always go to a planned parenthood office (most of the time the birth control is free if you don't have any money) and you do not need your parents permission for this.  Good luck

Answer 6

you don't need birth control. and wait till you get married to have s*x. are you going to stay with him for life. then don't do it. you sound smart don't make a stupid decision

Answer 7

first of all, you can get it from your doctor without even telling your mom. and it will remain confidential between you and your doctor. i told my doctor i was sexually active but didn't want my mom to know but wanted to be on the pill, so they gave it to me for free and i walked out of the doctors office with it in my bag and she had no idea. (of course i felt bad so i told her anyways, but i told her it was for my period).

i suggest you just bring it up to your mom and say how horrible your periods are and how you hate the irregularity of it, and how your skin is an issue too. i'm sure your mom will even SUGGEST the pills for you since she knows it will help. just know that the pill doesn't help everyone with their skin, and if it does, don't rely on it alone, still use a face wash and all that.

if your mom says it's okay to just ask for it, chances are it is. be like "hey can i go on the pill because my period is driving me crazy! plus it'll help my skin too!"

hope that helps :)

Answer 8

the period reasons alone are enough to go on the pill. im sure your mom will understand. and if she doesnt you can go to a free clinic. or ask your regular doctor what her policies are about prescribing birth control.

seems like your mom would be cool with it. its an awkward conversation but itll be fine.  

Answer 9

I think you should talk to your mom. I know you are scared, but she will be happy because you are doing the responsible thing. Tell her you aren't having s*x or anything yet, but you just want to be prepared. And i think she will understand and help you out.