I want help but I'm scared?

Question

I cut myself. I'm depressed, but I want to change. I'm sick of trying to hide it all the time.

I really want to talk to someone in person about it, but someone professional. Not a friend because all of my friends give me c**p about it. Which is HIGHLY annoying. I hate being judged.

Cutting myself feels good. It kind of gives me a high, but I have trouble giving it up. It's like I love it but I want to give it up.

I was thinking about talking to my guidance counselor about it, but I'm really afraid she'll tell my parents. When my mom almost found out, she freaked.

I've been cutting for about a little over a year now. I'm 13 and in 8th grade.

Answer 1

Tell your counselor and ask her not to tell ur parents, but still i would tell my parents if i were u i promise the will get you help trust me.

Answer 2

Definately talk to someone, preferabley a guidance counselor...So what if your parents find out?? If they freak that means they care but after they freak they will get help! If you don't tell anyone, then there's pretty much nothing you can do to stop it...

Answer 3

get help fast, u might slip up and hit a vain one day besides life has a meaning no matter who u are

Answer 4

why dont you go to a thearpist. and cutting urself is not gonna help anyting.

and talking to ur guidance counselor its good but tell ur counselor not to tell anyone. i dont want any one to kno jus yet

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Answer 5

Switch to something else that'll give you a high. s*x, caffeine or something. . Easy fix is to stop. . Get a hobby.  

Answer 6

wait what do you mean you cut yourself please tell me! I'll help you

Answer 7

Cutting yourself is a serious thing.

I used to do it too at the same age for almost the same amount of time.

You NEED to talk to a professional.

Your parents don't need to know, you can say your staying at school for an extra activity and take a taxi and go talk to a counselor.

I know it's hard to stop. I still do it occasionally because i feel the need to.

I know your parents will be mad/furious/dissapointed in you.

But if your going to go see a counselor then you need money.

Your parents will help you go.

They care about you and want you to get better!

And you are probablly not the only one in your school, let alone your grade who cuts. More people then you know do it.

But just like you they think no one else does it so they don't tell anyone.

Please try and stop, when you feel like cutting go for a run, or clean.

Just distract yourself, and think about something funny that maybe happened.

Please get back to me on this.

I would love to talk to you about this.

Answer 8

"The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full (John 10:10)."

Answer 9

I would talk to your guidance counselor about it I don't think they are allowed to tell your parents unless you want them to.

Answer 10

Pls show to a pshychatriast, immediately. Not to be rude, but one day, you might just start cutting others as well(or cut urself even more), so pls try to stop this habit immediately.

Answer 11

just talk to your guidance counseler, she will handle it.

Answer 12

please get help right away tell the guidance consler or your parent, they do have a right to no.  they will be upset but they will forget that and help you out.

Answer 13

I used to cut myself. I did it when I was in my early twenties.

A friend of mine asked me if I'd been sexually abused as a child, which I had.

She gave me a book to read, "The Courage to Heal", and I went to counseling.

There could be other reasons why you cut yourself but there is definitely something bothering you that you  need help facing.

If you don't get help you will probably continue to cut, and eventually end up with LOTS of scars which will make you feel bad about yourself later when you want to have an intimate relationship with someone...

You need to tell your mom, and get counseling. If you can't tell your mother, tell your guidance counselor at school.. go up to a teacher and say "I need to see a guidance counselor" or go to the office and ask them to help you,

and when you talk to the counselor tell them you are cutting and ask them what you can do to get some counseling about it.

It's not good for you. Trust me.  

Answer 14

Your parents are gonna have to find out eventually and that isn't necessarily a bad thing. If they know you will have more access to more help. Think about it.

Answer 15

I don't know what to say, seeing how I've never enjoyed pain.

But I do wish you the best.

Answer 16

tell someone. get help

Answer 17

aw, shame u definitely should tell someone.  

Answer 18

Stop it.... They should give you c**p about it. Cutting yourself isn't the answer. If it's really something good for your life you should be able to discuss it with every one you know openly and freely without regret. (not to say they have to agree) But if you cannot discuss this with people then It's probably something that is psychologically hindering you. And keeping you from maturing enough to deal with your problems.

Answer 19

You can either stop doing it, or you can go to a doctor about it.  Check to see if your guidance counsellor at school would need to speak with your parents about anything you say to her before you actually say anything.

Answer 20

Go to your guidance counselor ~ they are not allowed to tell your parents if you insist that you don't want them to know.  

You defiantly need someone so you are right and your are doing the right thing so hang in there you are taking the first step to a healthier lifestyle

I believe in you and that you can do it!!!

Answer 21

you really need to talk to a professional about this, is is a problem that goes deeper than just stopping you cut because you want to feel something anything..  you need some kind of guidance and advice go to your guidance counselor at school or a pastor at church or someone just make sure you talk to someone soon please.

Answer 22

I'm also 13 and going into Grade 8. You should tell you mom! Defiantly.

PS. Guidance counselors will keep everything secret except if someones hurting you, your hurting someone or YOUR HURTING YOURSELF. So your mom will find out.

Please tell someone. Cutting yourself and committing suicide is the worst thing you can do to yourself and people who love you.

If you honestly think your life is that bad, please tell someone. They can help. Please.

Answer 23

No, you wanting to quit is the first part of healing. Which is good and good accomplishment. Your going to have to face your mother sometime, you on honestly think you can hide this forever? Come up with the strength to tell her. Help is good I say go for it :) Guidance counselor isn't always the best though. Like the one in my school sucks and if you told someone like her she'd just make things worse. But if you trust her and think shes good then tell her.

Answer 24

You know this si not normal or healthy behavior. You are in emotional pain.

My 14 yr. old daughter goes to a therapist and she tells us nothing about the visits. Your conversations would be between you and your therapist. Your parents would only be notified if you were considerin bodily harm to somone else or yourself, Like murder, suicide, rape, child abuse. These things would not fall under clint dr. priviledge.

Tell your parents that you need to see somone but that you are uncomfortable talking to them. You can eliminate this emotional pain which drives you to cut.

Answer 25

Well the real question here is " Do you want help or not?" It is really your decision. l would def. get help because even though you enjoy cutting yourself, it is bad. Other people would consider you "emo" but you aren't. You just need help. Ask your guidance counselor and ask him/her just not to bring it up with your parents if they could.  

Answer 26

I understand how you feel I mean I don't cut myself or anything but yea sometimes you just need to let your depression out. I think you should really talk to your parents about it and when you tell them about it, tell them not to freak or anything but yea just have a normal conversation about it and tell them how you feel and stuff and I'm sure they'll help you somehow.

Answer 27

When I was fourteen I started cutting myself, it wasn't until my sister found out and told my parents that I got help. As scared as you are, you need to talk to you mom. If you tell your guidance counselor, she will be obligated to tell your mother, because you would be considered a danger to yourself. If you want help....you need to tell you mom. She loves you, and only freaked out because "her baby" was harming herself. Its normal for your mom to get upset at first, she may yell or cry...but in the end you will get the help that you need..and it will be worth it..I PROMISE you.

Whatever you are using to cut yourself, throw it away. I know at first it might seem impossible to stop, but if you want to stop....and it sounds like you do, then you need to start by fighting the urge and getting help so that the urges will go away.

I really hope your able to open up to your mom, I know its going to be hard...but just remember that its better for YOU to tell her, then for her to find out another way:)

Answer 28

well, i can scientifically explain why cutting yourself feels good.

What happens, is when you cut yourself, your brain releases what's called endorphin's which essentially give you a high, or a good feeling.

As for the depression, have you talked to anyone about it? thats the first step to solving it.

Think of what is causing your depression, and remove it from the situation. Just try to remember that you are not alone. you are surrounded by people willing to help you, as long as you will let them.

Answer 29

Try telling maybe a grandparent,aunt,or uncle and tell them not to tell your parents because i'm sure they'll understand.Don't stress yourself out about it because the more you stress the more you'll want to cut yourself.

And you can also stop yourself by going outside away from something you use to cut yourself.Try replacing cutting yourself with something else like a stress ball,this also works.:)

Answer 30

if you go to your guidance couselor at school they have an obligation to tell your parents

if you want to change then you can

your friends want you to stop obviously since thay give you c**p about it so they'll help you

tell your friends that you want to stop but you need their help

and if they really are your friends then they will help you

but when it comes down to it

youre the only one who can change yourself

if it means enough to quit then youll do it

youre friends will give you the support you need

Answer 31

your pretty young at this age, and im not sure what's depressing you but talking to somebody close to you can really help. Just think about all the people who care about you! Try focusing on something else? Do anything positive to get your attention away from this habbit. What good is this habbit if its hurting both you and your loved ones?