I want to have kids before I'm 30, but I'm only 21 right now. I just have that maternal feeling, and my husband wants to wait a few years. We had already agreed on having 3 kids before we got married and NOW he's changed his mind.
He only wants 2. I've tried to talk to him, but he doesn't understand how I feel. After he scolded me about it, I quit trying to talk to him. I don't want to force him, I know that ruins marriages and that nagging makes it worse. He now says he doesn't want kids until after 30 and I don't agree. He won't talk to me about it, everytime I try he get's angry and say's I'm nagging him. Now, everytime he sees children he sees the worst in them. He points out the bad parenting of other people but blames it on the kid. Yeah I'm sure that spoiled kid decided to be mean all by himself... He says he want kids eventually everytime I bring it up, but he says he doesn't know at what time he''ll want them. I'm very uneasy and seeing people pooping out babies is making it worse for me(in a southern state, so most people have a kid by age 21). Plus endometriosis runs in my family(mom, aunt, AND grandma) and I'm afraid I'll end up with it. so you see why I want kids before I'm 30. The higher the age, the greater the complications.
Bottome line: How do I deal with this? Do I get a dog or another pet I'd like to subdue the feelings? My husband doesn't even want me to have pets either.
All I have is college and household duties... He's always on the computer playing guildwars.
What do I do? How do I make the feeling go away? It's like a longing I never knew I could have.. I just want to wait until he's ready, but I feel like he never will be because of his actions. I know he wants ot be young and free, but why should I have to suffer? Any advice?
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