I want my baby back

Question

I had an abortion about 2 months ago because my mum didn't approve. now i am back home with her and miserable all i want is my baby back i feel so low and really resent my mum for not supporting me. i know i sound bad but i had the cont receptive in plant put in about a month ago and now i want it out all opinions welcome thanks

Answer 1

ok hunny, you cant go back and change the past. These feelings are completely normal especially after having an abortion ( especially if it wasn't fully your choice) But you also need to realize that if you take out the contraceptive you will be making a mistake on top of a mistake. You don't need to get pregnant because you need to feel the "void". They have wonderful programs for young ladies that have had abortions and need a support group. Look up your local CARE-NET in the phone book and explain your situation and ask if they can point you in the right direction. You now realize that you had made a mistake but in this situation time will only heal and to me it sounds like you need to pray and ask for forgiveness. You will probably get some pretty angry answers on here but realize that the only person who can judge you is God and you need to go to him to help work this out because he is the only one who will give you strength in this type of situation.

Answer 2

Ok, this is going to sound religious.  Jesus is holding and loving your baby right now.  It's ok.  It's going to be ok.  Everyone makes awful mistakes.  It's ok to cry, it's ok to love that baby.

And for anyone that's about to condemn her...SHUT UP.

I had an abortion a long time ago.  I thought I would be just fine, and I wasn't.  It was with me for a long time, lot of guilt, regret.  Now I know that all babies and little ones that die in accidents are in Jesus's arms and he forgives you and loves you anyways.  It's very comforting, even if you don't believe in God.  Your baby is in heaven.

Get some counseling.  This won't go away without talking to someone who has been there, and to just cry it out.  Don't let it fester, it can cause severe depression.

I tell everyone I can that I agree with a woman's right to choose, but they need to know the mental grief that comes with it.

Find a forum online that has this issue.  You can share and not feel alone.  A lot of women who've had abortions feel this way.

Good luck to you.  It will be ok.

edit.  What wonderful answers.  I agree with them, having the b/c out and getting pregnant won't fill that void.  It will be there, even when you have children later.  You have to work on dealing with this grief and don't try to band-aid it with anything, from getting pregnant again to drugs/alcohol or anything of the type.  This pain will still wait for you until you grieve totally, and learn to love and forgive yourself again.

Answer 3

First ask yourself:

Am I honestly responsible enough to be a parent?

Based on your question, I would have to say "not at this time."

You based your decisions on someone else's influence.  You also seem to think that getting pregnant again will make you feel better. These actions/thoughts are only done by someone who is not old enough to be parent, and someone who is not ready to think about someone other than themself.  

You have a lot going through you right now. I would wait this one out; possibly a year. In the meantime, get a journal, write down and process your feelings. Maybe talking to a counselor would help.  

Getting pregnant again is NOT going to make this feeling go away. A baby never replaces a baby, nor do they make things "better." The decision you made is going to stick with you for the rest of your life. Even if you do have kids, your first abortion will always be in the back of your mind. Forever.

Abortion is not a light issue, next time, I would suggest thinking about the "other person" who you are effecting. Adoption is always a possibility.  

Answer 4

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