I want my baby to get vaccinated when shes born but my boyfriend and his family dont?

Question

i dont know what to do. they think that the vaccines will do more harm than good but i couldn't imagine my baby getting a disease. she is due in 4 days and me and him need to discuss this but he always beats around the bush. then i have his mom and step dad constantly bugging me about it telling me not to get them done and c**p i dont know what to do ughhhhh

Answer 1

tell you bfs family tough luck , its not there baby

every kid i know has been vaccinated , its just ignorant not to get it done.

Answer 2

be careful, vaccines can cause illness, if you must have them wait until the child is as old as possible.

Answer 3

Whoa!

First off its not the grandparents decision and if they kept on, I would bluntly tell them that.

2ndly:

I think you are absolutely right by wanting to get your baby vaccinated. You have a couple of months to convince your boyfriend of it too (2 months they get their first set of shots), but if it was me, just being me, if I couldnt get my husband to agree to it, I would just tell him, she IS getting them, if you don't want them, then don't get them, but my daughter will be getting them.

The vaccination that has been in question is the MMR (some ppl believe it is linked to autism) and that is given at 2 years. I thought twice about it, but I decided for it. But everything else, there IS a reason they give it, the diseases ARE still very much alive and very common, and you are absolutely right on wanting to get your child protected from it!

The worst thing I ever heard or saw, was when I went to the doctor and kept hearing what sounded like a dog barking and saw the mom bring out her little boy who had WHOOPING COUGH, red faced, couldnt breathe and he kept coughing (that sounded like a crazy dog barking) because she didn't get him vaccinated! I heard her say it to the doctor himself. Kids DO get diseases and illnesses that are unnecessary when the vaccination is RIGHT there.  

Answer 4

Whether you get it done now or later, your child will ahve to get them eventually.  Especially b4 they start kindergarten.  The school will not let them in if they don't have them.  If I were you, I'd go ahead and get them done while the child is still small so they don't really remember getting them and the pain of the shots is forgotten.  But every child has to have them. Besides that, it's your child and you have the say so on what goes on with that child. Tell his parents to f.u.c.k off and mind their own business!

Answer 5

Were you vaccinated? Were they? more than likely yes, and you are all fine. there is a reason that those vaccinations are out there. If there was a bigger chance that any one of them could cause your child harm, they would be taken off the market. contrary to popular belief, doctors actually do know what they are doing and talking about. I mean, for goodness sake they did go to school for 12+ years. Did anyone in your boyfriend's family?

It's your baby, and you decision. You are the one that will have to take care of that baby when/if it does get sick. If you feel that strongly about it, then get the vaccinations. Maybe talk to the pediatrician and get him/her to help you explain to your family the importance of the vaccines and how the positive way outweigh the negatives of getting the baby vaccinated

Good luck and congrats in advance on your upcoming meeting of your new lo.

Answer 6

If you don't have Hepatitis B (they test for it during pregnancy), then there is absolutely no reason for your baby to get the Hepatitis B shot before leaving the hospital.

Hepatitis B is spread through s*x and intravenous drug use.  You child will have several years before that will possibly be an issue.

The Hepatitis B vaccine is one of the more dangerous vaccines.

This is the first decision regarding vaccines that you'll have to make.  Then you'll have until the 2 month checkup before any more shots are on the schedule.

If you decide against the Hepatitis B shot in the hospital, you have to make it VERY clear to the staff that you are refusing the shot.  Don't sign anything without reading it first.  It's best to have someone with the baby at all times to make sure it is not given.

Once you've decided about Hepatitis B, research every vaccine and the disease.  Some diseases are mild, such as chickenpox, rubella, mumps, Hepatitis A, and rotavirus.  Some diseases are a little more annoying, such as pertussis and measles, but are quite manageable, especially if you learn how to treat them.  (My child had pertussis (whooping cough) at age 2.  It wasn't fun, but I'd take that any day over the risks of the DTaP vaccine). She did not require any medical treatment, other than us giving her high doses of sodium ascorbate (a powdered type of vitamin C, which we mixed with water). Some diseases just don't occur in the United States anymore, such as polio.  Did you know that there hasn't been a single non-vaccine induced case of polio in the United States since 1979?  Between 1979 and 2000 there were about 150 cases of polio, all caused by the live oral polio vaccine.  They phased the live vaccine out, and since 2000 only the dead virus polio vaccine has been given.  Since that change in 2000, there has not been a SINGLE case of polio in the United States.

There is so much to learn about vaccines.  The information is both fascinating and horrifying.

Delay, delay, delay, until you are sure about things.  You can always give a vaccine, but you can never take one back.

Here's a link to school exemptions for different states.  Your child CAN go to school without all or any vaccines.

http://mothering.com/discussions/showthr...

Answer 7

most states require the children to be vaccinated before they can enter the public school system unless you can prove it goes against your religion. Their fears are unfounded and you need to do what's in the best interest of your child. There is no proof that vaccinations can cause problems for a child who is healthy.

Answer 8

its your baby. you have custody. give him the shots. no dr will share your babies medical records.  

Answer 9

You need to make the decision. Although your boyfriend's input is important it sounds like he is scared to make you mad and scared to make his mom mad. You are making the right decision to vaccinate your child,

Answer 10

I don't know why people are so against vaccines now. I had all my shots and I lived!!! There was a couple at the registration when I went to do my L&D visit and they were ranting and raving about vaccines and how none of us should let our kids get any shots. This is a personal decision and I think it is up to you not you BF's family. Do so research and make an educated decision.

Good luck and congrats.  

Answer 11

You need to convince your boyfriend... your in-laws DO NOT have any say in this.  You won't be getting the first set of vaccinations until 2 months, so there's still time.  

You both have to have an open mind and agree to hear each other's side.  That means you will have to do some research.  When I say research, I mean "evidence based" legitimate research from reliable sources (not the internet unless it specifically says "evidence based")

How about you say to your boyfriend...  How about if we each find evidence based information on the reasons why or why not our child should be vaccinated.  I don't know what the rules are where you live, but if a chid isn't vaccinated against certain diseases (not al the vaccines, but the main ones), they cannot enter the public school system.

You want to avoid any websites that end in .com because those are usually business and have a biased opinion.  

Type this into Google and go from there...

evidence based + childhood vaccinations