My biological father was a part of my life until about 10 years ago when we started drifting apart. It wasn't much more than I was becoming an adult and didn't keep in contact as frequently. Obviously, neither did he. I am 30 years old now, married and pregnant (and I don't believe he knows about either, but I could be wrong), and I received a phone call from him for the first time in 3 years this week. I have decided that I don't want him in my life any longer. I have no ties to him, I don't have any emotions about him and I don't really feel anything for his family or children. My mother was remarried when I was 5 and I was raised by my step-father, with whom I am very close. I just don't appreciate my real father trying to step in after all these years. I don't even think he knows who I am. I know everyone is going to say "But he's your father, you need that relationship" but it never was a relationship. He would pick me up on visiting day, drop me off at my grandmother's house, or after he had children I would babysit, and he would fall asleep until it was time to take me home. I understand his need to keep me in his life, but I'm not there. I also don't want to speak to his children. I don't know them and we couldn't be more opposite. They are also much younger than me, being 16 and 14.
I have taken actions to cut him out of my life but I thought that ignoring them all would have been the obvious answer. I now have to take more drastic measures. If anyone has advice, I would gladly take it! Thanks for your time and your help.
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