I want my fiancee to come dress shopping with me! Is it really bad luck?

Question

How many of you went looking for your bridal gown with your fiancee? And how many of you actually believe in superstition and would not have it at all??!!! I have mixed feelings about it. I mean we do everything together. It seems completely natural to me that he comes with me. But now its in the back of my mind, if something goes wrong i will blame it on that!!! Ahhh....what do you think? Bad luck or just bad rumor...Perfectly ok in your book!!!

Answer 1

i would go shopping with ur mom and a friend or just your mom so you can spend time with her and its feels special when he sees u when u walk down the isle but like emily said if u want to take him then take him

Answer 2

No, it's not bad luck. That tradition was born of a time when marriage was a means to an end, decided by families for alliance or wealth, not love of two people. The couple often wouldn't meet until after they had exchanged vows, so it was considered "bad luck" since they feared the couple would not like each other's appearance and would refuse to marry if they met prior to the ceremony.

My fiance' and I want my dress to be a surprise. It was a little difficult for me, because he's my best friend, and I value his opinion, so I know how you feel. The "wow" moment when he sees me walking down the aisle will be totally worth it, however =]

Answer 3

why dont you ask him to show you the style dress he likes so that you have an idea what would make him happy on your wedding day.  but I would definitely go without him shopping.  you want him to be surprised on your wedding day, not know exactly how you will look.

Answer 4

My husband was there when we bought the dress for the wedding. I had no mixed feelings, I don't believe in superstitions. You make your own luck.

Answer 5

There is no such thing as 'luck' - take your fiancee with you and have a good time.

Answer 6

forget about superstition, dont you want his mouth to drop when he sees you walking down the aisle on your wedding day. i think you should surprise him on that day with how beautiful you are going to look.

Answer 7

My friend went dress shopping with her fiance. She even had him help pick out the dress.

I didn't go with my fiance and he never saw my dress before the wedding. For me that was something very special. When he saw me for the first time in my gown walking down the aisle it was a completely wonderful moment. Nothing can take away that feeling.

But, certain things are important to different people. If you want his opinion then that's fine - I just think it is nice to wait because there is something special about seeing your new bride for the first time that day.

Answer 8

It's my personal opinion that superstitions are silly. The groom seeing his bride's dress before the wedding will not doom the marriage, that's just ridiculous when you think about it logically.

If you want to take him with you, I say that's perfectly ok. As long as YOU and HE feel okay with it, the h**l with what anyone else has to say about it.

Me, I'm not letting him see the dress beforehand, but that's for the surprise element, and not for silly superstition.

Happy dress shopping!

Answer 9

I won't let my fiance' see my dress till the wedding just so he can be surprised!

Answer 10

If you do, you will ruin the moment when he sees you in the dress for the first time when you are coming down the aisle.  I wouldn't do it.  You will ruin the moment between the both of you when you see him in his tux and he sees you looking just breath taking in your wedding gown.

Answer 11

Its not only that its supposedly bad luck- but why ruin the surprise for him? And its just not something you should do. The groom is never supposed to see the the bride's dress until she's walking down the isle.

Answer 12

I bought my dress long before I know my husband existed. I had a wedding half planned for 8/9/98, but my fiance and I went in different directions. When I met my husband in 2002, he told me that I bought that dress to get married in and I should do that.  He didn't see it until I walked down the isle with my dad.  I wouldn't have wanted it any other way.

Answer 13

LOL - My husband HATES shopping and would have been bored stiff before I got the first gown over my head.  He would have made both of us miserable.  

As far as the dress superstition ... it's only bad luck if you are marrying a guy who doesn't love you.  Since your guy obviously loves you, it doesn't matter whether he sees your dress or not.

Answer 14

I dragged my husband when I first started looking at dresses. We had VERY different ideas on what the dress should look like so I want to get a sense of what he had in mind.

When I picked out my final dress, he was not there so he didn't see the dress until the moment I walked down the isle. It was something we both wanted - adhering to tradition.

Answer 15

I don't believe in the superstition thing, but consider that you might want the specialness of the moment when he first sees you all dolled up in the wedding dress, hair and makeup done, all aglow with love and excitement - that's a moment which can't be recaptured.

Also I think going dress shopping is a special moment for a woman to do with her mom. If you haven't got one, then a close auntie, or close mature friend. You need someone with common sense who will tell you the truth in the differences between how you look in different dress styles.

My husband and I saw each other before the ceremony on the wedding day - but I was all gussied up and good to go! We had family blessings done at my mom's house before we went over to the church together.

Answer 16

I went with my mom, because it was just a really fun "Girl" time I got to spend with her.  Some women do go shopping with their fiancee, but I didn't let my husband even see it until the day we got married.  And no! :)  It's not bad luck to take him. It's just kind of tradition, you know the whole "Can't see each other before the wedding" thing.  If you wanna take him, take him! :)

Answer 17

I've got the same situation, my fiance asked to come.

I'm not normally superstitious, but I thought I'd play this one out, as if I was, plus I want to see the look on his face, which to me will be priceless.

It'll be one more special thing for you if you keep it between you and your OTHER friends, and surprise him later.

I did, however go with my fiance ONCE to a bridal shop, and tried on one dress, to get his opinion, and so he didn't feel left out.  Maybe go shopping/browsing with him, find out what he likes, and maybe ask what he is picturing you will look like.

I don't think you need to worry about "bad luck" or not, many people spend the night together or get dressed together.  I think it will just be a more fun process if you do this one thing without him.

If you still want him to go with you, there's nothing wrong with that, and I'm sure you'll still have a great time, maybe bring your mom/sisters/friends etc anyways so you can get lots of opinions.  Just be forewarned that a lot of bridal salons do not allow men to come into the back near the changing room area, so you may have to work something out.

Perfectly okay in my book.  Do what feels right or most fun!

Answer 18

If i was in your situation i would bring him along and get his opinion on some dresses. Than go back and buy the dress without him with you. This way he can still be surprised but you get his input.

Personally I don't believe its bad luck. Its your wedding don't let a silly superstition affect how you buy a dress

Good luck