I want my kids to have a big role in our wedding..?

Question

Our boys are going to be almost five and my youngest will be 3. Do you think they will be at a good age to our ring bears. And I think we are going to have sand instead of a unity candle.Do you think the boys at that age would poor sand with us and pray with us also.. I don't know I think they will be to all over the place. But I really want them to play a big role in our wedding? Thanks for any advice or ideas..

Answer 1

Only you can know what your children are mature enough to do. I've seen 5 year olds as ring bearers before but it really depends on the child. You could have them walk down the isle separately from  the bridesmaids kind of like their own little group and they could stand at the altar with you.  

Answer 2

the 5 year old should be fine as a ring bearer. he will like being treated like a big boy and dressing like the other male adults. at least most boys of that age do.

The 3 year old may be harder to wrangle.

You could also do a "family" part of the ceremony where you present each of them with a token or gift and have the minister pronounce you a family. That makes it not just about you and your new spouse, but also about making a new family including the kids.

Answer 3

The (Twins??) Older ones can be the ring bearers and I think you should find something else you want to have at the alter and have your younger one bring it up. Maybe you could have him bring up your veil in the beginning (woops you might be a guy).

Answer 4

I think the sand idea is great, just practice with them and explain to them.  When my cousin got married, his fiance has a daughter and they did another "vow" type thing for the daughter.  Something about my cousin being a good dad and treating her as a daughter as well.  It was really sweet and he gave her a tiny little ring.  Very cute!

Answer 5

you could have some1 like brides maids help them

they would hold hands down the aisle and just help them practice

let them go outside with some one afterward, and every one could go outside

and if they do good reward them with a nice piece of cake

Answer 6

I'm wondering why you waited over five years to get married - or is this a second wedding with children from previous marriages?

So, what is the story you'll tell your children? Mommy and daddy waited until years after you were born because they were waiting until they had enough money for a party? sad

Where are our role models for these kids? argghhhh

Answer 7

They would be fine as ring bears.

ive seen younger then your boys as ring bears.

and for the sand tell them to be careful and if they cant handle the sand simply have sumeone take them away from it.

just make sure they know the rules as best as they can!

Hope I helped!

Have a great wedding!

=]

Answer 8

Kids can be unpredictable in unfamiliar situations.  As much as YOU want them to have a "big role" they might not see it quite that way.

Better to let them have a smaller role that they can handle without being overwhelmed.  Also something that won't have a large impact if one of them freezes or has a meltdown at the last minute.  It's OK to tell them how much you appreciate them participating in the big day and how happy you are that you will all be one big happy family.

Ring bearer can be cute.  So can walking up the aisle with Mom and/or Dad.

Something else that might be nice is to have them join you at the alter when the ceremony is almost done and have the pastor present "Sue and Bob Jones and their children, Ricky, Nicky and Micky"  The kids can take a bow (if they are comfortable) and all of you can head out of the church togehter.

Answer 9

The older boys can be  ring bearers, and the youngest can pour sand.  He'll have fun doing that.  

Or you could do it the other way around.  If you trust your three year old, that is.