I want my wife to go to a nudist area with me (NOT for swinging) just 4 fun but she is a prude, what can I do?

Question

She knew I had been a nudist before we got married, and she even talked about areas we could go to but when it got right down to it she balked. I have NEVER been to any place where it was sexual (unless you consider being naked to be s*x - I do not). I have NEVER had s*x with anyone except my wife outdoors. I have been faithful since I have met her. I have NO intention of cheating. I have NO desire to cheat. I just love nudism and want her to experience it. I am wondering if I should propose we go to the clothes optional area near by and let me go nude and tell her to do as she feals. Would that be to much to ask?

Answer 1

Cut a branch off the back yard tree according to the ol' "rule of thumb" *wink* and show her some real old fashioned OTK.  That'll straighten things out in a hurry...

Answer 2

She ain't going, dude. So go by yourself. Didn't you know she was a prude when you married her? Get over it. Maybe she just doesn't want other people looking at her naked because she loves only you and her body is for your eyes only. Men can throw such tantrums when they don't get their way.  

Answer 3

Did she tell you why she balked?  I think you two need to talk this through a bit more.  She might need more information about what nudism involves, and you might need to work hard at understanding her reservations.

I reckon a clothes optional area would be a good place to start.  She wouldn't feel too uncomfortable with clothes on and she might even decide it would be fun to take off her clothes.

But before you can do that you need to talk some more.

Answer 4

I was just gonna say what Erin said:

Respect her wishes. Think of something else (erotic) that you can do together.

Answer 5

Well, perhaps it was something she thought she could cope with in principle, but has found that she can't in practice.  I personally am in sympathy with her.  I don't think nudity is either practical or appealing in most situations, other than very private ones.

If you want her to go to a clothes optional area, then ask her.  How can anyone else possibly tell you whether it is too much to ask or not?  Only she can do that.

However, my advice would be to try and get used to being at least partially clothed when you go out with your wife, it will make life easier for both of you.  do you really need to display your naked body to all and sundry?  Why?

Answer 6

respect her wishes

Answer 7

You can always ask, but there is a fine line between asking and badgering that you shouldn't cross.  There's a point when you've talked it through and there's nothing left to do but accept your differences and let her know that you'd love to have her along if she ever changes her mind, but until then, you'll leave her alone about it.

If she's talked about going in the past, and if she has a chance to test the water without having to get naked, I could imagine it might be okay, and she might not totally hate it, but who knows?  My husband and I went to Burning Man and got used to random naked people pretty fast even though we both prefer to wear clothes in public and probably always will.

If she says no, remember that although you love it and consider it harmless, she might just not get it, even if she doesn't want to squelch you.  Is it an option for you to go by yourself sometimes if she doesn't want to?  I know it might not be your ideal situation, but wouldn't it be better than nothing?

Answer 8

well obviously you should respect her modesty and morals. If you think she is a prude and you want to force her then she married the wrong guy.

Answer 9

Go by your self and respect her wishes. It may not be what YOU want but you have to accept it.

btw, just because she does not want to be associated with public nudity does not necessarily mean she is uncomfortable with her sexuality. I have been to a nudist beach and a naturist picnic area and both were disgusting sights.  

Answer 10

Don't try to force her to go if she's uncomfortable.  Leave her home and take another lady friend.

Answer 11

Go on your own.

Why pressure her to do something she obviously feels uncomfortable about?

You do your thing and leave her to have a weekend at home with her gal pals or sisters or whatever.

Just because you are married there's no need to be joined at the hip 24 hours a day, 365 days a year!

Cheers :-)

Answer 12

How would you feel, you knew your wife had used a strap-on on a previous partner, and she kept trying to pressure you into doing that. It's NOT cool to pressure, it's not taking her opinion or feelings into account. If she doesn't want to do something don't try pressure!

Answer 13

I suggest that you honour your wife's wishes...

Answer 14

Well, obviously is IS too much to ask for her, so drop the idea.

Answer 15

Respect her choice; stop whining and stop badgering the poor woman.  Stop nagging.  Go alone.  Take a buddy, whatever, who cares.  You two joined at the hip or something?

Answer 16

keep your fantasy to yourself.