I want people to like me and I feel bad when somebody doesn't like me. ?

Question

It's not like I cry or something but it makes me feel bad when somebody doesn't like me. I know it's not possible to be liked by everybody but I wish it was.

Any advice?

Answer 1

i feel exactly the same way as you.

i think you know what to do you just need someone to remind you that you musn't care about what other people think about you as long as you know you are doing the right thing and you think positively..the innocence is within you.

Answer 2

The best way to get (almost) everybody to like you is to listen to what they say and ask interested questions.

From the legendary Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People," (which is a classic book):

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

  

Answer 3

It depends on the reason they don't like you.  Different people are naturally drawn to people with various interests, personalities and tastes, whatever, and that's the same for everyone.  For that reason I don't feel sad if people don't like me because I'm not their taste in personality or whatever.

Another reason people can dislike you is gossip they have heard from others that isn't even true.  When that happens I think it is down to the person concerned to get to know me and not listen to rumours, so that doesn't upset me.

But if it is me causing them to dislike me by my attitute that is different.  If I was selfish, annoying, manipulative or insensitive to them that would make me really sad because I would dislike myself for what I had done.  But if you have done that, there is always the option to get constructive feedback from people, apologise and change it so it's ok.

Answer 4

Do you like everyone you have ever met; know about; have talked with? I would bet not, somehow I don't believe such a thing is possible. Do you like everyone in Y!A?

Answer 5

The reason you feel like that my angel is because you have a very poor self esteem.  You are under the impression that you are not worthy which is not true at all in fact you are listening to the lies of negative.

God made everyone of us to be someone. We all are somebody. None of us is insignificant. Each one of us has a role to play in the world be it small or large. There is room for everyone on earth and a friend for everyone too. Walking around thinking you are useless no good and unworthy, if not hopeless is simply giving ear to negative voices that are actually lying to you and deceiving you into believing their lies. . Carry on being negative and listening to all the negative things and you are going to find things just keep going wrong and you keep walking around in negative circles and with negative people and negative things that lead to nothing but destruction. Remember that negative draws more negative to it!

you can utilize them and do what you really want to do with your life!" If you include God in your life, you will not fear for God is with you, his rod and his staff comforts you. Goodness and mercy WILL follow you all the days of my life!" "Lord, walk with me, run with me and take care of everything for me. I yield to you! You know the paths I must take, you guide me and lead me and you restore my soul!" Let go the past and the things that have stunted you and choose to ignore the negative feelings thoughts and emotions you have and substitute them with positive thinking. Don't worry about people liking or disliking you.  If you want them to like you be positive.  People like being around positive people.  Positive people have confidence in themselves because they know who they are and are not fooled by the lies of deception that makes them try to please people.  They don't have to please people. They have an assurance from God that they are somebody so they simply be "somebody!"  You are somebody -God made you because he loves you and he made you to someone. God knew you before you were conceived in your mothers womb and when he made you he made you perfect. You are one of a kind, unique and with your very own thumbprint and there is no other thumbprint in the world the same. You are meant to be here. So now that you know that you are someone, (and just like the state president is someone) be all that you can be! Walk into a room with confidence, be serene and have integrity and dignity.  Don't be sloppy,dress smartly, and be strong and have the attitude of a winner. Sit with confidence, dance and walk and speak with confidence. When you do that people will look at you and say" Wow who is that girl, shes so confident and so nice!"  Its all about your attitude towards yourself.  People will treat you the way you treat yourself.  You are made to be special; then BE special!!!

Right now you are sitting in a mud bath of negative feelings and emotions that have you caught up in a pit of self-pity and misery and every one of them are lying to you and you foolishly believe their lies!

Everything in life is about choice. You can choose to listen to negative or you can choose to be positive, you can choose right or wrong, black or white, good or evil....it is entirely up to you! Either way you have to choose. With every choice there is a consequence. Choose to do the wrong thing and you will have to face the consequence of your wrong choice! Choose the right thing and you will have a positive reaction or result to your choice! You have to choose - bottom line!!!

Answer 6

If I'm reading what you're saying correctly, it's always about you. That your view of yourself is that you are so important or special that everyone should like you and / or want to know you.

I didn't say anything about people "looking  up to you" - big difference between liking someone and worshiping them. If your feeling are "hurt" it is because you choose to allow them to be hurt.

You can't be everything to everyone.

Answer 7

not everyone can like you. your personality is admired and preferred by some people more than others. for example, some people love being around outgoing people while others live sticking with reserved and shy people. it differs between each person so stop whining that everyone should like you cos it doesnt work out that way mate

Answer 8

You are caught in what Adlerians call "mistaken thinking," or what Albert Ellis called "erroneous thinking." And that is believing that you MUST be loved by everyone for everything you do. So long as you believe like that, you will have set yourself up to be unhappy by creating an ideal that can never be.

Here's the question: What do you get out of being like this and feeling like this? What is the payoff you want and expect from this?

Answer 9

No matter how great a person is there will be people who won't like  him/her ...we all get hurt, some develop a second skin better than others...what you want its empathy and to feel important, that's a priority to you in order to feel happy.

I work my way around it.

I don't think anyone really ever likes me for who i am or cares enough to get to know me so when they actually show me there true colors and let me know my theory its true i don't feel disappointed and if not it feels good to know they like me.

i have to live with this, i am used to it ... and whenever my feelings  are hurt i just don't let anyone know, i feel less humiliated that way.