I want stop doing karate but my parents want me to keep doing it?

Question

i hate going there

Answer 1

Get into a fight and say that Karate influenced you to fight. If that don't work tell them that it's a waste of money,time, and effort to go.

Answer 2

that happened to me so everytime class came i just made up an excuse or ate a lot of peanut butter or somthing else to make me feel wierd before class. depends on your parents though and if you like peanut butter.

Answer 3

Hmm this is tough.. because there are so many kids in the world today who's parents cannot afford to send them to something like karate.. but that doesn't mean that you have to love it.

What is it that you don't like?  Try to narrow it down to a particular part of karate... the instructor(s)?  The other students?  Or does it have to do with the art form of karate specifically?

There are many different types of martial arts, as I'm sure you know.  Maybe if you'd branch off into a different disclipline?

If that doesn't even sound fun, what is it that you'd like to do?  You willl have to have some type of alternative.  Since they obviously care if you are involved, you will have to have some other type of afterschool activity to switch to.

If you DO have one that you'd like more info about, don't be afraid to get all the information yourself.  Your parents are very busy, and may not have time to research a different activity for you.  I know there are several to choose from in most cities:  swim, dance, sports (baseball/basketball/football/soccer), etc.  Call a place in town to get more information... do they have an after school pickup? How much are lessons?  Is it a monthly fee?  

The more information you can present to your parents when it comes time to tell them you'd like to quit karate, the better.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Do you hate it because you're bad at it?

You should keep doing it, because you're going to regret it if you stop.

I know I do.

Even though it's no fun to do it, once you get good, you'll have a blast.

I'll bet you have only gone one day.

That's not giving it a chance.

Listen to your parents because you're obviously lazy and this'll teach you some respect and self-discipline.

Answer 5

When I was 8, I started Karate because my best friend had started.  I figured that since he hung out all the time, why not at the dojo too?

I hated it.  My friend began to dislike it too.... but our parents didn't let us quit as we had told them we wanted to 'do this forever' so to speak - they called us on what we meant by 'forever'.

So we kept going.  Over time, we were the top students in the kids class and outranked most of the adults (yeah, I know kid ranks aren't the same thing but still)

So we kept going.  Over more time, we began to ACTUALLY learn beyond what a kid can understand.  As our minds grew, so did our capacity to understand Karate...  so our Karate became better.... so we began to enjoy it more and more.

Years later, when we were old enough to drive, we found ourselves asking if we could borrow a car (his parent's or mine) so we could go to class.  How the roles had reversed.

I hated green beans, but over time my tastes changed and I started to like them.  Same with all sorts of different foods.

I hated reading when I was really young and had a really hard time of it in my early years.  My math grades are what prevented me from repeating a grade to be honest - the reading and writing just wasn't there yet and the frustration and blow to the ego made me despise the idea.

I am still not a big fiction reader and I'm not an author but I can convey ideas with words, I can write poetry and Haiku, I love certain science fiction authors and (usually related to work) I go through technical manuals hundreds of pages thick like I'm eating breakfast.

Once again... something I hated because it involved effort became something I loved AFTER I had understood the need for effort and the effort itself started to pay off in some sort of reward.

When I was young - work and hate were the same.  Now that I'm older, work and hate are the same IN THE MOMENT, but I understand that the payoff for things worth while isn't immediate....  I dislike the work, but I know its the route to something more important so the work itself is dismissed - just do it so to speak.

I hate getting my balls wet in cold water, but the faster I get over that, the faster I can start to have fun swimming.  I'd rather jump in over and over again than hand at the edge of the pool knee deep complaining about how cold the water is.

I don't enjoy getting a bloody nose on the mat because I didn't move fast enough.  However, when it happens the next time and I do move fast enough, it feels better than it would have it I had never gotten the bloody nose first.

Reading now wouldn't be as rewarding if it hadn't been a struggle when I was younger.  I wouldn't appreciate the ability to read if I hadn't had trouble with it personally.

Quit when things are tough and you will learn to never take a chance or accept challenge.  Life is full of both and although you will avoid the negatives if you never take chances, you will also miss out on all the rewards.

Its not about avoiding the bad - its about seeking out and working for the good.

Answer 6

only advice i can give as someone who love my art is if the style your in right now doesnt work with your body or mind switch experiment you can never gain too much knowledge plus giving up is no fun and you will probably regret it later

Answer 7

Why do you hate it?

Is it too hard?  

Do you want to be a quitter in life?  Do you want to quit every time something is too hard?

Your parents are doing this to help you, not to p**s you off.  You might not be able to understand that, but they are doing it for you.  You may not even be able to understand the benefits of it, but the benefits will come if you give it a little effort.

Everyone is bad at the beginning.  Kids these days expect to be experts at things in 10 minutes.  

Change your attitude, give it a fair shot.  It may not be the thing for you, but your parents probably signed a contract and they have to pay whether you go or not.  

Is it really so bad to give up 2-3 hours a week to make your parent happy?

It will help you be healthy and get strong.  2-3 hours a week isnt too much to ask is it?

James

Answer 8

Ok, well if you are a yellow belt or higher and are fed up with it, then I can see where you might be coming from. You tried it, but you just didn't like it. If you are a white belt and just started then i reccomend you stay until you are at least a yellow belt. Beleive me, once you know more, you'll like it better. But, you're parents do know best as well. Try to reason with them. Make a compramise like "I'll take karate until my next belt" or something of that approach. I hope this helps!

Answer 9

What age are you?

Your parents can't MAKE you do anything you don't want to but if you are still young it is worth listening to advice and trying out new things and seeing how they go.

The decision is yours though. It is a free country.

Answer 10

Why?

And why won't do they want you to keep going?

If you want to stop, be ready to work at it.

I'm betting that when you started, you were really excited.  Your parents probably signed a contract for a year (which is standard at most martial arts schools), and now you don't want to go anymore, despite the fact that they've paid all this money for you to go.  I can understand why they won't let you quit.

So why don't you want to go?  "I don't like it" is a bullsh*t reason.  WHY don't you like it?  Figure it out, and discuss this with your parents.  Discuss why THEY want you to go too.  This is going to involve more than one discussion.

Also discuss it with your Sensei.  Discuss what you don't like.  Ask about the contract and if there are penalties involved in leaving.  Convince your parents that you aren't just being lazy, and you really don't like it.

Answer 11

As a child some decisions you can't make for yourself. There are probably reasons why your parent want you to learn. Usually it is discipline and protection. I had my boys learning until I knew they could protect themselves and their mother if I weren't around. They later had the option of continuing or not. But there is much to learn.

Good luck.

Answer 12

Dude! I was exactly like you when I was young. My parents strongly encouraged me to take up Taekwondo. There were times that I really wanted to quit badly because I hated it. But as time passed by, I very much enjoyed it and wanted to continue on my goal to earn my black belt.

Don't give up on it! hang in there!

Answer 13

tell them I'm sorry but i just can not continue karate can i stop

Answer 14

Tell them that. They can not force you to do something you don't want to do. Well, that's not true in all cases but in this one it is. If they still want you to go, then make plans nearby with friends. I know that's not "ethical", but if you don't want to be there, they probably don't WANT you there.

Answer 15

Talk to your parents.  Explain to them why you want to stop and maybe an alternative activity you'd like to get into instead.  I used to play flute in my early HS years. (for school and private lessons)  I got really good at it really quick, thus it got boring really quick for me.  I talked to my parents, and they let me quit and join the swim team instead.  Make sure you have an alternative ready.  Parents like to keep their kids involved in something.  Means you're not getting in trouble! ;)