I want the Father of my unborn child to stay away from me and my child..?

Question

I am fifteen and a seventeen year old got me pregnant. He wants nothing to do with me but keeps telling me i have no choice in having him in my babies life.. He already has one kid with another women.. I am trying to find as many ways to keep him away from me and my unborn child when its born as possible? I need help it will be a while before it is born but i want the reasurance that he can't see my child..

Answer 1

Restraining order.

Answer 2

Krystal,

First off, can I please ask that you leave out unnecessary details from your questions next time, we don't really need to know that you cleaned his s***n off yourself and from out of yourself.

You actually have a very good situation to enable you to keep your child’s father out of your life. You are 15 and the child’s father is 17, by legal definitions he is a paedophile (as a paedophile is anyone over the age of 17 who is sexually attracted or engages in sexual activity with a minor (someone under the age of 16)). I would strongly advise that you don't call him that though as he will probably hit you for it and I'm not sure (legally) who’s fault that will be.

What you CAN say to him is that if he decides to be in your life, you will have him charged with statutory rape (he still committed statutory rape even if you gave consent as you are not over the age of consent (which is 16 years of age)). You can also advise him that if he wishes to be in your or your child’s life that you will make sure that the child support agency is aware of the situation and you will expect child support when he eventually gets a job (he will eventually get a job as the social welfare winds are changing at the moment). If these two measures don't work then you can apply for an AVO which will stop him or his friends or family from approaching you or harassing you, this can lead to criminal charges if he disobeys this order but the AVO is a civil measure so it won't stay on his criminal record and you can get full custody of your child legally which will stop him from having access to your child or he will face criminal prosecution.

If your reputation is really bad or if you want to play the sl*t card, then tell him that you slept with another guy within the same week and that you don't know who the father is (then make sure you put "unknown" on the child’s birth certificate).

Hope that all helps, most of this information is available online (search for legal aid through Google and make sure that the information is relevant to your state) or go to your local police station for more information (or a legal aid lawyer in your home town)

Hope that helps a little,

Good luck.

Answer 3

You're about to become a mother, which means that you now come second to your child.  How will you explain to the child that you refused to allow its father to have anything to do with it?  Doesn't the child have a right to know its father?  Whether you like it or not, he has rights and you are out of order in denying those rights.  It's time to grow up and deal with this like an adult - its not about you and your boyfriend any more, it's about what is best for the child.

Answer 4

tell him he better pay 5000 to prove paternity...he doesnt have it. And until then he has no rights to your baby

Answer 5

Carnal knowledge.................

l am sure your parents will support you here.......

Answer 6

Get a couple of things very, very clear here.

He did not get you pregnant. You both got yourself pregnant.

If he is the father he has the right to be involved in the childs life. Unless you can absolutely prove through a court he would be abusive toward the child I would suggest you will have to put up with it.

Just remember it was the two of you that got you pregnant. If either one of you said no you would not be in this situation.

You will get no reasurance from this kid.

Answer 7

Legally he can always get a court order for visitations and if you try to block him from seeing the baby you will be guilty of alienation of a child and that could be bad on you.  Unless you can prove him unsafe and unfit to be around the baby you will have no choice once he gets a court order.

Answer 8

you can put him in jail you a minor and its still rape and go to court and ask for order of protection that way he can come around while your pregnant but after the baby it born that's another story the court will have to decide that

but if you can show proof of why you don't want him around your baby then look for it now many ppl may see yeah a child needs their father but that's not always the case some fathers need to be kept away but only you know your reason for wanting him to stay away

Answer 9

legally you could put him in jail due to statutory rape, but you need to elaborate on the reason why you don;t want him near I mean HELLO he is the dad like it or not, don;t make the mistake of telling your child negative things about his dad, and unless the guy is violent towards you you can go to the police and get a restraining order, but you have no choice but to grow up now, and handle things as adults not as little kids cause obviouly you are not one any more

Answer 10

well..if he goes to court and files a order for visitation then you have no right to not keep him from his baby.

better idea, if youre 15...why are you getting pregnant????

Answer 11

Hey, I am no lawyer so I don't really know what you have to do legally. But I noiticed these days when your child is born it is NOT necessary to put father's name on the birth certificate. So don't put his name as father to start with. If you have his name down on paper as father then he will definitely be involved and also he will have to pay child support.

I personally think he is just bluffing. If you don't put his name down as father what is he going to do???? Sue you??? For a man like him I guess a) he doesn't have the money or time to sue you, b) if he keeps stalking you you can always put a restraining order against him. You see, he will have to PROVE the child is his first!!!!

Good luck with your baby. I am sure you will be a great mum.

Answer 12

you cant keep him away  from his child or he could take you to court and possibly get custody and if he doesnt get custody no matter wut he will always b able to c his child sorry..........

Answer 13

Well, let me start by saying that, if you really want the child, you should go ahead and have it. Pardon the language ma'am, but to h**l with the father. I think I can sympathize with you a little, since I'm also a teenager. But I can't go with you an the fact that you got yourself pregnant at your age. Not to blame you, but it was really irresponsible... Anyway, here are my opinions:

Personally, If you want to keep the baby from the father for revenge, it's NOT a good idea. The baby has its rights to at least know his or her father. Someday he'll start wondering about his old man, and you can't keep it a secret forever. Lies, or secrets, no matter how well-kept, are always found out.

But if you're keeping your baby away for a good reason, I'd say go girl! I'm sure your parents will support you...

Legally, you may have some problem. But these days you don't need to write about the child's father, especially if he doesn't acknowledge his child. If he goes after you, you could always go to court. If it comes to that, my advise is: find the best lawyer you can get and sue his butt off!

Answer 14

You were smart to ask people online because, well we answer the questions know practicly everything lol. well here i go

You need him to sign his rights of vistations making it clear that he has nothing to do with the baby. and if he doesnt do that take him to court because you feel indangered by this man, you feel he is scaring you to have the baby just for him to steal it. try your best to make him sign his right over though that is your best shot! im sorry i cant help you that much, but if he had a baby with another women that should have been clue number 1 that he is either dangerous or has no heart , he just left one and went to another.

Answer 15

You could be strong and plead 'your not the babies father' and make up that you were with someone else around the same time.  When the baby comes along and it comes to signing the birth certificate you leave him off.

at 17 he will need to get a dna test done to prove he is the father which in turn can get himself in to trouble for s*x with a minor.. He won't have a job and so he cant afford to get a dna test done.! Until he can prove he is your babies' father then he doesn't go on the birth certificate. As soon as his name is on that certificate it gives his every right to your child.

Get smart!!! I wasn't but wish to god now that i had of not been so moral about everything. It only let me to heartache and tears and is still going on.

Ppl can say what they like about you but you know the truth and the real reasons why you are doing it.

Answer 16

Think about the baby don't be selfish.

all kids want a father.  It doesn't matter if you get along with him or not he is still your babies dad.

Answer 17

Very funny may I say

I don't laugh at you but I find it funny how similar thing are

I was pregnant when I was 15 the father of my child was a year older. And about as BIG of a dumbass.

The isults the stalking the blowing up my phone. Got to a point where if I would explain I could get him into realy big legall trouble.

I wanted him out but I realized something maybe you haven't realized just yet.

Every child deserves a love from bother father and mother.

So I just told him he could get near me

When my child was born I fear him hurting my son. So I just asked him to come with someone else. He came once. My son is three months on the 22 and he came to see him once since he was born.

Boys tend to be stupid. So the father of the baby will proably do the same to you that he did to that other woman. Get you preggy & find soneone else who he can get and the process goes on.

You know now I wish things were difrent.

I have a child with a father that doesn't want him. I can't tell someone the silly noises he's starting to make. I don't have help when I'm super tired. But you know what? I wouldn't change anythhing. Becuase I would never risk losing my child.

Answer 18

unless you been abuse or put in danger theirs not much you can do he has a right to see the child . there are web sites out there on family law.

the child support laws are changing read them as well.

Answer 19

he has a right to see the child if you are worried about him taking it you can always go to family court. children need both parents in their lives.

Answer 20

i think your being unfair... at least he wants to be there for the baby... do you know how many girls wish they baby dad would help them?... you need to grow up seriously it's about the baby not you... babies having babies what's this world coming to?

Answer 21

Ask him for child support, if that don't keep him away, I don't know what will.  Wait....can you make a 17 yr old pay child support?