I want to adopt my friend who is being abused by his drug using parents and i want to adopt him.HOW?

Question

My friend is being abused by his parents who are smoking doke, sniffing crack, and taking eccasty. I'm wondering if I can call the cops on his parents and when they go to jail and loose parenting rights how do my parents (the're totally up to it) adopt him?

Answer 1

You can turn in his parents to social services.  What will happen from there is that your friend will be put in foster care.  If your parents are not foster care certified, your friend will go to another foster home, and they most likely won't move him to your home, even if your parents do get certified, because they'd rather not shuffle kids around unnecessarily.  The parents will be given a certain amount of time to get their act together and go through recovery, classes, etc. to get their son back.  Family preservation is the most important goal that the caseworker will have.  I'm guessing your friend is a teenager, so the plan might not even be adoption, even if his parents aren't able to meet the requirements to get their son back.  

So, basically, in order for your parents to be able to adopt your friend, you'd have to call social services, they would have to put him in a foster home, where he would stay until his parents have had the opportunity to meet the state's requirements.  Then, IF his parents fail, the caseworker would need to decide that your friend should be adopted into a new family, write a bulletin, and send that bulletin out to other caseworkers and social workers who have prospective adoptive parents waiting to adopt an older foster child.  Your parents would need to go through the process to be approved for adoption through the state by the time this all happens.  And THEN, the caseworker would need to choose your family as the permanent placement for your friend.

I'm not saying it won't or can't happen, but it's not a simple "go get him, bring him home, and everything will be fine".  There's a process to go through.  If you want him to come home with you, wait to call social services until after your parents have gotten approved for foster care, and try to get ahold of the police officer who handles the case, the judge, and your friend's casewoker as soon as he has one.  It might make the process smoother for your family.  But there are still no guarantees that his parents won't meet their requirements and get their son back.

I wish you luck!  And your friend, too!

Answer 2

First step is to turn the parents into the services.  Once they get all that paperwork processed, then you can probably step in to see what the adoption procedures are.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I'm not sure, but bless your heart and good luck to all of you!

Answer 4

It will take some time, but immediately turn them in.  Go with your friend to the school counselor, or go yourself.  Have your parents sign up for classes on parenting in order to get approved to be a foster family.  They'll have to have a home study, etc.  The local Dept. of Human Service, Child Protective Division will have information on how to do this.  The process needs to start as soon as possible.  Help your parents by keeping the house clean, etc.  If your friend has access to his/her social security card, birth certificate, etc., tell her/him to take it with him and turn it over to the worker who picks her up.  If not, the school will have copies,and DO NOT GET HURT TRYING TO GET IT!  See if the school counselor will help you, or a trusted teacher.  She can also call the authorities herself.  She needs to get out now if they are doing all that.  Chances are, she will go to foster care for a little while, and unless her parents do prison time (very unlikely) they might get her back, so don't do anything to really make them mad.  Good luck!

Answer 5

you can make an annonomous call to child protection services and tell them that the child isnt being taken care of and the parents are both on drugs. this will help. also you can talk to the police about whats going on and tell them that your parents want to adopt him, and how to go about it.good luck

Answer 6

you've gotten some good answers so I won't repeat them, but in most states there is an age difference to adopt. For example, in wisconsin you must be 15 years older than the person you adopt or be a foster parent too. I've heard some states are 10 years.