I want to adopt....?

Question

I want to adopt when I get older [im only 16, but have made up my mind] I want to adopt a baby. Everyone keeps telling me tht its realllyyy hard and that I should just have my own.

Here is my reason: I would love my own kid, [when I am like 26] but I would rather take in a child with nowhere to go and no family, then have my own.

So, my question, is it hard? How long does it usually take?

Thanks ahead of time, guys!

Answer 1

It also depends the age of the child you are looking to adopt.  Most want an infant, those take longer....the more specific IE hair color, racial type, eye color, gender....the longer as well.  Most people don't realize its not only a baby who needs a home.  There are so many older kids who are saying right now "The only thing I want for christmas is a home with someone to love me and a place I won't have to leave".  I was adopted as a child and I also adopted 2 boys who were 12 and it was so awesome I can't describe it.  

In my state for an adoption of this type, I had to become a licensed foster home.  That allowed them to move into our home and get to know me while the process was going on.  If you're dead set on an infant, foreign countries are quicker but also more costly.  

Adoption is a hard emotional road to venture...alot of disappontments and let downs and such, but when you hug that child when a judge announces you as family, the only other time your heart is that full is when you give birth to your own.  

At your age however, theres plenty of time.  You will grow and may not choose this path, which is good.  Just concentrate on your schooling right now...without it, they won't let you adopt anyway.  Good luck!

Answer 2

I don't know because I have never done it. I am interested in the answers though. I want to adopt too.

Answer 3

Domestic adoptions are around 10-20k, and can take almost no time at all. Adopting through the foster care system is much quicker and less expensive.

International adoptions can be over 25 thousand and can take anywhere from 6-12 months to complete.

No its not hard. You have to be older for interntonal adoptions, but only like 18 for domestic.

Answer 4

I am planning on a domestic adoption (canada, which in my provance is 25 years old for either foster care or adoption) through the foster system. It takes a very long time to get an infant, espcially for those with a shopping list in hand of what they want in a child. I do not care what age, gender or race the child is that I get aslong as I get another child. I prefer a girl, I prefer a toddler or infant, I prefer either native or white but I am not going to stick to those peramiters. All children deserve a home and love.

It is a whole lot less expensive (just your paper work to be filed which depending on lawyers could be under a hundred but almost always under $500) if you adopt through the system. It is more in the middle for domestic adoption through a private agency and it is most expensive for international adoption which is always through a private adoption agency. More people choose the international option because it can be a whole lot more quicker and it can be less restrictive.

Some people get a placement very quick say a year others I know have been waiting upwards of 5 years for a child. It is all individual because everyone wnts something diffrent, there is not many who go in saying 'I just want a child' anymore so many have a little 'shopping list' of what tehy are looking for. It has to be an infant, it has to be a male, it has to have this color eyes and hair. Why do it matter?

Answer 5

We have three adopted children, and are looking forward to adopting one more. Was it hard? We get asked that question a lot. It's a lot like asking how much something costs. If you have to ask, you can't afford it. I'm always tempted to tell people if you have to ask, you aren't committed enough. I know, I know, people are just nervous at the beginning and want to know what they're up against. Check out the link below from the agency we used... it will give you a good idea.

Really, every adoption is different and some take more work than others, but if you're with a reputable agency that helps you as much as possible, you just keep jumping through those hoops until your child comes home. The effort required is definitely not superhuman and the results are joy beyond reason.

The time span can be from a few months to years. It entirely depends apon the country, the age of child you are looking for, where you live, the agency you use and how stable the program is in the country you select. Our oldest took 2 years from start to finish, our youngest took only one year. All three were adopted from Korea.

Ignore anyone who says you're too young to be thinking about your future or making any such plans. That's just silly. We've met many people through the our agency who said they'd dreamed of helping the world by adopting a child ever since they were children themselves!

Answer 6

Yes it can be hard, but it can also be very rewarding.  Every state is a little different with how long it takes for the entire adoption process, try going through the Job an Familyservices, they usually have a guide with what to expect and how you can prepare.  Good Luck!

Answer 7

Why aren't you thinking about college right now?

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Answer 8

If you want to help a child who needs you, please don't limit yourself to a baby.  When the time comes, consider adopting a child out of the foster care system.  They truly have nowhere to go and they really do need families.