I want to appologize to someone but not sure if I should?

Question

I said somethings and acted really stupid towards someone that I knew about a year ago. This person was really nice to me but I may have damaged their reputation due to my actions. I've realized how my actions must have affected this person but don't know if I should bother them even if it is to apologize. I'm sure this person wouldn't be very excited to hear from me either and worry it might create more problems just by contacting them. What should I do forget about it or take the chance and apologize???? And is it better to do this by a simple note, a message through a friend or a phone call.?

Answer 1

A year ago? Now it´s too late unless they are family. You should have discovered your feelings of guilt and shame earlier. Now you only want to repair the damage because you feel bad. That is very selfish. It would be humiliating for them if  you now suddenly appear out of nowhere. Just leave them alone and learn for the future. Leave a note? You´re not being serious I hope!

Answer 2

Best to do it in a letter form to leave them the option of acceptance or responding.  You should apologize for your actions, but please do not expect that your apology will be accepted, or that this person will want to continue any kind of relationship with you if you do.  Leave that for them to decide.  Your only definite benefit of apologizing will just be that you did the right thing and have grown from this experience.  Anything extra will be a bonus.

Answer 3

Ally,

Stand up and be the person u should be. Face to Face... so they will know the apology is real!   No Notes<< chicken way ! A message thru a friend,<< sounds like u really did a number this time! And a phone call<< come on now. you admit you were wrong so stand up and do the right thing and if u want to do one better,, tell people that rumor they heard was a LIE!

Im impressed that you are willing to make things right! Shows your growing up

and being the better person!

bonnie j

Answer 4

Talk to the person - in person or by phone and apologize.  They can take it or leave it, but at least you'll have the burden off your shoulders.

Answer 5

I think it weighs on your mind and you know that you did something you shouldn't have done and the mature thing is that you realize this.. now if I was in your place I would go one step farther and apologize.. it doesn't matter if they accept the apology but then you have made amends.. you have done the right thing... People make mistakes in their lives.. we all do.. the important thing is.. to learn from them and to not make the same mistakes again.. if that person got really hurt by what you said then I think you owe it to your self respect and to the person to say that you are sorry.. don't hide behind another friend.. you made the mistake ...  you have to set it right.. you phone or you write.. but it has to come directly from you not via some other mediator in this matter.. phone if you can...  and ask for that person on the phone.. if it's easier for you to write.. then write.. all you have to do is explain and to say you are sorry.. We are not perfect. nobody is.. and maybe that person is mature enough to give you another chance and if not.. your concience in this matter is clear after the apology... which you should definitely give...

Answer 6

Well, if your gut instinct is to appologize, you should. It is better to get it over with and out of the way so that you can forget about it and not have to worry. The best way to do it would be in person or a phone call. Do whatever you think is right. Good luck :)

Answer 7

Hi Ally, sometimes a simple apology goes a long way, if they accept it then all is good, if they reject it, then they are not being gracious. A phone call is best, as it's not public or a note, no need to cause a fuss if they get angry. Good luck with the good intentions