I want to ask him to not say anything to her but I don't know how?

Question

I've been friends with this guy for about 3 years now, I was 17 when I met him and he was 22, I am now turning 19 and he is 24.

He and I became very good friends and he even considers my family like a second family.

He talks to my mom like he would his but he said he can be more open with her.

They talk about me sometimes and it gets annoying because he tells her stuff about me and then she gets mad at me.

Like I made a second myspace none of my family was on and my mom says she has to be a friend on my myspace in order for me to have one so she can look through my friends and such. Im turning 19 in a month and that pisses me off.

He didn't tell her I made a new one but he told her how I put my cell phone number under my about me.

My mom flipped and he wasn't too happy either.

BUT, my profile is private, every single person who is a friend on myspace is also a real life friend who I know very well. So everyone on there is ok. I have a few bands but they don't care.

Answer 1

just tell him buddy i know your looking out for me and all but somethings i just dont want to tell my mom so i think you should leave some of my personal things out (your specific things) or you can just not talk about me at all either one but im 19 and i need my secrets from my mom if i wanted her to know id tell her myself okay so just lay of cause it getting a little anoying you know and im the one getting in trouble so just lay off a little you know dont take it the wrong way though

Answer 2

grow up -the whole relationship, my space thing is juvenile and co dependent.

Answer 3

If you are living under her roof and it is her computer and Internet service, I am afraid it is her rules.  Time for you to find you own place if you don't like it.

Answer 4

Well for starters your an adult! Simply don't tell him anything you don't want your mom to know. Get a new friend to confide in, and don't let them get too close to your mom. LOL! I deleted some of my family from my myspace. I was tired of everyone being in my business. They can't make you add them as  a friend! (unless they have your password) Try talking to him and telling him how it makes you feel. If he disregards your feelings then you know his loyalty is to your mom and not to you.  Now if it's something that might put you in a dangerous situation then that's different. He's looking out for you. Anyway, Good Luck & God Bless!

Answer 5

agree stop giving him information that gets you in trouble. I had to do that with my sister for a while, because when I was in college she thought she was looking out for me when she told my parents things. (she was in high school, and very young and didn't understand how different of a life it is-so it's  abit of a different situation because he is old enough to know what is doing makes him a tattle tale)

On that note, have you asked him why he tells your mom things? Have you said that you are an adult and can make adult decisions? If he has no excuse, then I would not let him know about those kind of things, since he is not acting like a grown-up himself.

Answer 6

Very simple don't tell him anything then he won't have anything to tell.

Answer 7

You're almost 19.  You are an adult and can give out your number to whomever you want.  However, be prepared to put up with the mom c**p until you move out.  It will NEVER stop.