I want to be a mom that my baby can tell me anything..?

Question

me and my mom arent close, when i told her me and my ex broke up she went to his work screaming he raped her daughter..... then when i was failing in school she went up to the school with my aunt, without me knowing.. i cant trust her one bit, im 16 and having my first baby... i want to be close to her. i dont know how to make sure im not like my mom. it was h**l growing up, i want to be an amazing mommy, how do i gain my childs trust to talk to me with a problem or anything and know i really wouldn't freak out!

Answer 1

You appear to be approaching motherhood with a good attitude. You already know the kind of Mum you would like to be so I think you will be ok.

The closeness that you want begins when your baby is born & just continues naturally to someone  who cares, like you seem to.

At 16 you will need guidance on baby care but only you can decide how your relationship with your baby will develop.

Good luck & happy parenting.

Answer 2

I am close to my mother, but I wanted to be closer to my own kids.  There were so many things I couldn't talk to my mom about when I was growing up.  From the time my kids were born I decided that no subject would ever be off limits.  I made up my mind that when questions were asked I would "not react".  Stay calm, and think first before reacting.  My boys are 24 and 21 years old now, and they both still come to me with personal issues that some kids would never discuss with their mother.  I think we have a close relationship, to the point that their girlfriends have called me to talk on numerous occasions.  

Email me if you'd like to correspond - I'd love to be your friend.

Answer 3

Disipline.  Although it may sound weird, disiplining your child properly will ensure that you two grow close.

It's also a good idea, to consistantly attend church.  Good morals are a must.

Answer 4

Hey,

Im a 25 yr old single mun to a 3 yrs old.

I have a weird relationship with my mum, i hated the way she brought me up. a very long story.

when i was pregant i thought the same thing.

i love my son so much and he knows this.

i want him to tell me ne thing when he has a problem or just a chat. i didnt with my mum.

now my son is at school i ask him when i pick him up hows his day etc and in his lil way he will tell me.

i always talk to my son tell him what were doing and what he think, i couldnt when i lived at home.

i just play it by ear and do what i feel is right.

good luck it is hard but youll do fine.