I want to be a surrogate mother for my best friend no strings attached. What do I do first?

Question

Please understand my best friend for over 20 years has done everything she possibly could do without success. This is her only hope. I told her yesterday I would do this for her. She was in tears of joy. She has seen my children grow up. I have 3 children who adore her and want more than anything to see her with a child of her own. Her parents have no grandchildren and only hope one day to have. I personally have had my children and raised them, but would be proud to have a child for a couple who has so much love to give. How could this be wrong. How many abusive parents are there that don't deserve to have children. All I want to know is what is the first step we have to do in order to start the ball rolling.

Answer 1

I'd think really hard about this and what it will mean to you. In that it could be very traumatic. Before making an offer to your friend to do something so big I would look at all angles and speak to some people online who've done it and advice lines and such because although it is a lovely thing to do it will also be a very big thing for you and of course could be very traumatic if it's your first child. I'd have a think and a good read on all the information first. Although this is an amazing thing to do for your friend you have to think how you will feel throughout and after as it'll be just as big a think as for you. I really hope this works out.  

Answer 2

First I would talk to her about it. She might not want you to do something like that. After that I would try talking to a family/civil attorney about contracts, options, and fees. I would Google becoming a surrogate mother and your city. Maybe some helpful links will come up. Good luck!

Answer 3

Nothing, a child should not be created to be given away, I know you must have a huge heart, and it is definitatly in the right place, but being born to a surrogate is highly traumatic to a newborn. Even If you do not use your eggs, the child will only know YOU as mom. He grows inside of you for 9 months and upon being born he will only want you.

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Answer 4

You first need to talk it over between the 3 of you. If you become a surrogate mother, you have to remember you Will be carrying this baby. you will go through the changes and feel it move and grow. And in the end have to give it up. If you can do this, it would be a wonderful thing and I so do it. i  had trouble getting pregnant and had to have surgery and fertilaty drugs. if you all decide to do this you will need to find a doctor that does this. it does cost a pretty penny. that issomething else you will need to talk to you  friend about. the cost of having it and the medical bills.  good luck to all of you

Answer 5

wow. what a wonderful thing to do! first talk everything out with her. the pregnancy, doctor bills, labor, taking care of your children while in the hospital, etc. then make an appointment with a doctor. good luck!