I want to be a teen mom?

Question

I'm 17, and i really want to be a teen mom. Is this weird? I mean, i love children and babies. I was meant to be a mom. Except my boyfriend will be leaving for Basic Training for 8 months, and he doesn't want to put the responsibility of raising a baby by myself. Do you think having a baby this young is worth it?

Answer 1

You probably have this romantic idea of what it's like to have a kid - trust me, it's not all chubby cheeks and smooth bottoms! It is very difficult, esp if you're not emotionally mature to handle it. Right now you're at an age where you've been taken care of your whole life, and only had to worry about yourself. Having children is a wonderful thing, but you need to be prepared for it. Maybe you should focus on your career and finding the person you can raise a baby with. Boyfriends aren't forever. And being a single mum is incredibly hard. There's PLENTY of time to have children, you have your whole life! At 17 you should be travelling, studying and having life experiences, not changing diapers. If I were you I'd wait until the time is right, when you're more mature and have found your life partner. Good luck!

Answer 2

ummm.................................... NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!  chica u are still a baby urself . think about how unfair it would be to the child u knowing how young you are cant give the baby the best life possible ..wait plzzz!!!!!you have years to think about that you wanna have fun in these upcoming years!! not spending them wiping asses and noses

much luv;>

Answer 3

NO WAY.

I thought basic was like 6-8 weeks.

I am nineteen, SINGLE MOM, and I have a 15 month old.

It makes me sick to hear girls your age say they want KIDS.

I love my son with all my heart, but I wish I would have waited.

Answer 4

I would say no because if you have a bay you are stuck with it for the rest of your life!!!! it ruins your chances of spending time with friends, with yourself and your boyfriend and chances of a job. Maybe wait till you settled down and are married before you have kids!!!

Answer 5

NO, it isn't!  Trust me, you have your ENTIRE life to have children.  Wait, see what happens w/ your relationship w/ your boyfriend, get married, enjoy life w/ no kids for a while, THEN start a family!  

I started dating my husband in high school, we then got engaged and now have been married for almost 3 years.  We are now at a point in our lives that we are ready to have kids.  

Good Luck, and I hope you make the right decision!

Answer 6

No I don't think it's worth it. I mean, you're too young!

I understand that you love children, but think about it, after this baby, a huge portion of your life is devoted to it. If your boyfriend is not around, you will have to take care of it 24/7. No school, no job...how are you going to support this baby?! You really need to think about EVERYTHING that could happen, you know? I know you are excited, but you should really wait until you are financially  ready to raise this baby well.

Answer 7

Its very hard, but its so worth it! If you finish school and have a job, and you really want to go for it, being a mother is a very rewarding job! Hard at times but so worth it! Good luck

Answer 8

Alot of teens say that. It will ruin your life you havn't even gone to college yet, and babies need 100% care. There are no breaks and if things with your boyfriend don't work out you will have nothing but your parents. Watch the baby borrowers Wed. 8:00 :)

Answer 9

Its not weird, but it is too fast. Slow down.

I was meant to be a mom too, and I wanted to be a mom SO bad when I was a teenager too, but I have seen my own cousin be a teen mom and struggle through high school, and not be able to attend college. She was completely desolate until she met and married her now husband who's in the army(not her son's father), but it was a real struggle for a while and she basically had to give up all her plans for a future education.

I've had experience with husbands/boyfriends leaving for military training since almost every male in my family, including all the ones married to my female relatives, are all in the military and let me tell you, you WILL have the responsibility of raising the child on your own for at least the first year and it will REALLY suck.

Also, it is sometimes harder for men to get into the military if they have children. My husband and I were ttc before he went to marine boot camp and his recruiter told us to stop until he was out of his MOS training so that it didn't make boot camp and training any harder for him (since he would naturally miss his child, and that might lead him to not do as well and end up coming home).

Your situation is ideal for having children AFTER you are 18 and he is out of basic, since by that point he will be farther along in his military career and will have time off to be able to help you raise your child, and your child will get some excellent healthcare benefits.

It is too hard to have a child at 17, let alone in a situation where the father is going to be gone in basic training. Him being gone will just make it all that much harder and he is right to worry about leaving you alone with all the responsibility. Give it another year, see how your relationship works out, how his military job works out, and how your education and school plans work out.

Answer 10

if u r emotionally and financially sound, i think that would b fine, im 14 i have a daughter, and im pregnant with triplets, im both financially and emotionally sound. i love my life and wouldnt change a thing.

Answer 11

I have wanted to be a mom from the time I was 4 and my baby brother was born. But I wanted to be a good one and to me that meant being educated so I could help them learn, to be able to support myself if necessary so I could feed, house and clothe them if my partner decided to leave(which he did) and to have some life experience so I could give them more information than the basics.

I have 4 great kids and they are much better off because I waited until I could do my best for them. I started at 28 and had my last at 36. Now, I am not saying wait until you are 28 but at least give yourself some time to be an adult on your own before becoming a mom. Motherhood is a lifelong commitment and you have a lot of years ahead of you.

Good luck in whatever you decide.

Answer 12

don't do it! i am 17 too and have a baby boy that i love more then anything but it gets so hard even with my boyfriend still with me and we cant just be teens any more and that sucks so don't do it just wait a little bit longer=)

If you ever want to talk email me=) or if you want to ask me another question

Answer 13

you probably havent even finished high school yet. if you have a baby you wont be able to go to college therefore only able to get a min. wage job and how are you supposed to take care of a child working at burger king.

come on think about what you are doing your bringing a life into this world and you probably dont even buy your own shampoo.

grow up go to college get a great job a nice house and car then think about kids.

your 17 you need to be a kid yourself

Answer 14

NO trust me, a baby is hard to take care of, you'll be broke before ya know it, you'll have to deal with cring,vomit,p**p, if your BF don't want a baby but u get a baby anyways ur child will have no father, and care for a baby costs hundreds of dollars and do you have space for the baby, and 80% of teen moms become those type of people living in like...poor places, and 80% teen moms don't finish highschool or uneversity..its very hard and it will be a tough life.....so its either that or you wait untill you finish education,get a job, and have a happy family

Answer 15

Being a mother at any age is hard much less being a teen! Children are a big responsibility, a life long responsibility! You may THINK you are ready for a child but you aren't I can promise you that. Do you have a place of your own? Do you have a car of your own? Do you pay your own bills? Do you even have a job? Also are you willing to deal with everything pregnancy comes with right now? Pregnancy is 40 weeks which means 10 months, yes 10 not 9 like many people believe. You have doctors appointments constantly which get expensive if you don't have insurance or your insurance doesn't cover maternity. You have to buy maternity clothes because guess what your regular clothes won't fit for long. You have constant lab work done. You also get to deal with morning sickness, headaches, stretch marks, constipation, peeing every 30 minutes, hemorrhoids, swollen feet and ankles, feeling tired all the time. And lets not forget the labor and delivery. Go watch a video of a woman giving birth. And that isn't even the beginning. Just think of all the cost for the baby. You have clothes, diapers, bottles and formula if you can't breastfeed, wipes, shoes, socks, a crib, crib mattress, baby powder, baby lotion, diaper rash cream, toys for the baby, a baby tub, stroller, carseat, swing, bouncy seat, the list goes on and on. Lets not even begin on the emotional stress you will go through.

Answer 16

I would wait until you and your boyfriend are both at home to raise the baby together.

i would also wait until maybe your SURE that you and your boyfriend are going to be together forever.

Im not trying to upset you, but I see a lot of people THINK they are with their future spouse, so they have a kid, and then it doesnt work out.  I would wait and maybe get engaged?

This is just my opinion though, Im just saying it would be good for you, so you can have someone to raise the baby with, and the baby would for sure have a dad forever.

You sound like you would be a good mom though =]

Answer 17

don't think that is the best idea you will miss out on so much!....my friend had a baby at 18 and she never gets to have fun we are 23 now and she has missed out on everything fun that we all got to do! don't rush to grow up!

Answer 18

It is totally up to you. I am a teen mom, i'm 17 now and i had my baby girl when i was 16. She takes up ALL my time. I cant go out whenever i want now but i dont mind. Sure, it geting tiring always up and stuff but i know it will pay off. Do i regret it? not at all but i know i missed out on being a teen but i wouldnt change it for the world, i love my baby.

So its up to you. Some people will treat you differently but if you think your ready to be a mom and your willing to give up everything for them, do it! =]

Answer 19

ok, well i hear the younger u r, the healthier ur baby will b.

i dont think its weird, it just might b a little difficult without ur bf.  well u could have s*x now, and by the time he gets back, u will b ready 2 go into labor.  or wait til he comes back, if u want some1 2 take care of u.

good luck sweetie, dont let any1 judge u 4 this, its ur life.

Answer 20

you shouldn't want a baby at that age. you're young you have a life ahead of you. at 17 you don't have a career yet, if you have a hs diploma. why would you want to put yourself in a struggling situation (young mother w/no career)?

Answer 21

Well, hows this... honey:

think about it:

You want to take care of another HUMAN BEING, with your boyfriend... out of wedlock... (he'll just leave you anyway),

I bet you can't even take care of YOURSELF perfectly.... how do you expect to take care of a baby?

The sleepless nights?

the daiper changing?

the shame upon your family?

your babies reputation and future?

Its not worth it.  Wait until your older.

Answer 22

You go right ahead and have all the babies you want. Just don't expect the rest of us, you know, the ones that work for a living, to pay for it. If you have health insurance, a job to feed the kid and pay for daycare then, fine, do what you want.

But I don't want the mone I work hard for, to be confiscated by the government, and then paid out to someone else to feed them and their kid.

Answer 23

I.. well You see I don't think it's a really good idea

You are still young..you have a lot to go thru!=] But if you really feel like bein a mom and form a family ..it's up 2 u!

But I personally think it's not a really good idea,babies are too much of a responsabilty...

Answer 24

Well if you really want to be a mom, talk to your parants, explain to them that the was gods order, for you to be a mom. and your so excited and you really want one now and cant wait.... Now about your boy friend leaving for training. wait until he comes back, you cant handle a baby without 2 things: your parents support and your partners support. I would say if that is gods destiny to make you a mom, so be it. but wait unitl he comes back so you will both be happy.

Answer 25

think it through and talk to ur parents. If i were u I wouldn't. BUt if u ABSOLUTLY DESPERATLY POSITIVLY BELIEVE YOUR READY ... you should consider adopting a baby. BUt think it entirly through first. or try working in a daycare center to fullfill your love of children

Answer 26

You will never get a career going until your baby is old enough to take care of themself, which is about 14, and by then you're 30. Plus, the idea of it might be great, having someone there to love you unconditionally, but the money and the effort and most of all your youth that goes into raising the baby will be too much for you to handle.

Answer 27

*sigh*

wait until your eighteen at least. have a steady job, and probably live on your own. if everything else is alright, go ahead and become a parent, but think of all the finances you need. diapers, food, crib, toys. you dont want to juggle too much. i suggest you wait until everything in your life is completely stable and wouldnt change too much with a child in your life.

Answer 28

its not worth it you should have one when you have a stable relationship, married, have your own home, and a job that pays good try to wait until your a few years older once you have a baby its not all fun and games and hats something you can never take back so make sure you choice wisely and enjoy it while your young without the responsibility of a baby

Answer 29

My mom had me young and then my imature dad left her all alone. She was a single mom with no where to go her parents didnt even want to be around her. Most men dont want to marry a single mother so it took her ten years of just getting by to find a "decent" man. Come to find out he was abusive and beat her while she was pregnant with his soon-to-be son. Then she was stuck with two kids and no job. It took her another ten years to get back on her feet. My brother now suffers mental problems because of the trauma he faced inside the womb and outside in the real world. The scars of his abuse wont heal. So i'd say not. Get on your feet and wait about ten years.

Answer 30

uhm. it depends on how mature you are.

if you can take care of yourself then yeah id say you could have a child.

but keep in mind you might wanna wait a while until your older cuz you might wanna party and have alone time with your boyfriend before you guys have any children.

and basic training is really hard for most people so you dont wanna put even more anxiety on your boyfriend than he already has.

cuz it will be estra ESTRA hard.

ya know what im sayin?

Answer 31

lots of people say they want to be a mom at a young age but when you have to wake four or five times a night to change and feed it they usually change there mind.and you have so many things you could do with your life before having kinds