I want to be with her..my best friend.. but.. she's afraid of loosing me.. what?

Question

Me and my best friend wanted to be together..

at first she said she can't imagine being with me because she might loose me.

I just can't understand it. of all the people that she's going to be scared being with or loosing.. why me?

I mean.. why should she be afraid of loosing me? because in the first place, i'm the last person who'll do that.. because she is my best friend.. I know for a fact that I'll fight for her.. I gave up my pride just for her. I always go out of my way for her..

She said we might have a chance in the future..

but she has a boyfriend now.. (sadly its not me)

She keeps on talking to me now..

I told her i want to give us space..

she on the other hand doesn't want me to go anywhere..

she doesn't want me to leave..

She said she's not serious with him but even though..

It's still hard for me..

I feel like time is ticking away and I need to decide on what to do..

what would you do?

Tomorrow, she'll be sleeping over at my place along with her thesismates.. I dunno what will happen between me and my best friend..I feel its going to be awkward between us..

Answer 1

Something doesn't sound right here.  She is your best friend but yet you are in love with her. I think is time you've made that clear with her so she knows where she stand with you and you know where you stand with her.  Once each knows its place it will be less awkward and you will either proceed as more than friends or will stay as friends.  You need to be prepared for either outcome.

Answer 2

To be 100 percent honest with you eric, moving up from the best friend status to something more is almost impossible or when u guys break up if you do end up together it is never going to the same with you guys. Its not worth giving up yourself for a female, its better to give what you have capable instead of the capability itself. If you really truly think that you guys may have something that can truly work, give it your all, start small to get away from the friend status to a little more.

Answer 3

She likes you, it's just that sometimes, after a breakup things are awkward & you guys might not be so close anymore.  Try & reassure her that you'll be ther for her, no matter what.

Answer 4

doesnt she no that the best relationships start out with being best friends...they can last a life time,,but it also sounds like on her part ,she really doesnt love you like you r n love with her ,i think you need to find a gf of your own,let he see your not going to wait,for her phone call,n u never no u just might relize shes not he love of your liffe,,,go out n have some fun,,start cking other girls out,,,peace