I want to buy a marriage counseling program online but I think my wife take it wrong. What do you think?

Question

I want to get the program found here http://www.marriagemax.com/

It is like a marriage counseling program that you can do with or without your partner. I think my wife will get mad and say we do not need it or something like that. I just want to better myself so that I can be a great husband to her. I have told her this but I think she will be offended. I just think there are better ways for me to give, learn, and strive to be better as a husband and this program may help. I'm not asking if this is like a good program or anything either, I just know she is against counseling because she does not want "to be talking about our problems to stranger." It is something I can do by myself but I still think it will bother her.

Answer 1

Though I think it is great you are trying to take the steps to be a better husband she needs to also take the steps to being a better wife. It takes two for a marriage to work. No matter how much studying or counseling you go thru if she is not on board your marriage is not gonna work or problems won't be solved if she is not doing her part.

I suggest if you do get this program it has to be something that you can do together. If you can't work out your problems and concerns by communicating together than I think your marriage is in real trouble and you may not have any choice, but to see a therapist.  

Answer 2

I think if your marraige is in turmoil, your wife should know.  And if she sees that you are just trying to BETTER your marraige, she will understand.  If not, then I say you still need the counseling.  

Answer 3

The 'stranger would cease to be one when talking and sharing the problems and issues'.

And, who does she see with medical problems, a family friend?

I've no idea about the programme you refer to, but I would be strongly suspect of it.

It might help you to go and see a counsellor on your own.

Good luck.

Sash.

Answer 4

If you think it will bother her then it's not a good idea to do it behind her back. Talk to her and explain what councelling is all about. Tell her that it is completely private. Explain it to her why do you really want it in the way you explained here.

If your marriage is in trouble she should be more willing to participate in making it work. Sorry, but you can't make it work on your own, without her participation.

Answer 5

There's no substitution for a real, live, marriage counselor.  Forget the program and find one. If your wife is interested in having a good marriage she will cooperate.

Answer 6

Open communication is a big step.  Talk and be honest that you want to improve.  If she likes the idea, let her know the door is always open for her to join in.  Just make it clear you have no expectations of her.  Open mind and arms are a key.