I want to elope! What are pros and cons of eloping?

Question

I want to elope! What are pros and cons of eloping?

Answer 1

Eloping is less expensive and a lot less work.  You don't have to plan a menu, deal with finding a nice dress/matching shoes/hairstyle, deal with music...

But you don't get to celebrate with family and friends.  

Your decision will depend on what is more important to you.

Answer 2

I want to elope too! Our pros are:

-we won't have an obligation to invite family and family friends who never really supported us anyway and would only come for the free food

-we will save loads of money (we planned on spending $10k for a really pretty wedding and to go will cost less thatn $100)

-it will be something personal that we can always reflect upon with happiness



the cons:

-family we do like will not be able to attend

-I don't like secrecy

-actually, that's about it

And those are just for me and my FH, if you have a good relationship with your family, it might be worth it to invite them (because a courthouse wedding is just as celebratory as a giant wedding in a ballroom).

Answer 3

http://weddings.about.com/cs/bridesandgr...

The above is a really good article on eloping.

Answer 4

i went to a wedding that only invited immediate family and a few very close friends and we went out of town.  There was about 30, and the bride and groom had the best time ever...all the guests had the best time as well.

Answer 5

Pros:

-Cheap and relatively easy (find a judge or officiant and a place)

-Intimate, private, something special between the two of you

-Forego months of wedding planning, worry, stress, and throwing away thousands of dollars on one day

-Exciting, adventurous, nontraditional; you can do it however you want with no outside opinions

Cons:

-Family and friends aren't involved and may disapprove or be resentful (some might not get over it), especially if it's a surprise

-Regret about not proclaiming your love in front of everyone who matters to you (and perhaps not feeling as "legit")

-Wedding won't be a big deal with all the anticipation, celebration, photos, memories; instead it's quick and dirty

-Few cards or presents

Answer 6

pros:

- more intimate

- less hassle

- less people you feel that you need to please

- cheaper

- romantic

cons:

- you're family and friends won't be there

if your family gives you c**p for them not being there, they're being selfish. this is YOUR day. do what feels right! good luck!

Answer 7

I eloped, and it was the best decision I could have made. A pro and a con would be the cost. We got married in Niagara Falls, ON, CA. We hired a wedding planner because planning a wedding from 1,000+ miles away is a challenge in itself. Our wedding planner basically took care of everything. All we had to do was get the marriage license and enjoy. She made dinner reservations for the night of. She talked to the florist and the bakery. She talked to the on-site wedding coordinator. She did everything, so their was no stress on my end. She talked to me on a daily basis. Basically, she told me to tell her everything I wanted, and she would make it happen. We had a photographer, a videographer, cake, etc. We had everything like a real ceremony minus the family and friends. I will admit that destination weddings can get a little on the pricey side. My husband and I are very private people, and our families wanted to turn the wedding into a production. To combat that, we eloped. Our families were stunned at the renewal ceremony because they thought it was the first one. The looks on their faces were priceless. Eloping can be an adventure. I had twice the adventure and fun because my birthday and anniversary are on the same day. We left on Thursday, got the married license on Friday morning, got married Saturday morning, and left on Sunday. When we returned, no one was suspicious because we told them that we were spending the weekend together for my birthday. Eloping is good if you want to save money or just avoid the hassle of a big wedding. The advantage for me was the fact that when we did renew our vows in front of our family and friends, I was not stressed. I was able to enjoy and live up the day and night. Planning a wedding is stressful. You don't have to have the big elaborate thing like we did. You can easily go to the Justice of the Peace or city hall. If you have anymore questions, feel free to ask.

Answer 8

no family(pro and con) they wont be there 2 annoy u during the planning, they won't be there 4 the joy. and if they're not there they will hold it over ur head.

Answer 9

One pro is that is cheaper.  Gown and the rest of the normal is not needed.  Another pro is that there is no headaches in planning.

Con is regreting that you never had the wedding thatyou wanted.