I want to experience it but not to keep. is this wrong of me?

Question

i am a 17 year old female. i always wanted to experience being pregnant at a young age, i no i am not responsible enough now to have a child of my own, just want to know how it feels to be a young pregnant teen so one day i can help those young teen who made the wrong choice.experience the feeling and reactions of others. thats why if i was to get pregnant at my age now i would have a the baby and give him/her to a loving couple who cant produce. is this wrong of me?

Answer 1

im 24 and got pregnant when i was 19 and had my baby when i was 20, You cant lecture what you dont know, no matter what me or anyone else tells you on here your going to have to take classes or a course before you THINK you should give advice,personally i think if your thinking of giving up your baby to a family that cant produce you should think about the CHILD that in a few years time is asking WHY DID MY MAMMY NOT WANT ME. its shamefull and every woman can protect themselves against pregnancy if they trully dont want to be and take the right precautions! best of luck!

Answer 2

idk im kinda on the fence with this one.

i mean i would love to have a baby but cant for the life of me get preg. and i dont have the money for treatment or adoption. so in a way it would be nice to do but at the same time kinda wrong.  

Answer 3

im sorry but i do think this is wrong.

do you mean  through IVF? or do you mean you will be inseminated by a womens husband?

basically you want to be a surrogate.

being pregnant is hard, i fell pregnant at 17 and its so far from fun, sickness,fatigue,stretch marks the list is endless.

then theres labour, by labour lasted 3 whole days and i wasn't given ANY pain relief becasue they refused to give it to me. My cervix was so swollen during labour i had to hold off pushing for 5 hours!! so just when i thoughT the agony was about to end i was told i had hours left!! i couldnt walk or bend forwards, all my nerve endings felt like they were on fire, it was pure h**l!

So your saying your willing to go through 9 months of discomfort with lots of sheer agony at the end, to just give away an innocent baby?!

trust me if this master plan of yours ever goes ahead, you wont want to give up your baby.

surrogates are usually already mothers, who have years of experience behind them.

Teen pregnancy is not something you want to experience trust me!!

and if this is your plan that makes you a very naive person.

Answer 4

You are misguided in your belief that you can go through this and not  have any after affects that can change your life forever.

Giving a baby away for adoption isn't as easy as your cavalier attitude suggests. And your willingness to 'give him/her to a loving couple' is not laudable but frightening. You are speaking of a human being as if they were no different than a present! That is WRONG!

You would be much better served to lay off the baby fantasy and your notion to 'experience being pregnant at a young age' and get an education, get a job and become secure in being an adult before taking on the responsibility for a child which you may not be willing or able to give up.

Plus, have you considered at all that this fantasy baby you are so desirous to produce may be handicapped and therefore not a suitable candidate for an adoption?

Or pregnancy may not agree with you and you could be ill, suffer complications or even die. It does happen.

Answer 5

It is great that you would like to give a child to a couple who cannot have one on their own, however I would wait on that until you are older. Being pregnant is not something that a 17 year old should choose, whether she is wanting to keep the baby or not. It is 9 months of having your body completely taken over in more ways than you can even imagine. I understand you feel that experiencing it young would help you to help young mothers in the future - but you can do that without having the experience. It is called empathy and education.

I definitely think it is a BAD idea to get pregnant right now just to "experience it". If you know you are not responsible enough to have a child on your own, you should also realize that you may not necessarily be equipped to handle the pregnancy itself.  

Answer 6

That may seem like a good way to help others but bad things could possibly happen also. You get very attached when you have carried a baby that is part of you for 9 months (no matter how young you are) and it  is very difficult to let something go that you love so much. The other thing could be that even though you think that you are sending your baby to a great family that is not always the case and has the possibility to be sent to an abusive or even more dysfunctional family then your own.

I had my first child 2 months after I turned 17, and I could not imagine giving him to someone else. There is a bond there that forms before birth. He is 9 years old now and I cant imagine life without him.

I think if you get pregnant (by mistake,or bad choice) then it could be considered as an option but not something to do just to help others. If you really want to help others then donate a kidney or something, it saves lives.

So please don't get pregnant until you have a healthy loving family to bring your child into.

Answer 7

Well you won't actually be a young pregnant teen.  I think that the wanting to help someone else is great, but you don't actually need to experience it for yourself.  In another year or so you can try to be a surrogate mother.  But just to get pregnant to experience it, I don't think it's right.  What will you say to the kid if he finds you in 18 years?  

Answer 8

i can understand where you would be curious to see what it was like. but trust me you wont want to go through with it. there are a lof o pregnant teens in my school, and just having people constantly talk about you seems bad enough, not to mention you'd have to carry about a baby for 9 months, then deal with letting it go after you carried him/her for so long. i am 17, never been pregnant, so i can't tell you the real pros/cons, i can just tell you my opinions..and it doesnt sound like something you should go through with. wait til you have a child of your own (and your older) to experience the beauty of having your own child..to keep..and love..and then help the young pregnant teens (if thats what your interested in for a profession) because i think you'd have more success by telling them your experience of keeping your child, instead of giving it up which many teens do, it just sounds like then they would think its ok to get pregnant so young and more and more teens would have babies...get what i'm trying to say?