I want to get married, but where do I start?

Question

I'm 23 years old, I have a 22 month old son, and I've been engaged for almost 2 years now. At first my fiance and I didn't have enough money to get married, so we decided we would wait and save up some money for our wedding (instead of borrowing money from the bank).

So now we've decided that we have the necessary funds for this wedding, but the problem is, I don't even know where to start! All those websites on planning weddings, don't really give you any idea of what you should do first, or how to go about setting anything up, so I'm sorta lost in the whole process.

We don't want a big wedding, and don't plan on inviting alot of people. We probably won't get married in a church because neither of us are really religious. I also don't know what we should do with our son since he is too little to be a ring barer or anything like that. Helllllp! lol

Answer 1

first off, descide where to get wed and by whom, as this will affect the date setting

get a few options and look into places where you can have the resception (if you dont just go out on a resturant), as that booking and that of the ones wedding you etc have to match up

once the date is set, you need to send out invites

and then you can start looking on the rest of the stuff, like actual ceremony (can be discussed with the one who wed you), dress, menu etc

because geting the place of wedding and resception so it match with a good date for yourself as well is a break it point, and also will have an affect on how much money you have left to spend on the rest of the stuff

Answer 2

Congrats :)

1. Here's the budget file I use... change the fields accordingly but first look at everything: http://www.vertex42.com/Links/go.php?url...

2. Get a wedding planner book or just use online ones. Better yet go to a wedding show and they usually give it for free.

All details are in the book or online: http://www.blissweddings.com/wedding_pla...

Another thing, just post ads on your local website's craigslist for florists, photography etc and see who gives you good deals and use those prices as negotiation tool later on.

All the best :)

Answer 3

Congratulations on starting your wedding! It is a big process to do!

First - I would pick the time of year that you want to get married. That will help to narrow down the places that will work for you. Personally, I got married in January, so outdoor venues were out of the question. We got married and had the reception in a hotel that had a huge room for events like that. The first thing you'll want to nail down is a venue.

Once you have where you are getting married, you can start to determine the decorations/color scheme that you want. Start small - pick some colors you like. You can base a lot of decisions (flowers, dresses, decorations) on your colors.

Don't try to do everything at once. We planned our wedding over a year and a half - that helped a lot with the stress. I would suggest trying to get married on the off-season (November - April) because venues and vendors are more available.

Congrats!

Answer 4

first thing first pick ur date, then where u wanna get married then where u want the reception, then the time all of this will happen then make the guest list( u will need to know this when u book the reception and ceremony) then look for a photographer and dj ( they book up fast) the rest will fall into place. i too have just started planning. that is the order in which i did things and i think i am doing well... good luck and best wishes