I want to get married?

Question

im a single 21 year old guy and i really want to meet someone. I dont believe in premarital s*x,i think its morally wrong. but s*x is something i really want. not just that, i want to have an open,intimate relationship with someone i love.this is a huge desire i have. what can i do? any advice?

Answer 1

Well, you have to meet people. I don't know how you would go about this, but ask some friends if maybe they have any single girl friends. Just be social -- go to parties and maybe go out at night more frequently. Don't expect to find "the one" the first, second, or maybe even twentieth night out on the town. You have to meet a lot of girls, get to know them, etc. Don't get married too quick though, and be sure that you're not getting married just because you want to have s*x -- it won't end well. And, I will warn you of this: Most women your age will not get married at this point in their life. They're in college, or nearly graduating, and for most girls it isn't the best time for marriage (emphasis on that -- but we loooove to date a lot though. LOL) And, I speak for like 85% of women here when I say that when proposed to and after accepting the offer, we take up to a year and a half to plan the wedding. This won't necessarily happen, but just expect the worst. LOL. Especially if you're looking to marry someone like you who is saving themselves...it'll probably be a religious gal who loves the idea of marriage, etc (I think you know what I mean. LOL, I'm totally that girl. Haha) I really hope that you find someone, but don't rush into any relationships because you will regret it. I don't know what to tell you to fulfill your sexual desires...masturbation? LOL. Whatever works for you though....Good Luck!!  

Answer 2

Please don't get married for like 3 years!  It's not your age, but your attitude that concerns me.  You are going to break some girls heart ... you think it's morally wrong to have s*x before marriage, but it seems that you're willing to get married without much thought to the person/relationship just so you can have s*x.  What's NOT morally wrong about that?!

I love how you mention you want a loving, supportive relationship AFTER you mention your desire for s*x.

I'm sure if you could find some desperate girl that really wants a big ring and to have a fancy wedding to marry you in a heartbeat.  You'll get your s*x, but probably not any of the relationship you talk about.  

You need to NOT think about getting married or finding 'the one' when you are dating/looking for a relationship.  If that's all you're focused on, you will see whatever it is you want in whoever it is you are with at the time.  And that's not the way to get to know a person, especially not well enough to even consider marriage.