I want to get my tubes tied. how do i tell my husband?

Question

I just had a miscarriage and i told him but i talked to my doctor and he said that he don't think i should have any more kids and i agree i am blessed with the two i have but how do i break it to him. Because he asked me if i wanted to try again in like a year but i don't know if i can put myself through it again because you never know what could happen and i don't want to lose another baby please help i am in desperate need of help

Answer 1

tell him that your doctor suggested that you should think about being done with pregnancies and that you agree and don't want to put yourself and husband through all that pain again. having your tubes tied is major surgery...is there a way to have him get the "snip snip?"

Answer 2

I'm so sorry for your loss.  My three pregnancies were such a joy but my husband decided we could not afford more and had a vasectomy.  Each of my daughter's husbands and my son have also.  How would you feel about showing your husband your question here?  He probably will understand your concern.  He may very well have concerns himself that he hasn't expressed.

Answer 3

Considering how complex the human body is, it's a miracle that anyone can be considered "normal". I think that you should speak to another doctor. Get a second opinion.

You are indeed blessed that you have two children but deep in your heart, you will always remember the one that almost was. That is the true mother in you.

If you feel that you cannot bear to have another child raise the ones that you do have with all the love that you can muster. But I believe that nature should be allowed to take it's course and if another child is to be, then let it be.  

Bless you and good luck.

Pat

Answer 4

i know you are in a difficult situation, but you already have 2 kids and when your health is involved i think your husband will understand. loosing a baby is hard, i had twins who where still born and its not something you want anyone to go though. there are many options out there in the future, we are adopting 4 foster children. anyway dont feel bad or not sure, you are protecting your health, mental status and your family. if you have a great husband he will love you and be there for you. good luck and sorry for your loss

Answer 5

I think if you tell your husband the same thing you wrote here today, he'll understand. Communicate and let your feelings out to your husband. I have only 1 child and really don't want anymore kids. My husband doesn't want anymore either. We're happy with just 1 child.

Right now I can't imagine myself pregnant. I understand how you feel. Pregnancy seems like so much work and such a long 9 months!

Answer 6

if you have the slightest doubt in your head about getting them done, DONT. there are other things like IUD's. thats what i did instead of getting mine done. so now im good for 10 years

if you really really dont want more kids then just sit down with your husband and tell him. he should understand.