I want to get over my depression now! how do I do it?

Question

I think i've been depressed for about 3 months now. i was just placed on Wellbutrin a few days ago and have started going to counseling. I feel like crying every day. I've also tried walking to get some exercise and have been eating healthier foods. I know it takes some time for this to resolve but I hate this feeling. I'm usually a happy up beat person but I just don't feel like myself. I recently switched jobs and am adjusting to that. I recently finished grad school a couple of years ago and now I feel like my life is pointless. I've lost touch with my friends. I live with my parents, who have been depending on me financially for the last 8 years or so. I'm trying to save up money to move out but my mother keeps on expecting me to give more. I feel like I have nothing to look forward to and I have no more goals. Maybe I just need to be patient but i want to feel normal again now!

Answer 1

All depressed people go through the same feelings...we want to stop hurting NOW. Unfortunately, you need to let the medicine kick in. Once that happens, you'll feel more in control and up to making the changes needed to feel good without the medicine. Look for group counseling too. It helps to be around others with the same issues that you can work things through with.

Answer 2

it does take time. in the mean time find a hobby, not like bracelet making or something, like going somewhere, taking classes maybe. don't sit around the house all day. set goals. say, "i'm going to got this done today." and think of all you have, how fortunate are you to have a mom and dad and house and life. live each day to the fullest, overused phrase but necessary.  

Answer 3

Try to get in touch with your friends again! You do have goals, everybody has goals, if you are a boy look for a girlfriend and if you are a girl look for a boyfriend, go out, try to distract yourself, save money and try to move out, tell your mother you cant give her more than what you give her, she has to accept it. Come on! Life has no sense if you are always sad

Answer 4

You are very much a goal oriented person.  You are not setting goals,  so you believe you are coasting, as in living with your parents.  I swear you were me in 1991.  I lived at home with my parents.  One day I came home and told them "I found this neat apartment and I was moving out that friday!  Isn't this exciting?"  They were not really excited but they had no choice since I was an old geezer.  Anywhoo, I still couldn't shake them financially, as they were always into my pocket book, but at least I didn't live with them.  Let me ask you this.  Do your parents have any income, like Social Security, etc?  If not, this truly is not your problem, and most likely they can get a job to support themselves, even at Walmart.  If they are truly medically ill, then they can apply for Medicaid and Disability. No two ways about it.  It is either one or the other.  They are too sick to work therefore need to apply for SS or they can work.  

Answer 5

Such feelings are common with depression, but will diminish, with effective treatment, and eventually disappear. There are many things you can do to help treat your depression.

Moderate exercise for at least 20 - 30 minutes, daily, and up to an hour. Brisk walking is good, and try to be mindful of the feeling your foot makes as it hits the ground: it is a relaxation technique. Also use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2.c, 2.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2.q, 2.o, and section 53, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you.

Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it. Also take a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin; a deficiency in vitamin B9 (folic acid, or folate) is known to cause depression. Around 30% - 40% of depressed people have low vitamin B12 levels. Depressed females using the contraceptive pill may benefit from vitamin B6 supplements.

Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain). As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St. John's wort, (the strength varies, but the supplier should be using a standardised hypericin content, so follow the directions) or supplements, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55 at ezy-build ).

Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy. Co-counselling is shown in the first 3 pages of section 2, or online therapy, or even talking with someone you feel comfortable with, and a much more detailed post is on page R.

When well on the road to recovery, see sections 18, and 28, but don't waste your time, now.

Answer 6

Wow! You are going through a lot. Good for you for trying to help yourself. I think all the stuff you're doing is great - therapy, trying meds, and I am a big believer in walking. Also in Vitamin D - my mom is a nutrition nut and is always telling me about how great it is and how it helps with your mood.

I take Cymbalta and I honestly can't remember how long it took to kick in, but it has helped me a lot. It's not that I'm suddenly going around happy and smiling all the time, but it makes me feel normal - I'm not thinking about my mood all the time and how depressed I am.

Don't underestimate what a big deal a new job is. That's a major adjustment. I feel like it takes at least a year, for me at least, to feel at home in a new job. And having your parents depending on your financially is a huge burden. I don't know the details of your situation but I don't think you should feel guilty about having your own place and your own life.

Hang in there - it will get better, I promise!

Answer 7

It sounds like you are under quite a bit of stress. First off, why are your parents dependent on your income? Second, changing jobs is dramatic enough. Are you really happy with what you are doing work wise? Third, we try to do everything in our household preventative- but we are still surrounded by free radicals and tons of toxins. My husband and I just started on something new- I have more mental clarity than ever before. I do have 4 children, a home based business that has nothing to do with nutrition... I am a wife, friend, sister, etc, etc. anyway, email me if you would like some more info. from my friend.

Lynn

Answer 8

I would look into Salvia Divinorum. It's a herb that has a somewhat phsychedelic effect when concentrated, but in it's dry leaf form, it has shown to be a anti-depresser, and it's completely legal. I would definetly look into it, over 50% of people say they have decreased they're depression.

Here's a site that sells it and is completely trusted.

www.herbalfire.com

You would want the dry leaf foliage from that site.

Answer 9

Hey well hang in there!!  You'll make it!!! I don't even know you, but just the fact that you want to be normal makes me think that you're already on the right track.  Just keep going!!    Sometimes just try not to remember that your depressed.  Act like your happy.  Put some fun music on and just relax.  Good luck!