I want to get over this, how do I?

Question

So Since it is the start of a new school year, I want to start fresh. Well sort of anyway. So To understand the question, you need to know that one of my best friends of 2 years was stolen from me by the popular girl in my grade, along with 3 other friends. Before they were offically "stolen" we would all hang out the popular girl (and her group) and my group. The popular girl would ignore me when we all hung out. I don't know why, I'm not a nerd or geek, I have never done anything mean to her, she just pretended as if I wasn't there! So the year went on, slowly, even my friends would leave me out, 3 of my friends and my best friends other best friend were all in the popular girl's class, so I assume at some point in time they told everyone to stop hanging out with me. I know that it had to have been that either that or they noticed that the popular girl didn't like me. I didn't change or anything so yeah.

Anyway, my question is I want to get past that and get my friends back. I really just miss my old best friend! I can tell she misses me too, but one major thing is my best friend's twin is one of the 3 friends I lost, so she couldn't ditch her, i understand that. What should I do? Oh also the popualr girl still dosen't like me. And I am also friends with some of the other people in the orignal popular group, I don't know i that helps... :(

Answer 1

I say just ask her to hang out one on one, then ask her why she left you.  

Answer 2

people who ditch other people and don't stand up for their "best friend" is NOT a good friend. this happened to me too. i hung out with these two girls in elementary school and we'd do nothing but talk every resses when they decided to ditch me. i was sad at first but i realized that i was slowy becoming a jerk when i hung out with them. i'm thankful that they ditched me because i probably would've been a huge slu*t.

my advise to you is to not become friends with people them. make new friends where you can just have fun and not spend time making fun of people or your looks or whatever the popular people do. I'm not fond of popular people and if i had the chance to be one, i'd refuse to be popular  

Answer 3

There is a saying: "It is what it is, no matter what you want it to be." Unfortunately, your best friend is a jerk. You cannot do anything to "win" her back. You need to let her go and make new friends. If you don't, you will continue to be miserable. Girls are mean, and they always look to pick on someone in the group. When you leave, they will choose to pick on someone else. My hope is that you don't have a lot of classes with these girls. Please save yourself some misery and make new friends. Even if your "best friend" misses you, she is still more concerned with her popularity. It is what it is no matter what you want it to be. You cannot force friendships. I am so sorry you are going through this. It is not easy to be left out. The sooner you move on, the sooner you can start to enjoy your school year.

Take care.  

Answer 4

Honestly? She probably does miss you, but that was very bitchy of her to ditch you and hang with some other people. Try spending some time with her, if she continually blows you off, forget her. She isnt a true friend!

Good luck whatever you do (:

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