I want to give baby for adoption, the dad doesn't?

Question

i am 3 months preg and want to give baby up for adoption but the dad says no.we are both in marines and he will be in iraq never seeing child til it is 1.the prob is i have a 3 yr old who's father isnt in the pic and know i can't afford or raise another child.i share custody of my 3yr old due to the my work schedule.my fam doesnt support me w/this baby due to obvious reasons.when i got preg our agreement was since his fam wanted baby and mine didnt they would take care of it while deployed.now he says they wont.i have an adoption attorney but he has to sign over his rights and he wont.he doesnt help me out in any way.he threatens me with court if i dont keep baby.we are still together but we don't live together.i love him but i don't see myself doing this alone while in the military.he doesnt want me to get out because of money.i know when my baby is 4 months i have to go to iraq and i dont have anyone to keep it.i have 6 yrs in military so far.any advice on what i should do?

Answer 1

I  was given up for adoption when I was an infant. It was the most loving and unselfish thing my mother could have ever done for me. I was given such a gift and my life was forever changed. I was able to get a college education and be very successful. My family who adopted me were able to provide me with everything my mother wasn't able to because she was young. The most important thing in adoption is finding a couple who has a strong family, financially secure to offer your child and education and everything else they will ever need, and a house that has love beyond words to give!!!


I always knew I was adopted and every day I am so thankful and feel so blessed for the life she allowed me to have. I can only say that it is a hard thing to do, but I am proof that pure love of a birthmother can open doors for the future for their child.


My husband and I are now in the process of wanting to adopt. We have an amazing life and I want to give back, what was given to me. If I can help you in any way please let me know. I wish you the very best and if you ever want to talk you can contact me [e-mail]

Sincerely,

Kristin