I want to give my child up for adoption. Is it difficult?

Question

We have a 1 and a half year old girl. She was a mistake to be honest. She wasnt planned. I didnt use contraception and wife didnt use birth control

We both have absolutely no love for her whatsoever. I cant explain it but, she means the same to us as anyother kid you see on the streets. We are both career minded and she is just getting in the way. So we thought we should just give her away to someone who cares and would enjoy taking care of her.

We will be seeing a solicitor next week, but wondering if there are any people who have given up for adoption and is procedure difficult.

Answer 1

send her this way m8 ill look after her

Answer 2

God, I hope you are kidding but if not, please give her to a loving couple who will adore her. Thousands of people would love to have her.  Go through a registered agency. Check the phone book, Catholic Charities comes to mind.

Answer 3

If you don't love her give chance someone who will:give her up for adoption.This way you will make her happy:she hopefully will find loving family, someone will have dream come truth:a child, and you and your wife will be able get your life back as you want it.I'm not judging you and I think no one really should.

Answer 4

I'd take her in a second and give her the life she deserves!

Answer 5

If you are for real, My husband and I are looking for a child to adopt. We already have a 2 1/2 year old girl and would like another. If you are not joking....PLEASE CONTACT ME VIA E-MAIL [e-mail]  I would be SO HAPPY to take in your baby girl.

PLEASE CONSIDER US!

Answer 6

Tie a big red bow around her neck and take her to Wal-Mart parking lot in a big cardboard box. Have her shot records, and baby pictures handy.

You'll get rid of her in 30 seconds FLAT.

Is she house-broken? Leash-trained? Quiet?

Piece a cake.

I hope you are joking, but if you are not, I can't imagine any career that compares to seeing your own flesh-and -blood put her sticky arms around your neck, and say "I wub you, Daddy."

She deserves parents who love her, and you deserve to have successful careers (and not much else.)

Answer 7

Nice. My husband and I have been trying for 3 years now and have both gone through surgeries and still nothing. We are on our second round of clomid and yet you and your selfish wife have no love for your own child??? OMG WE WILL TAKE HER!!! It should be hard to give up your child but in your case I dont think you will bat an eye. You need to be sterilized!!! and never aloud to have a child!!!

Answer 8

I feel sorry for the situation for your daughter and yourselves.

If this is genuine the adoption process can be as easy or as hard as you want.  It depends on if you would like to have some form of contact to see her growing up or pass total rights up.

There are many people out there like myself who don't have the ability to have children themselves naturally and would jump at the chance of adopting a child.  There are not many people willing to give a child up for adoption and if yo did do this you would be giving the chance of a baby to a couple who would never be able to have one naturally.

If you do this i tink you are very brave.

Answer 9

This is a wind up question, right?

Answer 10

It's not too late for your child to have a loving home. I agree with the aforementioned suggestion to call Catholic Charities. Explain to them that you need your daughter to go to a loving home and that you are both willing to reliquish all parental rights. Because of your daughter's age, you should be able to find a family quickly. If you have trouble finding a family, write to me. My husband and I will take her, and Catholic Social Services will help us work out the adoption with you (I know the director and the bishop personally). My husband was adopted himself. We have three kids, ages 7.5, 4.5 and 3 who are begging for a new sibling, we own our own home and one of us stays home with the kids.

I do think you should first find a couple who has no kids but really wants to be parents, because they would be so blessed by this little girl, but if you literally can't, we will certainly love your child and raise her well.

Answer 11

If thats how you AND your wife really do feel , pls give her to ppl who will love her. Every child needs to be hugged and kissed. Let her be loved and cared for by other ppl who can.

And also please be sure to use contraception from now on...

Do you mean difficult as in time consuming or emotionally????

Answer 12

You make me sick it took you over a year to think about giving her up for adoption!  You need help

I hope you just made up this question because your bored or something

Answer 13

Hiya hun,

I can kind of relate to you, when my first daughter was 2, we decided to have another child, I didn't bond with her while I was pregnant, the labour was very hard and after was even worse, I threw myself at been a mum to my eldest and treated the baby like a job that I hated but needed to be done.  I'd only pick her up if she needed feeding or changing.  I went back to work as quickly as possible to try to forget about her.

No-one picked up on my feelings, until she was 14 months old when I'd decided I'd had enough.  I contacted an adoption agency, I told them I wanted rid of her.  

They contacted my health visitor, and surestart who pushed me to see my GP.  I was diagnosed with severe post natal depression and things started to make sense.  I found the help and support I needed to help me with her, and now 7 months on I have two wonderful daughters, who I love and adore and luckily my daughter isn't showing any ill effects from my illness.

I know your wife probably doesn't have PND but I know the feelings of a child ruining your life.  Please think carefully, I cry at the thought of not having my baby with me now, and to think I could so easily have not been able to bring her up if someone hadn't got involved.

If you truly feel adoption is the right thing for you, your wife and more importantly your daughter, then do it.  I'm sure if the procedure is going to take a while, social services would be able to provide some form of foster care for your daughter.

I wish you all the luck in the world.

xxxxx

Answer 14

HI There! I would " LOVE " to adopt your little girl ---  !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I pray it is not too late. I love children and three children of my own. The youngest (now 18 ) I adopted when he was 8 months old. PLEASE----consider me as a candicate to be your child's mother. I would give her lots of love and nurtuing. She would have lots of family who would love her and be a suport system for her. We are a christian family with big open hearts. I have refferences. Please consider me--As I pray I will hear from you soon. When you get back to me I will give you my telephone NO. GOD BLESS.  I was also adopted when I was 2 years old, and came into a wonderful family.  PoohBear47

Answer 15

YOU ARE SICK IN THE BRAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!... PERIOD

a child is not somthing that you put on the side and leave. I cried just reading your story. You need help

Answer 16

I have mixed feelings about your question.  

I'm glad to see you looking for a new home for her, and realizing that you are incapable of being a parent.  Contact an adoption agency that is licensed in your state. Regardless of whether or not you feel you love this child, you owe it to her to be responsible about her care.

Answer 17

Dear Parent,

Hello, my name is Rebecca. My husband and I are unable to have children of our own and we are hoping to adopt. Please take a look at www.lifetimeadoption.com. We are using this service to adopt and there are many families just like us that would love to adopt, your child. It is very easy just call their birthparent 1-800 number on their website, and they will send you more information about any of the families you are interested in. If you would like to know more about us please visit our websie at http://www.lifetimeadoption.com/for_birt...

You are facing a very tough decision, you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Sincerely,

Rebecca

Answer 18

Personally, I don't underdstand where you are coming from. You probaly have a good reason for not really wanting your child. Mabe based on your bringing up or what not. I have never had anything to do with adoption, but I am looking into it right now. So in my research, I see that adoption is usually in the best interest for the child. If you can't love her like she needs, you should give her to someone who can. I thank you for taking the childs interest in mind. It would be selfish to keep her not loving her. There are lots of people out there like me that can no longer have children or never could, praying a chilkd will fall in thier arms. Good luck to you and the baby.

Answer 19

I wasn't planned either but my parents took the time out for me. I'm now 14 and a straight "A" student. So, you should do the same...take the time out for your daughter. By the way, you must've thought about keeping your daughter because you've waited a year and a half just to start up an adoption process. Admit it....you're going to miss your daughter a lot when you "get rid of her". Also, you'll never have another daughter like your first.

Answer 20

I cant understand for one minute how you are feeling. I am a mother myself and the thought of being without  my daughter would destroy me. You have obviously given this a lot of thought , its really strange you feel nothing for your daughter. Was it a bad birth or did things go wrong in the months up to her arrival. I am so sorry you feel this way. You probably all ready been through the counselling stage and know that this is what is best for you all. It works for millions of familys each year. Please dont be down on yourself, you must love your daughter to some degree to be wanting her to be cared for. Goodluck to te 3 of you, hope you dont live with regrets for the rest of your lives. My heart goes out to your daughter x x

Answer 21

I can understand the amazement of my fellow answerers, but I can also empathise with you. I am an adoptee and am eternally grateful for my adoptive parents and my life as a result of my adoption. I would not be the successful and relatively content person that I am today....in fact I would have been much worse off. However you must take into consideration  that how you feel now, about your daughter, is not how you may feel in 20 or 30 years time. I do feel that she would be better off with a loving family, but you must also prepare yourself that one day she may want to trace you and what will you tell her?I am hoping that you would be honest but not as directly or selfishly as you have been on here.

You should contact your local social services and thank your lucky stars that neither yours or your wife's parents felt the same way you and your wife are feeling, when you were children.

Answer 22

look really you know how many people want a baby...myself personally..i cant have babies...if you want please get intouch with me my email is [e-mail]..i would take your little girl and she would be loved alot...

Answer 23

God, it breaks my heart to read your email. That little girl deserves so much better than your heartless self.  Contact an agency immediately. They have parents that have been waiting for months, possibly years to be Parents.  

My suggestion to you...............Grow the heck up, and look up this word in the dictionary............Unconditional Love..........although, it probably will not make a difference to a loveless, heartless, "career minded" person like you. It's not your daughter's fault you were so irresponsible, shame on you.

Answer 24

Selfish bas**ds! I have adopted two girls through no fault of there own you don`t know the heatbreak it causesto them. be a man and shoulder your responsibilities you two made the mistake not the child.

Answer 25

YOU SICK TWISTED WEIRDO! THERES PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD WHO CANT HAVE THEIR OWN KIDS AND WOULD LOVE THEM! I LOST A KID BEFORE! YOU SHOULD NOT BE ALLOWED TO CONCEIVE AT ALL! YOUR PROBABLY JUST A KID HAVING A LAUGH BUT ITS NOT RIGHT! YOU SHOULD BOTH BE LOCKED UP AND THE KEY THROWN AWAY OR SOMETHING BECAUSE YOUR DAUGHTER DESERVES BETTER! YOU SAY HOW SHE WAS A MISTAKE AND YOU DONT LOVE HER BUT DID SHE ASK TO BE BORN?? NO!! YOU BOUGHT HER INTO THE WORLD!! THE POOR LITTLE GIRL MUST BE SO MISREABLE TO HAVE NO AFFECTION SHOWN TO HER! WHAT ABOUT OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS? CANT THEY HAVE HER? SHE DESERVES BETTER THAN U AND DONT EVER CALL YOURSELF PARENTS CUZ THATS SOMETHING YOUR NOT WORTHY OF BEING!! SICKO!!

Answer 26

WOW a child is not a puppy you can take to the pound. You have real problems. PLEASE give that child to the nearest loving family ASAP! I feel so sorry for her. You and your selfish wife need to be NEUTERED as soon as possible!!! DO NOT REPRODUCE EVER AGAIN!!!

Answer 27

i wont be rude but i must say as i was reading that i started to feel sick imagining YOUR child never having a kiss or a cuddle never having a mum or dad to play silly games with and make her smile. i think adoption is the very best option for all of you. you get your life back and she gets the love she needs and deserves. remember she didnt ask to be here its you carelesness that she is here and without love. a new family will love her like you couldnt. wish you and rebecca all the best and happines.

Answer 28

Wow, I'm floored by your insensitivity to your daughter. Is this for real???? If you are serious, then contact an adoption agency or attorney ASAP. That little girl need love and attention, it's not fair she has to live in such an unloving, unnurturing home. I had to give my son up for adoption at birth, it's something that broke my heart and I've never gotten over it (still, even though we've been in reunion just over a year)...I loved him VERY much. You get NO money by adoption out a child, none at all. I suggest you look into this tomorrow!

Answer 29

First, I just want to say that my heart aches for your daughter. My husband and I want to adopt a baby girl.  If there is anything we could do to help, please let me know.  Even if it is just advise from a loving mother.  I have two very young boys, but dream of having a daughter to complete our family.  I am so sorry that you and your wife aren't as thrilled as we were about our children.  I respect your honesty.  I just can't help but ask more about Rebecca.....

Answer 30

oh my!! is this a joke question???, why didnt u give the baby up as soon as she was born??  there cant be such heartless people surely!! get urself STERILISED, take that beautiful child to protective services before she interrupts ur evening dinner  SHHMUCK!!

Answer 31

Contact a lawyer and start looking at prospective couples who would want a somewhat older child.  Do it now before you f*****k this poor thing up.  You should have done this when you found out you two selfish a s s holes were pregnant with this poor little baby.

Not hugging or kissing her, h**l, not showing this little girl any affection at all is a form of abuse.  Cut your twig and berries off and get that dog wife of yours spaded.  Keep this from happening again.