I want to go out?But husband doesn want to?

Question

I want to go out with my husband to a club. I want to hang out with fun people and drink and do silly stuff.. My husband has only been drunk 3 times in his whole life...what should I do

We have been togther for 17 years we are 33 and 34 years old

I get so angery because we havent ever really had that sort of fun and the clock is ticking we are only going to get older from here...our days are numbered in the party scene.

Answer 1

You are already too old for the clubbing scene.

Besides why would you want to go out to a club and get drunk? Seriously 90% of the time theres a fight and you can't help but get caught in the crossfire.

Invite a few friends over, play some cards, drink some beer, joke around and laugh a lot.

Answer 2

Maybe he shy to the dance seen?Have you asked him how come he doesn't wanna go out?As far as him getting drunk only 3 times consider yourself  a lucky women. Trust me you do not wanna husband that is always drunk. And my husband and I are 46-44 we still go to clubs and have fun so 33-34 you to are still babies..You have plenty of time..

Answer 3

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Answer 4

The bar and club scene is lame. I say throw a house party and invite friends and family like a get together. You cant make him go out and party like that if he dont want it.

You can dance in the living room with your husband.

I am 25 and I called it lame back when I was like 20 lol. I used to dj and it was nothing but people playing each other doing drugs and getting high. They do have those 30's and up clubs but they are the same lol. I say go to a jazz club or something. You are not missing anything in the clubs believe me. Like what I said throw a house party with your peeps and have fun! Enjoy this weather before fall comes.

I enjoy get togethers better. You can relax and you dont have to worry about some clown coming up to you asking you what are you looking at or you are looking at my girl or you stepped on my shoes and all of that youth bs in the spots. And who wants to hang around drunks. Just look at that one woman who has the missing kid Caylee all over the news. Look at the mother. She was a party girl who had responsibility for her child because she wanted the clubs once more. Or better yet get a Nintendo wii and be happy. You can have fun with the wii

Plus if you was single and had no lover then it would have been alright.

And one last thing. Say you and your husband go and a  fight breaks out and some one swings and hit you in the face on accident, Now your husband will get in to a fight then someone else will hit you husband on gp for just wanting to fight him. I believe when you go clubbing you better be ready to throw down if some one step to you. Again most clubbers are immature in the head. It just depends. If you guys go just be careful.

Answer 5

maybe he doesnt like the clubbing scene.  my man doesnt.  plus its mostly for single people.  why dont u guyz just go out to eat or something bowling movies. bar. anything but not  a meat market.  

Answer 6

Hmmm...sounds like only one of you remembered to grow up...that's a shame.

Answer 7

How about a comedy club? You will both have a good time.  The clubs around here are bad so I never go to them. Fighting and killing that kind of stuff.

We like to invite a few friends over to have a good time we drink play cards, rock band, and just hang out. This is a lot of fun and no one hits on your husband or you.  

Answer 8

Have you tried telling him that? If he is your husband,

then I am pretty sure he should understand where you

are coming from. You can't make him drink but you

could till him you want to try it out a couple times.

Since you were 16... that is crazy?!

Answer 9

Yeah I agree with Janine...I think that's her name?

He should compromise to go with you. He doesn't have to drink if he doesn't want to, just being there for company with you is nice, he is your husband...

Besides you don't HAVE to get DRUNK in order to have a good time so he could just have a few..you as well...

Maybe that's why he doesn't want to because he doesn't like it so he doesn't want to see you drink! Though, that's not very fair because you shouldn't have to sacrifice something you want to do just for fun because he doesn't like it..but I don't know if that's the reason..just try to find out why his soul reason is for not going and go from there! Good luck =]

Answer 10

So what...its just a stupid club. Maybe he thinks and believes there is more to life then being drunk and silly. And believe me, there are no fun people in the clubs....just stupid and silly and pathetic people. If that is what you want to aspire to be, then go yourself.

Your 33 and 34, not 21 and 22...get over it.

If you need to go to a club to have fun, your missing something in your life and marriage.

Answer 11

TRICK HIM!  I know it sounds horrible but he could have a lot of fun and you deserve for him to try something you want to do at least once!  i did it with my hubby and we had a blast it isn't really is thing so we really haven't done it again but it was sooooooo worth it.  he didn't feel that bad bc i put him in a good mood right before and after.  now he tricks me to do his stuff here and there.

i told him if you can act like you aren't horrible depressed for 10mins we'll leave and i think we were there for about 4hrs but i got very lucky and ran into a group of his friends.

Answer 12

Your days for partying are already over. If you feel that strongly about partying when you should be behaving like a mature adult, then you shouldn't even be married to begin with. And so what if your husband has only been drunk three times in his life. Do you somehow think getting and being loaded is a badge of honor? Get real.

Grow up and then consider more age suitable activities. If your husband doesn't want to go out to even those activities, go on your own. You're a grown woman. Act like one.

EDIT:

Far from a prude my dear. I just think that once you hit a certain age, clubbing and getting wasted like it's something to be proud of is just ignorant. I am 27 and drink occasionally but never to get drunk and never to brag about it. Clubbing is lame to begin with and is usually a bunch of drunk whores who put out for anyone and everyone. I live in Las Vegas. I've seen enough of that c**p.

Answer 13

Your days are NEVER numbered in the party scene unless you THINK that way or prefer to hang out with the college crowd.

If he doesn't drink he shouldn't be made to drink.

You should go out on occasion, but not make  habit of it.  Frankly, people who hang out in bars after they are married are usually the ones who end up getting into trouble sooner or later thanks to the booze and "silly" behaviour.

Trust me, I've gone out with with married girlfriends and I don't think I would really be thrilled to have my husband along to witness that.  Frankly, I'm very happy to know he does NOT enjoy hanging out in bars.  

You want trouble in paradise, go ahead and lure your hubby there...but don't be surprised when the ladies start hitting on him and he starts liking it.

The bar scene is about one thing...s*x...and that's all it's about.

Answer 14

My husband and I like to do that too, but I suppose both people would have to enjoy it.  Maybe he could compromise.  You could do that just once in a while, like once every other month and then do something that he likes to do that you aren't so fond of.

Answer 15

I'm 31 and still like to go out and hang out with my friends and my husband at a bar every now and then.  What is wrong with that?  Some of these people here who are saying that you are too old to go out and have fun will probably be doing the same thing when they hit 35 so don't worry about them.  I don't drink but I like to go out and have fun.  If my husband doesn't want to go out and I do he doesn't care.  He TRUST me.  I TRUST him too of course, so I don't care if he wants to go and I don't.  It doesn't happen very often, maybe 2 or 3 times a year, but why not?  I mostly go to shoot pool though.