I want to have a baby but husband doesn't?

Question

What do I do? I really want a baby but he is like being an a*****e. He says he doesn't mind but he is so mean about it and is VERY insensitive.

Answer 1

did you talk about this before getting married?  Counseling may help...good luck!

Answer 2

Probably something you two should have discussed before getting married.  If you feel strongly about having a baby and he doesn't want one, it seems like the relationship wouldn't work.  That's just my opinion.

Answer 3

Most guys are like that they act all tough like they don't care about a baby but once they hold there little girl or boy in there arms they change they suddenly become sweet and over protective of the baby  

Answer 4

Hummmmmm....Mean, insensitive AND an a*****e.....????

OMG....Are you POSITIVE you wanna make babies with THIS guy???

Sounds like the perfect abusive father in the making......

Sure...maybe he will change....but maybe he WON'T.

You can't afford to take a chance on THIS guy. You deserve better.

Good Luck......

Answer 5

Wow, it sounds like maybe you two should seek some counseling.  Try talking to him seriously and telling him that you are hurt by the way he is acting.  If he can't talk about it like a reasonable adult, then something has got to change.  There has to be some reason deep down why he wouldn't want to have a kid.  You do not want to bring a child into a relationship that needs healing.

Answer 6

i wouldnt want to have a baby with him if i were you

Answer 7

and why did you mary him if this was an issue?

try counceling and prepare that the answer may be divorse, do not forse him to have a kid if he dont want to, its better for a kid to have 2 parents who wanted it

Answer 8

OK,

Gas is $4 a gallon, groceries and baby items prices are skyrocketing, houses are being repossessed by the thousands, medical insurances rates are sky rocketing there are predicted food shortages and riots predicted if fuel continues to rise in price

and you want to bring a baby in to this world right now with a man that does not even want a baby in the first place.

You get the I am hormonally selfish award tonight.  

You are just going through some hormonal thing of wanting a kid, you will get over it.

Answer 9

conversations like that in a relationship should take place before a real commitment like marriage. when my husband proposed to me we talked about a lot of different things before i said yes and the fact of having children was one of them. if you don't want the same things then the marriage may not last.

sit down and talk to him and if he really doesn't want kids then you may need to think about you options.

Answer 10

Im so sorry your going thru this. And as someone who was in a bf/gf sort of situation once I say you need to do some serious soul searching and see if you really want to bring a child in to this kind of atmosphere. How does he react around other children. Both older and younger this might give you some kinda of base to go on. If hes kinder to them he might just surprise you and be one heck of a great parent. Or he could do a 360 and be just like he is to you with them and I know no parent wants that for their kids. If this was my husband I would give him a choice" change your ways and lets have a family or I walk and find someone who loves me and wants children as much as I do". Its gonna be hard as heck if this happens but for some its best.

So think about it, bring it up in a few weeks and if he still acts/says the same you have your answer. Good luck to you and best wishes.

Answer 11

rape him in his sleep lol

Answer 12

Wow.  I find that these kinds of issues should be addressed before marriage because they are very important, life-changing decisions. Try to talk to your husband about why he does not want to have a child.  

I am having a similar problem. I have a child, but I want a second so that Celestial will have a sibling and so I can experience having an infant again and because I feel like I need two children. My husband is worried about supporting two children and about the whole love-distribution thing (which I think is silly, but it is a legitimate concern to him!)

Talk to your husband calmly when neither of you are upset or worked up about the situation and try to find a compromise. He may be acting rudely or insensitively to try to make you avoid the issue so he doesn't have to address it. He may not even realize he's doing it. I have noticed a lot of guys (most guys) use this tactic. It's a learned behavior.

Answer 13

isn't having children something that is usually discussed before marriage? if a baby is something you know you really want and he is not on board that is going to cause major issues. and if you get pregnant now he is going to feel trapped. give it a year and see how he feels then. and let him know how important it is to you.  

Answer 14

ok well why do you want to have a baby?  

and why doesn't he want to have a baby?

YOu both need to sit down and have a big discussion on whats going on between the both of you.. If this is something that you really want then you should of made that very clear to him before you got married.  and talked it through.  see what his reasons are and try to make some sort of agreement

Answer 15

Are you sure you want a mean and insensitive man being the father of your child?  Kids have it so hard nowadays anyway let alone putting them in a situation where they are not wanted by one parent and treated poorly.  If you must stay with this man then get a puppy and leave the baby making to people who LOVE and WANT children.