I want to have a baby but im only 16....?

Question

about 3months ago i had a miscarriage...im still not dealing with losing the baby that good!!! some times i feel like just letting go of everything (my life)... i really wanted 2 have the baby,and actually i still want a baby now!!! i dont want to be like other people who will have their first kid when their 20 or over....

so the ? is i want to have a baby now... do you think i shouldnt?? should i wait??? so what do you think???

Answer 1

I got pregnant at 16. I was by myself. It was hard. I dropped school and got 2 jobs. One for daycare and one for us. i never took welfare or support from the father who ran away. it was so Hard. I think you should wait. Till you find a wonder guy who wants a child with you and will be there with you and help you. I think you should finish school and college and live ur life while your young..Then have a baby...

Answer 2

so you have thousands of dollars saved up to take care of this baby?

Please dont have a child when your not even financially ready because myself and the tax payers are getting sick and tired of paying for babies because the parents are dumb.

Answer 3

I had my first at 16, Havent finished school, Not with her father anymore, Im so sorry for your lose, Thats the scariest thing on earth I think to have to go through. I feared that everyday I was pregnant with my daughter. I dont want to tell you what do you but I will say you should only have a baby if you have lots of money, Can drive, Babys need so much

Answer 4

I understand that you are greiving and that a baby seems like it would fix this, but a baby is an enormous responsibility.  So, before you decide to have a baby, ask yourself these questions:

Will the baby's father be there for me? (best answer, yes, I am married)

Do I have enough income to provide for the baby? (a little perspective: a pack of 50 diapers costs $18 - babies go through about 10 diapers per day - do the math)

Will I be able to pay childcare? (about $600 per month or more)

Am I planning to go to college? (this is much harder once you have baby)

Good luck with your decision.  Personally, I'd wait til you are educated and married

Answer 5

you should WAIT!!!!

get a hold of yourself!

your still a minor..

Answer 6

You're still a child at 16.  Children don't have babies, let alone have s*x.

Naturally you should wait.  Finish school, get an education.  Get a job, find a husband.  Then discuss having a baby.

I'm sorry about your loss.  I've had a miscarriage myself, I know the pain.

That being said... you're not ready to have a child.  You are still a child yourself, like I said before.  Having a baby means sleepless nights.  No, you can't ask Mom and Dad to help.  Having a baby means not going out every weekend.  No, you can't ask Mom and Dad to babysit.  

Let's say you have a baby who is need of surgeries.  You are in no way ready to handle that sort of thing.  My daughter was born with a cleft lip/palate, we found out about it during one of my ultrasounds.  She's almost 6 years old, but has had 7 surgeries so far before the age of 5.  There are many more surgeries to endure.

I was 34 when I had her... I'm now 40.  My husband is 47.  It's hard for US to go through surgeries with her.  Imagine how much harder it would be for you, a child.

Wait.  When you and your husband are ready, it will happen.

Answer 7

I had my first child at 16....if I could do it all over again I would have waited. When you have a baby that young you lose your social life, guys try to stay away from anyone that has a baby, and it's harder to get anywhere in life....not only that you will never have money for cute clothes, haircuts, etc. etc. Not like you're going to listen anyways....teenagers are stubborn and everything goes in one ear and out the other. You'll ultimately get pregnant on purpose, ruin some poor guys life, and raise the child in an unstable environment.....I feel bad for your future child.

Answer 8

Yeah... I think so. I want to wear Depends and c**p myself, but I'm only 30 and I still have control of my bowels. Darn it.. it sounds like such a good thing to do.

Get real kid.

Answer 9

i'm 16 too and I had a miscarriage in january..I saw it as a sign that I shouldn't have a baby.and that it wasn't meant for me to have one especially at this time. since then I have gotten on birth control and started using condoms with my boyfriend. I don't think you should have a baby either just look at the statistics man we're not ready

Answer 10

You dont want to have kids after 20? What are you kidding me? those are the best years of your life. You only think you want a baby because you are not thinking straight! YOu are still in school therefore cant have a full time job to support the baby. Where are you going to live? Do you plan on living with your parents forever? How will you stay in school if you cant sleep and care for your baby and also work to support it. Its no that easy. I think its best that you wait. I am 20 and i still dont see myself with a baby. I have college tuition, and credit cards and car notes. I want to wait because i want to be able to afford a house and for my partner and i to raise the baby together. I just think that you should wait. But if you dont good luck and make your baby the first thing.

Answer 11

You are only 16, you should to wait. There is so much to life that you will miss out on by having a baby so young. I had my first one at 19 and still missed out on a lot. I wouldn't trade my children for the world, but you have so much life ahead of you that if would be in your best interest to wait. Children make work, going to school, and daily life difficult. Please wait. You will not regret it. If you want to be around children right now, try getting a job in a daycare working with infants. It will show you how much work it is to have a child.

Answer 12

at 47, having had a baby @ 16 (he is 31 now) I say stop having s*x, wait, get your education......and then have a baby, after youhave MATURED. I thought I was mature....I was not, not by any stretch of the imagination. What I would not give to be able to turn back the hands of time. I am now, after raising my kids, back in college......trying ot boost my educationn, so I canmake more momey.....so I can retire. all my young years, when I should have been haing fun, going to school, working and making money.....I was raising kids. do not repeat the same minstake I made. GO TO SCHOOL, get an education.....then  have kids. Enjoy being young while oyu are young. You wil never regret it.

Answer 13

I think you should give yourself time to heal emotionally before you jump into having another baby.....take this time for yourself....16 is quite young to have a child...enjoy your life before you bring a baby into the world....

Answer 14

sweetie, sweetie sweetie omg

i cant belive ur thinking of having a baby at ur age, like seriously a baby is alot of hard work!!!

ive had a miscarriage when i was 19 and wich was not planned 2 have a baby then at 21 i had my son wich was not planned also and i love him so much dont get me wrong id never give him back when my son was 2 yrs old the father wanted another child so my lil girl was planned, and as much as i thought everything was going right and i was very much in love with him he annouced me that he was leaving us. my lil girl was only 7 days old... i raise them on my own now he doesnt want nothing 2 do with them... and as i was saying kids are alot alot alot of hard work even if u think u have it all planned out, its impossible, u cant plan with kids... life is short and my suggestion 2 u is 2 wait til ur graduated go 2 college then think about having kids:)

my mom always told me that u should want 2 give ur kids more than what u got xD

i did went 2 college when my son was 6 months old and i graduated wich im proud of myself but trust me when i say IT WAS HARD and its still is so think more than twice b4 going thru with this