I want to have a baby with my husband..?

Question

my husband and i have been married for 6 months and we have been talking about having a little girl... but im not sure if its too soon , did i forget to mention i have a 4 year old from a prior relationship... so is it too soon for us to have a baby? he has none of his own..

Answer 1

The bottom line is, it is your decision. If you feel that it is too soon, (which you probably do or you wouldn't be asking) then don't do it. Being married is a big adjustment, especially if you didn't live together prior to marriage. You two should take time to adjust to and enjoy each other first. Have you first anniversary first. If he will agree to that then maybe that would be better.

Answer 2

u need to discuss this w/ ur husband becuase u have to value his imput as well. he may not want to have children. if he doesnt want to have children that's his right and that's his choice. it takes two to have children. its not fair to him to have children when he doesnt want any.how do u feel about that? this is something u should've discussed before tieing the knot!!!

solution

u got 2 choices. if u two agree and if this is something that u BOTH  want to do, u need to wait to have children. u need to spend as much time as u can as a newly married couple so that when the baby comes u are ready to have an addition to the family.

or

if u sit down w/ ur husband and he says no way to childrenor if he asks u to wait an indefinite amount of time until he is ready. accept and respect his wishes. it would be very wrong of u to have children when he doesnt want them and then he will esent u and the child. if that is the case u need to divorce. having children is biggest dealbreaker there is. u both need to be on the same page 100%.

Answer 3

Personally speaking, if I could do it all over again as an "aspiring mother-to-be" I would've waited at least three years. Why wait that long? For the simple fact that when you do start to have your own little ones together, you lose all hope of having ample quality time as a married couple without the kids. The more kids you have, the less time you two will have together.

I am on my second (and last) marriage and have two kids from a relationship that tragically ended in death. When my first and I got together, we didn't waste any time in getting pregnant. It was basically instantaneous ~ well, almost. It was always, baby this and baby that. No time for quality time together, just the two of us. We both loved our kids dearly but never had that time alone.

My current and I cannot have children, he was fixed during his first marriage. He has three with the previous wife and they're all grown. My two are a teen and pre teen.

I would say wait. Wait so that you can indulge in time together, even with the one that you've already got. Once you've decided you're completely ready, have that baby, whether it be a boy or girl. Just hope for a healthy one.

Good luck.

Answer 4

That's entirely up to you and your husband.

Nobody can tell you when its the right time for you to have a baby.

Answer 5

To have a baby with your husband, you have to do what every other woman has done to have a baby. They get %^&*# by their husband.

Answer 6

If you're married, that's the best person to father your child.  But you can't predict that it will be a girl - how silly.  And this is something that you should discuss with your husband - why are you putting this terribly personal question on here?

Answer 7

Babies are wonderful!! I'm sure the baby won't mind!!

Just I hope you and he are solid enough. Having a child, you know already how draining they can be. Will he understand this?

Answer 8

If you BOTH want a baby then it's the right time.

So long as everything is good in your relationship.

Good luck abd hopefully - congrats.

Answer 9

If you and him want a new baby girl then by all means go for it!!!